Something Flipped The Bitc# Switch!! HELP!

[nannyde]

Pitter I would like to offer you a free consult if you need extra help. I won't try to convince you to not keep the kid. That's your choice of course.

If you need me pm me and I will spend as much time.with you as you need.

[CraftyMom]

Pitter I would like to offer you a free consult if you need extra help. I won't try to convince you to not keep the kid. That's your choice of course.

If you need me pm me and I will spend as much time.with you as you need.

[PitterPatter]

Pitter I would like to offer you a free consult if you need extra help. I won't try to convince you to not keep the kid. That's your choice of course.

If you need me pm me and I will spend as much time.with you as you need.

Thank you Nan I really appreciate it but I have decided to term. I am too worried about my DCKs safety. I won't be able to keep my eyes on him 100% of the time and it might only take a second for him to flip next time. And I agree there will be a next time it's just a matter of when because I will not cater to one childs wants. Thanks again for all the help!

[Rockgirl]

You've definitely made the right decision. Please keep up posted on how the term goes!

[Unregistered]

I think the term will go well. I have a degree in special education. I have worked with a lot of students who are special needs. While a lot of parents are in denial, they know their child has issues. Mom will not fight this, especially as she admitted to you that he has been removed from other daycares.

I wonder if mom works. I ask, because it seems impossible to work a 40 hour week outside of the home if she's always picking him up/looking for new daycares.

[hsdcmama]

No way!!!!!

I'm sorry but a behavioral specialist that actually suggests you subject the other kids in your care to violence and aggression of that level AND that YOU should give the child another chance to physically assault you?!?!?

No flippin' way would I take that advice.

If I were a parent of the other kids in care, I'd pull my child in two seconds flat and not pay one single dime for a 2 week notice because the environment with that child there is NOT safe.

If a simple consequence like calling his mom (whom he CLEARLY has zero respect for or fear of) sets him off like that, I'd hate to see what happens when the wind blows south instead of north. :confused:

I am FLOORED that a behavioral specialist would actually utter those words when you are a GROUP care provider.

I'm sorry Pitter, I mean ZERO disrespect to you and my heart breaks that you had to even deal with any of that......

This is bigger than you can manage.

Even if you had immediate back up IN your home, it only takes one second for him to seriously hurt another child.

NOT something I could ever do.

(((hugs))) and prayers to you in whatever you decide to do.

:hug:

Agreed. You have to take into account the safety and physical/mental well-being of ALL the kids in your daycare, not just this one. I have a clause built into my contract that I reserve the right to term without notice in cases of extreme disrespect, failure to pay, or if a child or parent is posing a threat to myself or the other children. Never in million years would I accept this child back into my home.

[sahm1225]

Thank you Nan I really appreciate it but I have decided to term. I am too worried about my DCKs safety. I won't be able to keep my eyes on him 100% of the time and it might only take a second for him to flip next time. And I agree there will be a next time it's just a matter of when because I will not cater to one childs wants. Thanks again for all the help!

I was just thinking about you and your post. I am so glad you chose to term. When I was reading your post, I just kept thinking to myself 'what if you weren't able to control him until his mom came?' and it made my stomach hurt from worry about it.

[PitterPatter]

I was just thinking about you and your post. I am so glad you chose to term. When I was reading your post, I just kept thinking to myself 'what if you weren't able to control him until his mom came?' and it made my stomach hurt from worry about it.

Well I guess if I had to I would sit on him
No seriously I had the same thoughts, my imagination ran wild with what if's so he won't be back. Thanks for thinking about me

[PitterPatter]

I think the term will go well. I have a degree in special education. I have worked with a lot of students who are special needs. While a lot of parents are in denial, they know their child has issues. Mom will not fight this, especially as she admitted to you that he has been removed from other daycares.

I wonder if mom works. I ask, because it seems impossible to work a 40 hour week outside of the home if she's always picking him up/looking for new daycares.

Yes she does work, in a professional field actually so she is needed and very upset when she has to leave work. It was one of the things we discussed in detail. I know she was angry with me because I called her to pick up but it's her own child's fault not mine. She sure as heck wouldn't allow her children to be in that environment so why should anyone elses.

[sahm1225]

Well I guess if I had to I would sit on him
No seriously I had the same thoughts, my imagination ran wild with what if's so he won't be back. Thanks for thinking about me

you're welcome!

I volunteered at my DDs kindergarten class and it's a mix of special needs and regular needs students. One of the little boys came up to me and gave me a hug. I told him thank you but you are not supposed to hug parent volunteers. I didn't know he was special needs. Well, out of the corner of my eye, I see the teacher stand up and make a fast walk to the phone to call someone. I think nothing of it, until the little boy turns around and comes to hug me again. this time it was super hard and almost knocked me off my feet! I couldn't get his arms off from around me and I kept calm just talking to him and about 5 seconds later, his special needs teacher walks in and tells him to let me go and go to her (he did). I realized at that moment that if I was ever to become a teacher at that school that I would have to start lifting weights!

The little boys strength was impressive. And he wasn't even angry!

[Unregistered]

What Did Mom say when you termed her child??

[PitterPatter]

What Did Mom say when you termed her child??

Nothing, she won't respond to email or phone. Guess that's that. Makes me kind of nervous though because I am used to a rant or pleading when I term a child which isn't often. I guess she saw it coming.

[hope]

Nothing, she won't respond to email or phone. Guess that's that. Makes me kind of nervous though because I am used to a rant or pleading when I term a child which isn't often. I guess she saw it coming.

This mom knew it was coming. It was obvious in her reaction to when you told her how dcg's tantrum went down. If that were me and you told me my child acted that way my jaw would hit the floor and my eyes would pop out of my head. I would apologize and send you some flowers or something out of guilt. It is so sad that this mom is even trying to send her child to a home daycare. She needs to get him help. He needs to be in a place that specializes in his issues.