REALLY? I am So Mad

[Blackcat31]

Exactly.

That's like saying ....you harvest all the coffee beans, grind all the coffee, do all of the work and then watch me drink it. No one wants to do all the work for zero benefit. And while they told me I was going to have to do this it just made it show they don't respect me or my program.
No thanks

....so if they were staying (or hadn't said anything about leaving) then you would be willing to do all that for them?

You would train their child for them?

[daycare]

....so if they were staying (or hadn't said anything about leaving) then you would be willing to do all that for them?

You would train their child for them?

I'm not asking to change my actions

It's just me validating my emotion towards being told I'm not good enough for this family.

[Blackcat31]

I'm not asking to change my actions

It's just me validating my emotion towards being told I'm not good enough for this family.

I know it was hurtful to hear the words the dad said and I'm sorry you were hurt.

I'm also not asking you to change your actions.

I was just wondering though if you normally potty train kids.

I guess my answers/replies to you in this thread were based on the assumption that you don't potty train kids. That you don't invest in the training process other than being supportive.

If you do more than 50% of the work to potty train a kid with the mindset that they will be long term clients, then it makes perfect sense as to why this not-so-nice comment from this dad was so hurtful.

My apologies as I always thought you were in the "parent needs to train" camp.

Again, I am sorry he was so rude and I am sorry you are hurt. :hug:

[Country Kids]

I've been thinking about this alot!

I didn't realize you had your program broken up like that. I thought it was everyone type together situation. I didn't realize that you had one area strictly for kiddos under preschool age and then the preschool side.

I would sit down with both parents, let them know what DCD said and straight out ask them what their plan is. Once they tell you, let them know you won't be putting any extra work into potty training her just to have them leave. Let them know exactly to a T how you run your program and that doesn't entail any extra work so a child can just leave.

We all have great programs but parents always think the next one will be so much better and they usually get a huge surprise-

[daycare]

we do potty train here along side with the parents because we want our kids to promote to the preschool room. We try to have 6 kids fully PT, because our community in the classroom program, we need to take six 6 so that we are in ratios.

what happens there is that 6 kids will come with me out in to our community and the younger or not potty trained 6 kids will stay back at the house with my assistant. we have a 6 to 1 ratio with this age group

we are not gone every day, but at least 1-2 times a week.

I am not upset a you BC, and I do agree with what you are saying, parents are going to do what they need to do just as I am going to.

As someone said, well at least I know now so I can prepare to replace DCK....

[daycare]

I know it was hurtful to hear the words the dad said and I'm sorry you were hurt.

I'm also not asking you to change your actions.

I was just wondering though if you normally potty train kids.

I guess my answers/replies to you in this thread were based on the assumption that you don't potty train kids. That you don't invest in the training process other than being supportive.

If you do more than 50% of the work to potty train a kid with the mindset that they will be long term clients, then it makes perfect sense as to why this not-so-nice comment from this dad was so hurtful.

My apologies as I always thought you were in the "parent needs to train" camp.

Again, I am sorry he was so rude and I am sorry you are hurt. :hug:

OMG you are the sweetest person ever.....you were not being rude...

when you post, you are teaching me better english, I am about to think deeper and get it out...

so thank you for always making your point of view. I love that you always play both sides of the card. it is important.

[Blackcat31]

OMG you are the sweetest person ever.....you were not being rude...

when you post, you are teaching me better english, I am about to think deeper and get it out...

so thank you for always making your point of view. I love that you always play both sides of the card. it is important.

lovethis :hug:

You know I love you! lovethis

I know I play both sides .....it's what I do to always make sure I consider every possibility.

I don't like to ever think someone is being malicious or mean on purpose so I try to consider every perspective... My DH said I need to understand that some people ARE mean/rude but I have a hard time accepting that until I've used up all the other possibilities.

[KiddieCahoots]

I would be less upset about them pulling their child than about them expecting YOU to prepare their child for it. Expecting you to potty train so that they can "take their business elsewhere" shows how much they do NOT respect you. That just floors me that anyone would have the nerve!

....this!
To have you do all the work for a child that is not showing signs of readiness alone is stupid.

I'd start looking for a replacement. Sounds like they have made up their minds.
Then like BC said, everyday you still have her in care, carry on what you would normally do, without forcing it like dcd wants.
When dcd asks, continue with the same answer, still working on it, until you can replace her, or they leave on their own.

I had this very thing happen to me. I had a family insisting their 2yr dcb was ready for pt, going at home, no accidents at night....blah....blah....blah.
Not what I saw....dcb could've cared less to be soaked and run around in wet clothes. He was totally not ready.
Then I was accidently informed from the a preschool worker that worked were they were planning to send him, of the same situation here.
I felt the very same way you do now.
I carried on with guidance only. They still left, even before he was completely pt, and while going out the door dcm had said "Ms. _____ we will miss you, I hope you have an opening with my soon to come, next baby, and will check back with you then".

Not trying to steal the thread, just relating.

Some people have their minds made up to what we do and should do FOR THEM. Don't waste your time trying to change their minds, put the effort into finding someone who sees what a great job you do and values that.

[daycare]

lovethis :hug:

You know I love you! lovethis

I know I play both sides .....it's what I do to always make sure I consider every possibility.

I don't like to ever think someone is being malicious or mean on purpose so I try to consider every perspective... My DH said I need to understand that some people ARE mean/rude but I have a hard time accepting that until I've used up all the other possibilities.

hahahah thats because your MN nice!!!! thats what I call my cousins from MN

come stay with me for a few days... you will see some very true RUDE and MEAN people......