What is Wrong with Kids These Days!!?

[Soccermom]

I have had the worst behaviors so far this year....I had seriously considered not opening this year due to last year being so hard but after a long summer off, I was looking forward to the kids returning in the fall.

BUT, every year gets worse. Every year the behavior is more atrocious, most shocking, more intense.

Years ago when I spoke kids listened. They were afraid of being disciplined by an adult...now they think they are our equals. They laugh when I correct them and think that time out is a hilarious game.

I am at a loss. None of the methods I have always used in the past seem to affect kids anymore.

This morning I forgot to put away the box of cheese nip crackers that DH was eating on the couch last night. DCG asked if she could have some and I told her that she could not since they did not belong to us, they belonged to DH.
She proceeded to tell me how much she really likes them and I told her that maybe if she asked DH, he would let her have a few when he arrives. The box was about half full.

Anyway, I should have picked the box up and put it away but I had a potty run and dealt with that. Then I forgot about it. Throughout the morning I was running around trying to reorganize the toys and deal with a very cranky, miserable 3 year old.

When I finally picked up the box of crackers, there were 2 left!!! DCG had somehow eaten crackers throughout the whole morning without me even noticing!! When I scolded her, she laughed. She thought it was hilarious.

Kids just don't care what adults think anymore.....am I the only one noticing this trend?

[jgcp]

I notice it too. I often think its just me and I need to change. But even when i try that it dosnt work, and you know why? Because when they go home with their parents everything we have taught them goes right out the window!! Even when we explain how it worked, its to hard for them to have to actually work at it. They would rather give in or ignore it and it drives me nuts. Example: I had a dcg 3yrs, mon tell the school age kids ( i was listening) in a very creepy way, " your mom is gonna die" I asked her not to talk like that, she said ok. When i mentioned it to mom her response was " well were all gonna die hahaha" uggg sometimes i wanna smack parents. And about ten min ago same dcg started talking about The Walking Dead show???? WTH is going on in this home?

Im not perfect, or a perfect parent buuuut, I have enough common sence to know what should and shouldnt be acceptable. Its scary to think what it will be like in another 5-10 yrs:confused:

[Soccermom]

I notice it too. I often think its just me and I need to change. But even when i try that it dosnt work, and you know why? Because when they go home with their parents everything we have taught them goes right out the window!! Even when we explain how it worked, its to hard for them to have to actually work at it. They would rather give in or ignore it and it drives me nuts. Example: I had a dcg 3yrs, mon tell the school age kids ( i was listening) in a very creepy way, " your mom is gonna die" I asked her not to talk like that, she said ok. When i mentioned it to mom her response was " well were all gonna die hahaha" uggg sometimes i wanna smack parents. And about ten min ago same dcg started talking about The Walking Dead show???? WTH is going on in this home?

Im not perfect, or a perfect parent buuuut, I have enough common sence to know what should and shouldnt be acceptable. Its scary to think what it will be like in another 5-10 yrs:confused:

It is terrifying! I think I am going to move into a little cabin in the woods somewhere LOL

I have an 8 YO DCG who watches all those shows too...she watches Big Brother with her parents...like WTH?

My kids are 12, 10 and 5...we watch the family channel and sometimes the food network or TLC together.

I have a DCB who is 7 and swears constantly! I had to give DCM the talk yesterday. Shape up or ship out. She thinks it's funny and says she talked to him and told him that he can't say those things here. So he CAN say them at home?!

I hate to term any kid at this point because I am so afraid of what kind of kid is coming up next on my wait list.

[hope]

I have a dcg that left at pick up and dcm was nocking on my door 20 minutes later because dcg wanted a hug from me. Really? I expect children to have crazy requests but I do not expect their parents to give in! Saying no to this dcg would have been easier than turning the car around, taking her and her sister out of their car seats and knocking on my door after closing. Not to mention a lot less crazy!

