Misdirected Email

[Tasha]

There is one more issue with this whole scenario. She tells someone. That someone tells someone. Word gets around ya know and it could affect a business.
She should not be let off the hook for this, and I'm so glad you called her on it. She sounds like someone who feels entitled and needs to realize different rules for different places.
Anyone wanna make bets someone else drops off today? Or Tasha gets a call 'dcg won't be in'.
And yes, NoMoreJuice, I expressed that exact thought earlier that maybe it could have been an intentional slip. Maybe I've become too paranoid in my old age.

Ding Ding! You called it! We have a winner!
DCD called and said DCB was ''running a temperature'' and wouldn't be in today. This is a family who never keeps their kid home, so I'm sure she's looking for other arrangements.

[lovemykidstoo]

Ding Ding! You called it! We have a winner!
DCD called and said DCB was ''running a temperature'' and wouldn't be in today. This is a family who never keeps their kid home, so I'm sure she's looking for other arrangements.

LOL She's probably busy changing her pants because she probably lost it when she read your email. Hahaha! To have dad call, that's funny. What did you say in your email?

[Blackcat31]

Ding Ding! You called it! We have a winner!
DCD called and said DCB was ''running a temperature'' and wouldn't be in today. This is a family who never keeps their kid home, so I'm sure she's looking for other arrangements.

Is she paid up through or to a certain day/date?

I'd still be tempted to contact DCM (via text or however) and say/ask "Did you get my reply to your e-mail yesterday?"

Then wait................ and let her deal with how to reply or what to say in reply. ::

I dont think I could just sit and wait each day for the other shoe to drop...kwim? DCB could be out "sick" today and all the way through next week or whenever they find new care.....Since you did reply to her e-mail, I'd want the ball to start rolling now.

[Tasha]

I guess I'm the odd man out.

I don't think you're the odd man out. It's hard to explain, but I really don't care what she thinks of me. That's not the issue. She is very, very nice to my face, but that letter was just toxic. Her hypocrisy is staggering.
At any rate, it was clear to me that that was not the first time she has called me a BOW. I'm wondering, too, if she subconsciously wanted me to read that email. Freud also said, ''There are no accidents.'' I believe that.

[Snowmom]

Oh boy! Hope it turns out ok!

On the topic of letting it slide:
I completely get venting. I do it a lot!
I think people are ridiculously stupid to do it with vulgar language on the internet... in writing... especially not checking WHO they're sending it to.
That says a lot about their character to me and I'm not willing to do business with someone who publicly voices that kind of opinion about me.
In this particular instance, OP had no idea the topics of DCM's email were even an issue. If dcm is willing to "vent" like this over something trivial, what happens if something BIGGER happens, like dck injuring themselves?

[Tasha]

Is she paid up through or to a certain day/date?

I'd still be tempted to contact DCM (via text or however) and say/ask "Did you get my reply to your e-mail yesterday?"

Then wait................ and let her deal with how to reply or what to say in reply. ::

I dont think I could just sit and wait each day for the other shoe to drop...kwim? DCB could be out "sick" today and all the way through next week or whenever they find new care.....Since you did reply to her e-mail, I'd want the ball to start rolling now.

She beat me to it. She just wrote me and asked if she could come by after work to talk to me. I said yes, but it has to be after all the kids have been picked up. I have a small wait-list so I know she's easily replaced, so I'm not worried about that. She is paid through Friday.

[Blackcat31]

She beat me to it. She just wrote me and asked if she could come by after work to talk to me. I said yes, but it has to be after all the kids have been picked up. I have a small wait-list so I know she's easily replaced, so I'm not worried about that. She is paid through Friday.

Well now... I wonder what her "temperament" is....

Is she the blame type parent (this will somehow all be YOUR fault)?

or

Is she the humble, "I am so sorry" type parent..."I was having a bad day and blah blah blah"

or

Is she a stand by her actions type parent?

