Misdirected Email

[mommyneedsadayoff]

She came in and it was business as usual. I said nothing about the email, and it was obvious to me that she didn't know that she sent it to me. I understand what you're saying about not letting it get under my skin, but I really am nice to her! And to read that she calls me the ''b'' word, and that she thinks I'm smug just sends me reeling! And honestly, it hurts my feelings, too. I knew she was a little miffed about the late fee, but not to this extent. I would never know her feelings had she not sent me that email. Now I don't know what I'm going to do. I'm not sure if I'm blowing this out of proportion, but I really don't want to see her face ever again.

I think if it bugging you and you don't want to work with her anymore (and you have plenty of reason not to), then you should end your arrangement. It will just eat you up. You can bring up the email or just say "it's not working out..." and call it a day. Myself, I would reply to the email and say BOW has had enough of your attitude and is not sorry for enforcing policies I expect every parent to follow, so as of XX date, our care relationship is terminated. Have a great night and good luck in your childcare search!

[Josiegirl]

Myself, I would reply to the email and say BOW has had enough of your attitude and is not sorry for enforcing policies I expect every parent to follow, so as of XX date, our care relationship is terminated. Have a great night and good luck in your childcare search!

This!!
Tasha, I'm with you. To see this woman at my door, in my house, after such disrespect would take a better woman than I am. I couldn't do it.
Can you afford to let her go without an immediate replacement? Also, you probably already do but I'd make sure if you have to give her 2 week notice, you get paid ahead of time.

[lovemydaycare0912]

I would meet her at the door wearing roller skates and a big smile

Hahahaha :::::::: Thanks for the laugh.

OP; I understand how you feel because I would be pissed if I read that myself. Would you be able to look for someone to replace her? I feel like her still being a dcm of yours would create tension for you everytime you see her. Best of luck.

[knoxmomof2]

She came in and it was business as usual. I said nothing about the email, and it was obvious to me that she didn't know that she sent it to me. I understand what you're saying about not letting it get under my skin, but I really am nice to her! And to read that she calls me the ''b'' word, and that she thinks I'm smug just sends me reeling! And honestly, it hurts my feelings, too. I knew she was a little miffed about the late fee, but not to this extent. I would never know her feelings had she not sent me that email. Now I don't know what I'm going to do. I'm not sure if I'm blowing this out of proportion, but I really don't want to see her face ever again.

DH has been in customer service for a very long time. One time after I vented about a situation, he told me "just remember, they are the customer. It is not their job to worry about you." It sounds cold and detached, but it's the truth. It has helped me to at least not take so many things personally. I still get irritated, I still vent.. but it's not from a place of feeling betrayed anymore.

Obviously we do expect them to follow our policies and such, but beyond that they owe us nothing- except our fees.

[mamamanda]

Oops, sorry As usual, I sit here clueless.

Don't feel bad. I was wondering as well

[sharlan]

I would reply to the email. "Thank you for your concerns."

[Ariana]

Wow I am so sorry she is such a b----

I would term her in a heartbeat. To call the person taking care of their child a BOW is crossing a very big line and if she thought so little of me she can go elsewhere.

[Cat Herder]

Don't feel bad. I was wondering as well

Man I feel old. It is sort of celebratory and very much a warning cry anthem. Never heard of Snoop Dog? really?

[Tasha]

Wow I am so sorry she is such a b----

I would term her in a heartbeat. To call the person taking care of their child a BOW is crossing a very big line and if she thought so little of me she can go elsewhere.

After reading about the content of the email, does everybody
agree that Blackcat is right and BOW really means ''B---- on Wheels"? Because this is what is tripping me up. I can live with someone grousing about being charged a late fee, or even about a diaper policy (but still can't figure out the pacifier problem). But it makes my blood boil that she has that nickname for me. And, to be honest, that she called me smug. She is nice to my face, and it's scary that I had no idea the depth of her anger.

[Ariana]

Yes it is definitely something derogatory. Beautiful Old Women (or something better using the acronym) just doesn't make sense

[Michael]

You shouldn't take it personally. It wasn't meant for you. She was letting off steam. Its more about the money that she needed, IMO.

The Acronyms page grew by one today. https://www.daycare.com/forum/showthread.php?t=31167

[Tasha]

Yes it is definitely something derogatory. Beautiful Old Women (or something better using the acronym) just doesn't make sense

Oh, I definitely know it's something derogatory. The
tone of the whole email was nasty.
Just wanted to see if we're all in agreement that it means
B on wheels. I did Google, and found nothing. I have a
question, though: If you do charge a late fee, how much
would you charge for 7 mins late?

[lovemykidstoo]

After reading about the content of the email, does everybody
agree that Blackcat is right and BOW really means ''B---- on Wheels"? Because this is what is tripping me up. I can live with someone grousing about being charged a late fee, or even about a diaper policy (but still can't figure out the pacifier problem). But it makes my blood boil that she has that nickname for me. And, to be honest, that she called me smug. She is nice to my face, and it's scary that I had no idea the depth of her anger.

Yup that's what it means. Next time you see her just say "hey, by the way, do you happen to know what BOW stands for? I saw it in an email and can't figure out what it means". Watch her fall on her face. happyface

[Tasha]

You shouldn't take it personally. It wasn't meant for you. She was letting off steam. Its more about the money that she needed, IMO.

The Acronyms page grew by one today. https://www.daycare.com/forum/showthread.php?t=31167

Haha! That makes me laugh. Glad I could contribute to
the list!

[Ariana]

Oh, I definitely know it's something derogatory. The
tone of the whole email was nasty.
Just wanted to see if we're all in agreement that it means
B on wheels. I did Google, and found nothing. I have a
question, though: If you do charge a late fee, how much
would you charge for 7 mins late?

My policy is up to first 15 minutes are free. 16 minutes is $16 and then $1 per minute after that.