At My Wits-End With 6 Year Old Who Won't Use Bathroom!

[Malmom]

I put up with a lot of stuff, but no way could I do that. I can't even stand to see three year olds not potty trained. I would have to term.

[daycare]

Who changes his diaper at school?

This is exactly what I was thinking.

[AmyKidsCo]

It sounds like a control issue - the child feels like she doesn't have enough control in other areas of her life so she's taking charge of something she has 100% control over - her body. Or she's just plain stubborn and not happy about something.

I had a 5 yr old to through a stage where she peed/pooped on her nap mat. She told both her mom and me that she did it because "I don't want to take a nap, I want to be with Grandma." Obviously that wasn't a potty training issue, she felt a lack of control (parents were on the strict side), and was a "strong willed" child in the first place.

The parents and I worked together and did a combination of positive reinforcement, natural consequences, and stronger consequences at home - including no grandma time until she improved.

[Shell]

I do not accept children into care who are not *fully* trained after age 3 and children I've had since infancy need to be fully trained by 3 1/2. I would be letting the child go - that is probably the wake up call the parents need, since I can't imagine anyone taking on a neuro-typical school age child who is still in diapers.

Since SA care here is usually much cheaper than infant/toddler care, I would say the parents are NOT paying for diaper changing service. That would be extra.

And I have all my kids clean themselves up after a certain age. It means I stand there and supervise while they change themselves, hand them the wipes to clean themselves up, hand them the bag to put their soiled clothing in, etc. Usually happens ONCE.

[deliberateliterate]

Good lord. I thought it was just pee, and was totally going to tell you to let him change his own diapers. My daughter is 6, and I can't imagine having to change her diapers, that's just awful.

I wouldn't let him change in my bathroom either, it would take longer to clean and sanitize than to just do it myself.

I'd term as well. That's just awful.

[Unregistered]

Suddenly soiling could be a sign of an autommune disorder. The laughing about it is a defense mechanism.