Either way, now we are all waiting on pins and needles to see what she is going to say tonight.

Will your actions depend on hers or are you still going to terminate care?

I let A LOT of things slide because I just don't really care what someone thinks sometimes but like I said to you previously I am a fiercely loyal and honest person when in a relationship (working or personal) and the first time I think or feel someone is being less than honest or two faced towards me, I'm out.

Just like letting things roll off our backs... you ALSO get to choose what type of behaviors and what types of people you allow in your life and sometimes some people just aren't worth it. Money-wise and/or stress-wise

Keep us updated as to what happens.

NO matter what you decide to do, we got your back! happyface

[lovemykidstoo]

She beat me to it. She just wrote me and asked if she could come by after work to talk to me. I said yes, but it has to be after all the kids have been picked up. I have a small wait-list so I know she's easily replaced, so I'm not worried about that. She is paid through Friday.

Oh boy and the fun begins. I wish you the best of luck. Like BC said, we got ya girl!!! Hopefully she's coming over to beg forgiveness!

[KIDZRMYBIZ]

Wow, what a story!

OP, I think you did the perfect thing, emailing back that you didn't think that was meant for you. It gives her the chance to apologize, which is what is totally in order. IMO, this would not have to ruin the business relationship...I see it as DCM just venting and projecting her own inadequacies onto you. It is up to her if SHE can get over it or not and move on.

What I want to know, OP, is why in the world are your DCFs hanging around this forum? I can't imagine having so much time on my hands that I would want to read forums about, say, my dog groomer venting about the ins and outs of her job. :confused:

[My3cents]

my take on this

I guess I'm the odd man out.

no your not....I feel the same.

Depending on the build up of this....on the day.....on what is going on in my own life... would determine how I would react.

I needed this thread...... and what I got the most out of this...... The parent's don't have to like me all the time. (I do know this but we tend to forget) Sometimes I have to tell them stuff that just doesn't set well at the moment for them in the scheme of their own lives and the facets that they bring to the table. It is inconvenient. No matter if this was said on purpose to you, or is a way for the mom to end care. No matter what and how it got to be..... How you handle yourself will say a lot- Realizing others vent too and or don't share the same level of communication or way of doing things will humble you. Not to a liked humble but one of understanding to get through this. It will sit in the back of your head no matter what you do- I wish you the best-

[Unregistered]

Thinking she can't detest you too much if she keeps bringing her child back to you each day. What parent would leave their child with someone they truly felt was a BOW. It is more a struggle that you will not bend to all that she wants. If the service you offer is no longer a good fit for her, then maybe alternate care would be best.

I would have a hard time if I knew this is how she was talking about me to others. Word spreads, and it could be detrimental to business.

Sigh, if you were such a BOW why did you open for the day for just her. If she truly appreciated that she would have shown up on time.

[Blackcat31]

What I want to know, OP, is why in the world are your DCFs hanging around this forum?

Almost all my daycare parents have been on this board at one time or another. I have one that is a regular poster.

My licensor is a registered user too!

NOTHING beats "education" for a parent (or anyone for that matter) than reading experiences from those on the "other side" of that profession.

[midaycare]

Almost all my daycare parents have been on this board at one time or another. I have one that is a regular poster.

My licensor is a registered user too!

NOTHING beats "education" for a parent (or anyone for that matter) than reading experiences from those on the "other side" of that profession.

None of my dcf's have the time or inclination. I think they are happy, so no reason to go "looking". Still...never know I guess!

[Laurel]

I think she is going to come by and apologize profusely and maybe even bring you a "I'm sorry" token gift.

[Blackcat31]

None of my dcf's have the time or inclination. I think they are happy, so no reason to go "looking". Still...never know I guess!

This board is a GREAT resource for providers and for parents.

I encourage my parents to use this forum as a resource.

My encouragement to use it has nothing to do with their happiness or unhappiness... not sure what that means. :confused: