GoFundMe?

[Thriftylady]

Just curious--honest question. If you stay full with a waiting list, why not go up a little on your rate, and start putting the extra aside for your own place?

This is you are having no issues staying full, you will likely still be full if you raise your rates.

[Thriftylady]

I'm a member of a fb group for buying/selling items locally. Lately people have been posting lots of gofundme requests. Some, I don't have an issue with...family needs help with traveling to cancer treatments, etc. But it is getting way out of hand. A college student asked for money to help buy textbooks. A young lady wanted help buying a car because hers broke down. Sorry, no. And it's not just a matter of me not wanting to donate to them. I think it's downright tacky to ask.

I wouldn't go into toys r us, and start asking people to buy toys and equipment for me to start up a daycare. How different is that, really?

I think part of the problem is that 'wants' have turned into 'needs'. Most of the things we have, we don't actually NEED--but we've convinced ourselves we do. People used to walk if they didn't have a car, live without a cell phone, etc.

Having a DD who is taking college classes right now I wouldn't have an issue helping pay for textbooks for college if I was going to give money. But I would want to give it to the bookstore or wherever the books would be purchased if I didn't know the person. Luckily for us, DD's classes and books are paid for the next two years in our HS/college dual credit program. That is saving us a ton. Some of these books are several hundred dollars. she has to turn hers back in when she is done so they care resell them as used, but I have no problems with that either.

[Unregistered]

When it's for medical bills etc. I would only donate to the facility itself. I've seen too many take advantage, and profit so there needs to be changes or more monitoring.

Gofundme and the like should only be for emergencies, medical, disasters, etc. We had one lady we knew who was on there 2 years in a row, 2nd year she complained her kids couldn't go to sports camp, and amazingly she got 9k. Funny after that I saw her road trip to the pacific coast on FB...not a bright move.

A baby passed in N.Y. due to SIDS and they raised almost 70k...tragic but I am skeptical that the medical bills came to that.

You choose to have a family, sorry you should be footing that bill unless major medical complications occur. Imo it's gotten out of hand.

[Rockgirl]

When it's for medical bills etc. I would only donate to the facility itself. I've seen too many take advantage, and profit so there needs to be changes or more monitoring.

Gofundme and the like should only be for emergencies, medical, disasters, etc. We had one lady we knew who was on there 2 years in a row, 2nd year she complained her kids couldn't go to sports camp, and amazingly she got 9k. Funny after that I saw her road trip to the pacific coast on FB...not a bright move.

A baby passed in N.Y. due to SIDS and they raised almost 70k...tragic but I am skeptical that the medical bills came to that.

You choose to have a family, sorry you should be footing that bill unless major medical complications occur. Imo it's gotten out of hand.

I agree that is has gotten way out of hand. In the fb group I mentioned, posters were responding to the college student wanting textbook money, "Get a student loan like the rest of us!"

When we were young with small children, we sold some things we'd have preferred to hold onto, like dh's bass guitar and amp. Also a cd collection we loved. It's just life.