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I am so sorry she won't leave you alone
Hopefully she will take the hint and move on!
Hopefully she will take the hint and move on!
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If you've already arranged for returning her deposit, you could email her, stating there is nothing else to be discussed, and please stop calling.Comment
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Wow
I'm dying to know why she keeps calling.
Somebody probably told her you HAVE to take the kid so she's calling to tell you she will sue you if you don't.
She probably wants more details on the kid you have that must have peanut products. She has most likely been told that there is no such thing.
Sheesh she was going to start next Monday. She should be looking for a daycare.Comment
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She is just calling to bully you. I dont know why she would want to have her child at a place where they cant and dont want to accommodate her/her child/the allergy. Some people just dont want to stop and keep shoving in. I would also guess that she has or is now having a hard time getting someone to agree to take her daughter with the allergy. The only thing she knows to do is to bully you into keeping the original agreement. Anyway, I still dont understand parents that just keep being confrontational. Is that really how they want to start off with the person that is caring for their child????
or she might just be one of those people that just HAVE to get the last word/threat/etc in. She wants to be the one that says no to you, not the other way around.Comment
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She hasn't left a message these last 3x? Definitely wants the last word and/or to threaten you now. Crazy woman. Wonder what her dh is thinking about all this.
I can't remember if you've called licensing to see what laws might apply here? I would think, even if it's covered in ADA, you'd be protected if you cannot accommodate their needs. And when a parent pushes the envelope this far, it's more about control than anything.Comment
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Blackcat, I sometimes use peanut butter when my blood sugar goes low due to my meds. And the rest of my family just likes it. I merely tolerate it, because before I was diabetic I was hypoglycemic. I have used so darn much of it that it almost turns me off now. I have an upcoming doctors appt. So if I was going to ask the doctor to write something up, what would I want it to say?Comment
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I can understand why a doctor would write this for a toddler with diabetes, as they are notoriously picky and if they have hypoglycemia, then it is a good snack, but there are alternatives for adults (soy butter, sunbutter, etc.), so I would be surprised if your physician actually writes such a note for a grown woman. I think is also makes a difference if you are a Type 1 diabetic (make no insulin at all, as most young children with diabetes are) versus if you are type 2 diabetic. That being said, as a HOME daycare, I do not think you need to be nut free and do not think you need a note. If you feel you cannot safely accommodate a serious allergy, as a sole provider in a business run out of your own home, that should be enough.Comment
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The actually suggest peanuts/peanut butter because it is fast acting and being a protein it helps keep the blood sugar level. It really has nothing to do with the insulin, it has more to do with the fact that insulin and other diabetes meds lower the blood sugar. That is what you are counter acting when you eat the peanut M$Ms, the peanut butter cup, the peanut butter crackers (what I usually use). Top that with the fact that my hubby and daughter just won't live in a peanut free home, and I would like to cover my basis. BC's husband actually uses the peanut M&M's it has nothing do to with age.Comment
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I don't agree that anyone at any age should be expected to try alternatives.
Here's the dealio... when you have a serious illness you do WHAT WORKS. What works may change over time but you shouldn't have to embark on a journey to find alternatives when what works is already in place.
One person's special needs doesn't trump another's.
I have had failure to thrive kids, eating disorders, and sensory disorders. I've also had mentally ill preschoolers. They all would eat creamy peanut butter and refuse every other protein. I had one kid who drank a bottle of whole milk, rice baby cereal, banana, and two tablespoons of creamy peanut butter after each meal. She ate what she could but she would fill her belly with that concoction to keep her alive.
I've had kids who were in intensive food therapy who had peanut butter ordered as a doc ordered treatment.
If there was something else that would work, I wouldn't want to even try it. By the time you have found the golden ticket you don't mess with it.
If I were a diabetic and relied on a food to stabilize my sugar I would get an order for it and keep it on file. A child I met once who could go to one of a zillion other daycares wouldn't even be a consideration. I have to be healthy and earn money to feed my kid. I can serve the special needs population with another disability. I am not obligated to serve one that could impact my health.Comment
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Again, I do not think a home daycare needs to accommodate a child with an allergy if they are not comfortable doing so. The provider must be able to safely care for all children in her care...simply that they enjoy nuts in the home is enough in my opinion, being the only adult present is enough in my opinion, being too far remote from EMS is enough in my opinion, but it does seem like having an adult with diabetes say that PB is the only thing that will work to stabilize their blood sugar is not accurate.
I am assuming the discomfort many home providers have is with all life-threatening food allergies (except maybe seafood) and not just peanut allergies.
If that is the argument that the provider is using to turn away kids with allergies, them what about milk, soy, wheat, egg and other life-threatening allergies? No reputable medical doctor is going to say you need all of those for emergency management of diabetes.Comment
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I have to say, though, that I am very surprised at the mom in the original post. Any time a provider who says that she did not think my child was safe for any reason is not the right provider for my family. I do believe this is a real post, but it is really hard to imagine what type of parent would consider for even one second keeping their child with someone who honestly says that they cannot do the job. Perhaps a child care providers you have seen it and can imagine it, but it is confusing to me as a parent as to why anyone would entrust her child to someone who says, "no, I cannot do this in good faith."Comment
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But if PB is what I have been using for 10 years why should I have to change? And if in fact a PB allergy is a "protected group" by the ADA, then no the fact my family enjoys nuts may not be enough to turn away a child with a PB allergy. But MY health is just as important as the children I care for. I can't fix any issues I have in a hurry, then who is going to be here to protect the children if I pass out? The bottom line is like NannyDe said, I should not have to go around looking for different ways to manage my health just because you say so. You in this case meaning your or anyone else. I don't see why you think the health of the provider is not important.Comment
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