Am I Just Being a Picky Mom?!

[Crystal]

She says she has been having issues for six months, yet doesn't want to take any of the advice given, it may take a couple of weeks to do paperwork in her state, but if she has been having issues for six months why didn't she start the paperwork five months ago? I am not bashing, just stating fact as I see it. We have all offered advice and she has a hundred reasons why nothing will work. If you ask for advice you have to be willing to take it or don't ask.

I do not see anywhere that she has said she isn't taking anyone's advice. In fact, she said:

"Thank you everyone I have read some wonderful advice. I know that no parent or daycare provider is perfect. I am looking for another provider.and I will Def keep in mind all the advice about how to work with the daycares!"

Yes, she has said why it won't work right NOW, but is seeking alternate care and also appreciates the CONSTRUCTIVE advice given here.

[worriedandstuckmom]

I do not see anywhere that she has said she isn't taking anyone's advice. In fact, she said:

"Thank you everyone I have read some wonderful advice. I know that no parent or daycare provider is perfect. I am looking for another provider.and I will Def keep in mind all the advice about how to work with the daycares!"

Yes, she has said why it won't work right NOW, but is seeking alternate care and also appreciates the CONSTRUCTIVE advice given here.

Thank you!! I am looking for other daycare and I am taking the advice given! I have waited the 6 months its been getting progressively worse that's why I came on here and started looking for new daycare. it's hard where i live to change and no the state doesnt help me look and it's not like my son is coming home with bruises or not being fed. I work 8 to 5 everyday. By the time I get home all daycares are pretty much closed. And also I came on here to see if I'm being the unfair crazy mom to the daycare provider. That's y it's nice to hear other people's rules as well cause they r my first daycare my son has ever been in. So I wasn't sure where they should or shoukdnt work with me...where I shouldn't or should work with them.

[CraftyMom]

I think we've all been in a situation longer than we should have. Either because we thought we could work it out or there was never a clear cut sign that said "time to move on". It can be one thing here, another thing there...nothing big. But over time you look back and all these things add up and you start to question if it's time to move on.

Sounds like this is the case here. Aside from the physical restraints I don't see any major red flags, and depending on the situation the restraints might not be a red flag if used properly and the provider is trained on the technique. All the other things seem to me like minor things when taken individually, but when taken as a whole it is a bigger issue.

Worriedandstuckmom I am glad you asked for advice, it shows you care. It also shows you don't want to get upset over something that may be a regular occurrence in daycares, but you just weren't sure if it was normal or not.

In my opinion if you aren't comfortable then yes it is time to move on. I do think the things mentioned in the first post are normal, but the story seems more involved and clearly you are unsatisfied so yes, time to move on, it isn't a good fit anymore. It may have been working in the beginning, but things change and it is no longer working.

I understand many places are closed by the time you get home. I would use your lunch break to make calls and maybe even take a tour. Many home daycares will be accommodating after hours or on the weekend for a tour. In fact I ONLY do tours and interviews after hours.

[Josiegirl]

Also, ask around for recommendations. Your friends. Co-workers. Family of co-workers. Then if a name comes up repeatedly by different people you'll know who's worth a look-see as far as new daycare.
Good luck!!

[worriedandstuckmom]

Thanks everyone! I already have 2 places set up to go and visit. Thanks for all the advice and feedback I will Def take it to my next daycare and be able to understand more where they r coming from. Again thank you everyone got alot of good advice and help

[daycare]

Thanks everyone! I already have 2 places set up to go and visit. Thanks for all the advice and feedback I will Def take it to my next daycare and be able to understand more where they r coming from. Again thank you everyone got alot of good advice and help

happy to hear that you have been able to go look at other places. you are doing a great job. keep your head up and just know that you are doing all you can with the best that you have.

[worriedandstuckmom]

Thank you daycare!! Guess what found an amazing in home daycare and one of my family actually knows them personally. So excited gave my 2 weeks at other daycare and there response Was that they aren't his mother but that the think I'm making the wrong choice for him and that I shouldn't pull him oit. I told them I'm sorry but it's just not working I need more from the provider then u guys can provide and I'm gunna do what I think us best for my son. They aren't happy and made sure I knew that. Just another reason it's unprofessional there and they say the wrong thing alot of times but very excited and think this is gunna be perfect for my son

[Controlled Chaos]

Thank you daycare!! Guess what found an amazing in home daycare and one of my family actually knows them personally. So excited gave my 2 weeks at other daycare and there response Was that they aren't his mother but that the think I'm making the wrong choice for him and that I shouldn't pull him oit. I told them I'm sorry but it's just not working I need more from the provider then u guys can provide and I'm gunna do what I think us best for my son. They aren't happy and made sure I knew that. Just another reason it's unprofessional there and they say the wrong thing alot of times but very excited and think this is gunna be perfect for my son

Good luck at the new place

[Josiegirl]

I'm glad it worked out that you found someone else!! Good luck!

[Thriftylady]

You did the right thing for sure. I am sorry they tried to make you feel bad about it, because at the end of the day YOU get to decide what is best for your child. Just remember to keep a lot of communication with your new provider, often that solves many issues, and it will keep your provider very happy! Something as simple as a text if you are going to arrive late etc goes a very long way! Hopefully you discussed with your new provider all the things that were major points in you pulling him so you could make a plan together. I know it must have been hard to give in and pull the plug, but I am proud of you for it.

[worriedandstuckmom]

You did the right thing for sure. I am sorry they tried to make you feel bad about it, because at the end of the day YOU get to decide what is best for your child. Just remember to keep a lot of communication with your new provider, often that solves many issues, and it will keep your provider very happy! Something as simple as a text if you are going to arrive late etc goes a very long way! Hopefully you discussed with your new provider all the things that were major points in you pulling him so you could make a plan together. I know it must have been hard to give in and pull the plug, but I am proud of you for it.

Thank you very much! It was a much shorter process then I thought I found a good fit right away. And yes we did talk about all my concerns and we both agreed and set guidelines that fit my son not the whole group cause they go as individuals (to a certain point of course) my son is excited I am excited!! Thanks everyone for the support and encouragement.

[daycare]

Thank you very much! It was a much shorter process then I thought I found a good fit right away. And yes we did talk about all my concerns and we both agreed and set guidelines that fit my son not the whole group cause they go as individuals (to a certain point of course) my son is excited I am excited!! Thanks everyone for the support and encouragement.

this is so awesome to hear. So happy for you.. I hope this all works out.

Did you got to an in-home?

[Josiegirl]

Yay!!! happyface
Your life sounds like it will be so much better with daycare you're happy with!