Did You Have A Rough Start With Your Daycare Children?

[Blackcat31]

DCM tried to "recruit" my wife & me for what I'll tactfully call a "playdate".

Pretty sure that no one will top this one.

FWIW~ I do NOT socialize with DCF's either. Ever.

[KiddieCahoots]

Rough start? I don't remember. I've tried to block it from memory. Actually I can't complain other than my inlaws spending the first 3 years asking my wife when I was getting a job. GRRRRR

Only one child that I had to terminate for behavior issues. His first response to anything was to start throwing things at others. Parents thought it was "no big deal". Yikes.

Parents.....a few real winners. I had to break up a fight in my driveway because Dad 1 got busted by Dad 2 (a police officer) for drugs the previous year. Told him that if Dad 2 didn't kick his @@@ if he pulled that again I would. They didn't last long. Another time my wife and I made the mistake of going out one weekend with the parents of one of the kids. DCM tried to "recruit" my wife & me for what I'll tactfully call a "playdate".

And current parents wonder why I don't socialize with daycare parents.

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[SignMeUp]

My first families were pretty great! Most of them are still in touch Some of the parents, but more of the kids
There are a few things that I let slide then, that would never fly now though ::
Like drop-off and pick-up times. I had one mom who was a NICU nurse and worked changing shifts. She liked coming in mid-morning, and I didn't like it, but I did let her do it. And I had one mom who was often late, really really late.
But we are friends now (30 years later) and she asks me how I ever put up with that :: She took me on a wonderful trip for a landmark birthday this spring

[daycare]

Rough start? I don't remember. I've tried to block it from memory. Actually I can't complain other than my inlaws spending the first 3 years asking my wife when I was getting a job. GRRRRR

Only one child that I had to terminate for behavior issues. His first response to anything was to start throwing things at others. Parents thought it was "no big deal". Yikes.

Parents.....a few real winners. I had to break up a fight in my driveway because Dad 1 got busted by Dad 2 (a police officer) for drugs the previous year. Told him that if Dad 2 didn't kick his @@@ if he pulled that again I would. They didn't last long. Another time my wife and I made the mistake of going out one weekend with the parents of one of the kids. DCM tried to "recruit" my wife & me for what I'll tactfully call a "playdate".

And current parents wonder why I don't socialize with daycare parents.

holy WOOWOWWWWW Winner winner chicken dinner..

hahahah that is so funny but awkward............

[daycare]

I think the more experienced you get the more you'll know which parents ones you should give your services to and which you ones you should just take their application and file under do not want. I used to be a teacher and I can 99% of the time tell who's a decent family and who's either looking to cause trouble or get every penny out of me. I've only had one scare. A woman who was part time and she started asking all these weird money questions. I really got turned off when she asked if my business was legit or did I get any income off the books. I terminated her. She went to another provider and asked to be her aide. The provider said no and she called CPS on her and claimed there was abuse.

I know this may come off as wrong, but I refuse to take Indian children. I've seen local providers take them and not too long afterwards, they roaches. I was told a roach crawled out of one mom's purse while she dropped her child off. She had no reaction to it. She was termed that day and stunned. I've also SAW when I was a teacher Indian boys peeing in corners or other spots and claiming it's acceptable at home. When I worked in a HS I had one little boy who was separated from another child walk over to the child and pee on their toys. Indian parents are also very demanding. They will say they don't celebrate say Halloween and don't want their child doing Halloween activities, but you have celebrate Dawli and other things other families don't.

different cultures have different views on discipline. I am originally from Egypt and boys there are treated better that the girls. Especially if the son is born first.

I know that it affected me a lot growing up that I was beaten if I said the same exact thing as my older brother, but he got nothing. Or if I did things that he did. It really opens the floor for the boys to be little monsters. It is no wonder that my brother is now shunned from my family.

When we were kids, He learned English before me and would swear like a sailor, never got into trouble once. I said the word "shoot" and I got oil in my mouth.

I would always welcome any one into my dc regardless of their back ground, but I do understand what you are trying to say.

[melilley]

Rough start? I don't remember. I've tried to block it from memory. Actually I can't complain other than my inlaws spending the first 3 years asking my wife when I was getting a job. GRRRRR

Only one child that I had to terminate for behavior issues. His first response to anything was to start throwing things at others. Parents thought it was "no big deal". Yikes.

Parents.....a few real winners. I had to break up a fight in my driveway because Dad 1 got busted by Dad 2 (a police officer) for drugs the previous year. Told him that if Dad 2 didn't kick his @@@ if he pulled that again I would. They didn't last long. Another time my wife and I made the mistake of going out one weekend with the parents of one of the kids. DCM tried to "recruit" my wife & me for what I'll tactfully call a "playdate".

And current parents wonder why I don't socialize with daycare parents.

Ummmm.... Sorry had to laugh at this one! :: Did they still come to your daycare after that?

[daycare]

Ummmm.... Sorry had to laugh at this one! :: Did they still come to your daycare after that?

oh yeah awkward!!!

[JoseyJo]

My first set of parents were wonderful! Actually for the first 3 years or so the kids and parents were great. After that... not so much. Seems like every parent I enrolled was one of the crazy parents we post about on here every day. I have not regretted closing for one second

[daycare]

for me in the start I thought everyone was golden because I was the dumb one trying to please every single request doing everything that they told me. AND as long as I did they were all nice and happy with my services.

As I got wiser the people got worse.......only because they hated the fact that I stopped jumping when they said how high and stopped giving in.

It took me a long time to NOT be a push over.............

[Unregistered]

Yes. That come off as REALLY wrong.

I don't think roaches (or bad behaviors) are excluded to only one nationality or race. :confused: :confused:


I would embrace a family that didn't celebrate "traditional" American holidays.

It would be a wonderful opportunity to teach inclusion and acceptance!

It wasn't that they didn't celebrate the holidays that bothered me. I've had Jehovah Witness children and have excluded holidays before. The Indian parents that were in the HS exspected to be excluded from all holidays they don't celebrate, but we had to celebrate their holidays. What if the other parents turned around and asked the same? I don't mind celebrating everyone's, but you can't pick and choose. If you want that, either have a babysitter or an all whatever school.

[DaveA]

.......Ummmm.... Sorry had to laugh at this one! Did they still come to your daycare after that? ........

Yeah... It was awkward for a couple of days then it was fine. I lasted longer as their DCP than they did as a married couple. Took care of them for another 1 1/2 years before they hit school age & stayed with Grandma after school.

[Blackcat31]

It wasn't that they didn't celebrate the holidays that bothered me. I've had Jehovah Witness children and have excluded holidays before. The Indian parents that were in the HS exspected to be excluded from all holidays they don't celebrate, but we had to celebrate their holidays. What if the other parents turned around and asked the same? I don't mind celebrating everyone's, but you can't pick and choose. If you want that, either have a babysitter or an all whatever school.

Oh okay... I see what you mean now. Yeah, no one gets to pick and choose holidays if you aren't okay with all of them.

Totally understand what you mean now. Sorry for misunderstanding but thank you for the clarification.

I am betting that is why most Head Starts don't celebrate any holidays now unless it is REALLY generic or commercialized. It's easy to not celebrate than to do them all.