[Soccermom]

I have a dcg that left at pick up and dcm was nocking on my door 20 minutes later because dcg wanted a hug from me. Really? I expect children to have crazy requests but I do not expect their parents to give in! Saying no to this dcg would have been easier than turning the car around, taking her and her sister out of their car seats and knocking on my door after closing. Not to mention a lot less crazy!

I think we have the same DCM! The DCM of the cracker eater would have done the exact same thing!

Why do parents feel the need to indulge their child's every wish and desire...don't they see that these kids are testing them in order to determine how much power they have?

[Rockgirl]

I think we have the same DCM! The DCM of the cracker eater would have done the exact same thing!

Why do parents feel the need to indulge their child's every wish and desire...don't they see that these kids are testing them in order to determine how much power they have?

Because the child might CRY!

[Soccermom]

Because the child might CRY!

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[hope]

Because the child might CRY!

They only want to see the child cry when they are leaving to prove to themselves they are loved. Otherwise the child can never ever cry. If the child cries than they may not love the parents as much. Sounds crazy but I believe this is what parents think.

[KiddieCahoots]

I hate to term any kid at this point because I am so afraid of what kind of kid is coming up next on my wait list.

Exactly what I'm thinking these days....what will I open my doors to next!?

Have a dcm who took her 1yr out for the day for his birthday.
Most of us would think....ohhhh so nice, taking the day off to celebrate with your baby and show how much you care and love him. This unfortunately is not the case! This baby is extremely special (if you know what I mean) came back exhausted, and continued with the regular problems he has with basics, just more intense. Diapering, throwing food, shoveling in the food he likes and gagging, throwing toys, refusing nap, and all accompanied with tantrums galore.
And when I give the report of "very challenging day", dcm clearly gets miffed, and tells me how great grandma swears that dcb can do no wrong.
While I'm thinking, judging by dcb's behavior, more than just great grandma feels and teaches this with dcb.

[melilley]

My kids are pretty good, but I have one dcm (who is a teacher in a GSRP room by the way) that gives in to her kids all the time. Dcb will come in without a coat or shoes, when it's 30 degrees out, because "he wouldn't put them on". Yesterday dcb's older brother came walking up to the door with no shoes on and mom said he wouldn't put them on so he can suffer. I can kind of see using that as a natural consequence, but when it happens all the time, it's ridiculous! It's bad when other dcp's notice too.

[Bookworm]

Because the child might CRY!

Or they're afraid their child won't like them.

[cheerfuldom]

It doesn't seem that abnormal to me to have a child sneaking crackers.....of course it is not okay but I am more than positive that kids in generations past would grab a snack and eat it if it was right there in front of them unattended.

[Soccermom]

Or they're afraid their child won't like them.

It feels like they want so desperately to be best friends with their kids including their toddlers...I don't get it.

Sure I want my own kids to love me but I also want them to respect me as an adult and as an authority figure.

[Annalee]

I have good behavior children in my care when it comes to actions, but the part that gets me is the "listening" and then doing what is expected simply because they should.....I have 5 children going to school next year....2 of these 5 DO NOT listen...they both have siblings but it is like they all are "only children".....the parents do whatever it takes (buying things, taking them places, etc) to keep them happy with NO TEARS......if I say yes or no to these kids they attempt the sway me to the answer they won't to hear...they are manipulators and are pros at it at HOME.....we have made progress here! The little girl used to give me mean looks when the yes/no was not in her favor until I consistently would tell her to go look in the mirror because NO ONE here wanted to see a face like that.:: The little boy always asks me "why" when I say yes/no and I do not answer anymore because when I did answer it give him the idea I would reason with him and he thought he could win that and it would drag on forever::

[crazydaycarelady]

I have a dcg that left at pick up and dcm was nocking on my door 20 minutes later because dcg wanted a hug from me.

I had a dcm come all the way back to my house last week for a toy - it was a McDonalds figure! All because she would rather do that than listen to her kid cry.