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My youngest, who is 9 and has grown up with daycare, has done this numerous times over the years. Not so much with not sharing, as her toys are seperate from daycare stuff, but saying she doesn't like the kids, not wanting to sit by them or be around them. When she does this, I simply tell her it is her choice rather to participate or not. If she isn't enjoying being around the DCK's she is welcome to go to her room and play on her own or to our downstairs room. I remind her that she isn't forced to be around them and it's her choice to make. I think they get tired of sharing their home and mom rather then sharing the toys. My daughter informed me the other day that she wished she could be a latchkey kid like her other friends...the grass is always greener I guess.
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This is the very hard part of doing daycare. I have 4 girls and I have only 1 of my girls that don't complain about daycare kids. The other 3 have something to say from time to time about not liking them here...the one 2 year old throws things and hits and who could blame them for complaining? The boy gets in trouble each and every time and then the crying bothers them. The older girl will not leave my older 2 alone when they want their space and that aggrivates them.
It's so hard at times, I personally do daycare so I can be home with my kids, help with homework, ect., and close at 5pm so they can still participate in sports, yet some days it's so hard on my kids and I wonder if it's best to find a job outside the home as having daycare it can get chaotic and it's emotionally hard on the kids. I daydream at times what it would be like to work outside the home and just come home to my kids only.
Yet I have to stop and think of the advantages of doing daycare, I do have flexibility with daycare as if I have an appt. or have to run something to the school, my mother lives next door to me and is retired and helps me out when I need it. I can get my dishes done, laundry done during naptime. So there is many advantages, yet some days I feel it's not worth it because if daycare kids are having off days, my kids suffer with the commotion and all they want is peace and quiet.
I don't allow them to think it's ok to disrespect the daycare kids, but secretly I think to myself how I understand the frustration they are feeling, this is their space and after a long day at school they want nothing more than peace and have come home to crazy daycare kids. It's not as bad this year though because I decided to run smaller but some days the younger 2 daycare boys want to act up.Comment
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My DD is almost 6, and she was in daycare from 6wks to the age of 4. I have been doing daycare for almost two years. So she still can remember the times when she would have to go to daycare and I would have to go to work. She does NOT complain about the daycare kids. I think she may of been negative about it once, and I told her that I could always go back to work and she could go back to daycare... she immediately said "NO! I like you staying home with me." The only thing I've had to make sure of with her is that she gets her mommy time, she gets her own space (her room), and she is allowed to keep her things separate from the daycare kids.
My DS who is almost 3, is much like your son. Lately he has been so rotten to them. I have started a reward system with him. If he is nice to them for the entire day, meaning sharing, saying nice words, no physicality, then he gets a "treasure" from the treasure box at the end of the day. They are little things from the Dollar Tree. I think that would still work with your 5 yr old, it works with my 5 yo DD!Comment
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My DD is 6 and just started this a short while ago. She was fine up until the new baby came, now all of a sudden she is jelous and doesn't like any of the DCK's. She's bossy, plays mean (pretends she's a princess and tells the others that they are slaves and that they can't eat etc). The trouble with my daughter is that I can't send her to her room to play by herself because it's on the 2nd story so an adult has to be up there with her during DC hours (as per licensing) so she has to stay here. She can't play with her own toys down here because then the other kids want to play with them and she FLIPS out, so now she isn't allowed to bring anything down unless she shares (some toys have small parts also so those are absolute no-no's).
So she gets stuck down here with the other kids and wants to be on her own but then the other DCK's follow her around and annoy her. She just wants to sit and read, color or do a puzzle by herself and the DCK's (especial DCG 3) follow her EVERYWHERE. I do my best to let her have personal space and even made up a rule about personal space where there's only 1 child allowed on a couch cusion so at least she can sit somewhat on her own. Even with this rule DCG 3 creeps up right at the edge of her couch cushion or stands right in front of her feet while she sits on the couch and just ANNOYS the H-E-double-hockey-stick out of her. Sometimes I will have to physically pry DCG 3 away from where my DD is
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I'm trying different things with DD now so if something else works I'll let you know because lord knows that I've given her individual attention, given her personal space, she has her own toys seperate from DC, her room is her space and DC kids can't play there unless she invites them and we can all go up and play, etc. I've done all of this and she still says that she hates DC kids and that they "make my head hurt". ::
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This is how I feel. Thanks for sympathizing! Ideally, if we didn't need the money, I'd rather just stay home with the kids, so this is my way of getting to, but also bringing in some money. I do feel bad for my kids having to share their home and mommy time. I wouldn't have wanted to either growing up. My mom stayed home with me and my siblings and I do remember it and how much I loved it.~Everything happens for a reason~
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