Help, I'm Losing This Power Struggle!

[QualiTcare]

i would try what a pp said and put a pull up on her a little early to see if that gets her to go before she lays down.

also, JUST incase she's doing this because it buys her a little time....i would change her right where she's at. i wouldn't let her get up and go into another room, etc. etc. pooping in your pants isn't as fun when you still don't get to get up and u have to be still anyway

[Luna]

i would try what a pp said and put a pull up on her a little early to see if that gets her to go before she lays down.

also, JUST incase she's doing this because it buys her a little time....i would change her right where she's at. i wouldn't let her get up and go into another room, etc. etc. pooping in your pants isn't as fun when you still don't get to get up and u have to be still anyway

I actually do that for exactly that reason, she doesn't get to leave the room at all except when she comes out to tell me she pooped. Which reminds me...the part that really burns my cookies is when she comes out and announces "I pooped. Clean my bum."

[QualiTcare]

well, i'm a really horrible person so if she's doing this every day after 10 mins and like you say - you check every 2 minutes until she tells you she's already pooped...

i'd get everyone lying down and then bring her out after everything is calm and let her sit on the potty for a few mins. i know, child abuse!

[Luna]

well, i'm a really horrible person so if she's doing this every day after 10 mins and like you say - you check every 2 minutes until she tells you she's already pooped...

i'd get everyone lying down and then bring her out after everything is calm and let her sit on the potty for a few mins. i know, child abuse!

I'm a horrible child-abusing person too, so I did that. More than once. She sat there & did nothing...then laid back on her cot & pooped. She was only on the potty for a couple of minutes though, because I'm not totally horrible

She's not here today so I'll try the early diaper trick on Monday.

[nannyde]

well, i'm a really horrible person so if she's doing this every day after 10 mins and like you say - you check every 2 minutes until she tells you she's already pooped...

i'd get everyone lying down and then bring her out after everything is calm and let her sit on the potty for a few mins. i know, child abuse!

With kids who are showing first stage signs of being "anal retentive" your goal is to just get the poop out. Even if it means a diaper.

Your plan is good for sure but ONLY for a few minutes. If the child can't manage it then let them go in the diaper.

Creating too much chaos around pooping will cause you serious problems in the future. I would just have some super cheapo diapers on hand for the poop and change them and then back to bed.

I've found that if you place to much energy into these things it can backfire.

If you want something to try then this works for us: Best plan is to have them eat a slammin lunch about an hour before they go to bed and then have them GO PLAY TOYS. This is the lowest level excitement they can do on their feet. No special special during this time. Just free play and keep the mojo in the room as low and not focused on any one child.

Then about twenty minutes before nap get them onto the pot and to sit on the pot till YOU tell them to get off. (removing the choice of getting up on their own will relax them and calm them). Have her lean forward to where her elbows on on her thighs and her wrists are on her knees. If you have time.. give her a nice soft light fingertip back rub up and down. Start from the base of her back around her waist and move up... circling her shoulders. Then leave her be for a good five minutes or so with nothing to play with or nothing to see. Just calm...........

If they DO go then "I" would give them a little sompin sompin for them AND their mates. Have them pass it out to their mates and then they get one for themselves. That can be stamps, gummy bears, m&m's, stickers, or whatever. Whatever is their current currency. (I know you aren't supposed to attach food to potty training but I do it so there).

When they are passing out the "take" from their success each child says "good job Susie... you rock" or something like that.

Once she knows she gets to give a little sompin sompin and get a little sompin sompin then she will most likely have her friends asking her if she needs to poop before nap. It takes a village ::

It doesn't work all the time. Some kids just need dark, quiet, still, and nothing TO do before they can relax enough to not be able to hold it in. It's the same philosophy of why you guys all see way more poop on Mondays than any other day. Daycare has built in times where there is nothing to do but relax. Often home does not. Two weekend days of not relaxing fully will lead to poooooopus humungous.