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Yikes! Wish me luck. I have a feeling this mom is going to be difficult.
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Good luck!
Definitely....expect her to be upset as no one likes to be told no or that they are being let go.
But sometimes we HAVE to do what we HAVE to do to keep things running smoothly and maintain some sort of happiness.
It's not personal but she will take it that way.... there is usually nothing you can say that will make it easier so just keep remembering why you are terming in the first place.
Whether it's due to poor fit, tough child or changing hours.....it is obviously a decision that had to be made so jump the hurdle and then breath sigh of relief.
First term or a 100th...it really isn't any easier. :hug:
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Yep, good luck. The parents are always upset and difficult in some way. Never had a term that the parent was like "YAY!" :
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Thank you all! This is the parent who I had to call the sheriff department on for allowing her daughter to ride in the front passenger seat of her car unrestrained. The mom is always late (beyond closing hour not just her contracted p/u time), I constantly have to ask for supplies for her child and in the month I have had her she has requested a schedule change 4 times. She repeatedly asks at drop off if she can pick up later then her scheduled time for that day. I always say no, but she still asks. Last week she notified me that she was being laid off from her job and so DCK will be here 2 days this week. I am so done! My new DCF dropped off paperwork and deposits for their two boys yesterday so I can officially term this mom tomorrow.
Once she is termed I am reducing my open business hours by 1 hour (new families and current families already know the change and it does not effect their current schedule).Comment
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Yep, it sure is hard and awkward after you say your piece and hand them the termination letter. It feels great once it is over! (Expect it to get really uncomfortable during the two weeks or whatever notice you've given). Then, I always mark the last day on my calendar, and sometimes use post it's with a count down to remind myself it will all be over soon. Then, comes the adult beverage when I close for the day on their very last day!Comment
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Maybe you should give licensing a heads up? Let us know how it goes!Comment
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I remember her, good luck! Sounds like your dc life will be much easier without her! Yes, keep us updated!Comment
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I am license exempt so I don't think that is an option. However, I do have everything in writing from this mom and I have recorded a couple of our conversations. In my state you only need one party's consent to record voice conversations, so some of the sticky ones we have had are recorded.
I planned on just typing a generic letter to mom, one that is devoid of any details as to why I am terming. I planned on telling her that I have made some business changes and am no longer able to accommodate her schedule and leave it at that. I have a feeling though she is going to press the issue. Have you ladies ever had parents ask you why after you give a generic reason? How do you handle that?Comment
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Always. No one can accept a general answer. They poke and prod and if you open up about it, they will jump on you and try to turn it around (well, some will.) It goes from DCB spitting/hitting/arguing/etc to how CCP isn't able to handle the children in her care, etc.
Don't. Give. Her. More. -- unless you want the storm after. Sound like a record "sorry, made business changes." "sorry, not a good fit for the changes I made" "I wish you the best of luck in the future, I need to go be with my family" shuffle out door and shut.Comment
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How does this sound?
Dear XXXX,
This letter is to inform you that I will no longer be able to offer my child care services to XXXX effective November 21, 2014. I will continue to provide my regular child care services until this date.
Thank you for your cooperation and understanding in this matter and I wish you all the best.
Sincerely,
XXXXXComment
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I termed a whole family for bad behavior once (4 kids).
Mom pushed (although she knew), and all I would say was "There is nothing I can say that will make you feel okay with this, so I am not going to discuss reasons".Comment
I've had to term twice this year; once because a SA boy here in the summer was too aggressive and once because I wanted to help out a mom who was desperate. The boys were very awful. I was very honest both times.
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