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  • NightOwl
    Advanced Daycare.com Member
    • Mar 2014
    • 2722

    #31
    He has a very short temper and can go from zero to PISSED in about 10 seconds, but that night, he just stood there with his hands in his pockets and allowed me to rant. He said he totally understood. He was so sorry for not telling me but thought he was protecting me from any drama. He thought it would just blow over and go away.

    I told him there was no way I was going to be one of those ignorant, passive wives who just let some ***** move in on her husband. And then he cracked a smile. I think it made him feel appreciated, loved, etc, etc.

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    • Laurel
      Daycare.com Member
      • Mar 2013
      • 3218

      #32
      Actually she could lose her job if your husband ever wanted to file sexual harassment charges.

      My daughter was sexually harassed at a job. She had the night shift and there was just one other guy there with her. She always felt he was in her personal space and just felt funny around him. He would say inappropriate things but she just brushed them off. Then one night he slapped her butt as she opened the door. She said it was pretty hard. He acted like he was kidding and told her she couldn't take a joke. But, as luck would have it, the security camera caught it, she reported it, and he got fired. THEN, other girls that had worked with him before also came forward.

      So most places have a pretty strict policy regarding women and it should be no different for men.

      Laurel

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      • taylorw1210
        Daycare.com Member
        • Jan 2014
        • 487

        #33
        Originally posted by craftymissbeth
        That. Is. Awesome. ::

        OP, I have that same little bit of doubt, too... but it's usually immediately AFTER I open my big mouth

        I found texts and phone calls to/from one of my husband's co-workers. In fact, some random person messaged me on Facebook and told me that she was tired of hearing all about how my husband and that girl were dating and so proud of themselves for fooling me. We separated for awhile and then he finally got his own apartment... and not even a week after he signed the lease she moved in with him. This was a couple weeks ago.

        I'm SO glad you have a good guy on your hands happyface
        :hug: Been there, done that - put up with it WAY too long (5 years!!).

        Originally posted by Wednesday
        He has a very short temper and can go from zero to PISSED in about 10 seconds, but that night, he just stood there with his hands in his pockets and allowed me to rant. He said he totally understood. He was so sorry for not telling me but thought he was protecting me from any drama. He thought it would just blow over and go away.

        I told him there was no way I was going to be one of those ignorant, passive wives who just let some ***** move in on her husband. And then he cracked a smile. I think it made him feel appreciated, loved, etc, etc.
        Sounds like you have a good man, Wednesday! I, too, would be on the high alert but it sounds like he genuinely didn't want to worry you. Although not telling us makes us worry more most of the time!

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        • Unregistered

          #34
          Good for you! I too had a young girl getting overly friendly with my husband at work. (She's 22 he's 47) calling him after hours asking for advice, asking for help with heater or car, etc. My hubby treating her just like one of our girls, she was in fact a friend of our daughters. I would even tease him "how was your little girlfriend at work today? " she eventually was fired but still continued to call him, to the point it was now becoming a hmm? type of situation. My oldest daughter (27) got wind of it and came to her mamas defense so quick! Girl never saw it coming and let's just say we never heard from her again.

          My husband was innocent, helping a young girl out. I finally had to ask him, "what if this was our daughter showing such "innocent"friendship with an older man?" He says "well i would tell her he is a dirty old geezer that was only looking for a payout!" My reply, "so are you looking for a payout, cause in this instance YOU are the dirty old geezer!" His mouth dropped open " I never thought of it like that!"

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          • SunshineMama
            Advanced Daycare.com Member
            • Jan 2012
            • 1575

            #35
            You handled it perfectly! Go girl!

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            • EntropyControlSpecialist
              Embracing the chaos.
              • Mar 2012
              • 7466

              #36
              Originally posted by grandmom
              Wednesday,

              Having earned the title of the betrayed spouse, I question your husband's integrity in this just a little. He should have ended it long before that many messages. The idea that he responded that he "doesn't like to be bothered" egged her on. Please keep a close eye on his phone for a while. Not just reading the texts, but look at the call log and text log on the phone bill. Something isn't right that he didn't end it sooner. I hope I'm wrong.

              Craftymissbeth and Wednesday,

              Spend some time on a web site: survivinginfidelity.com.

              You will both gather good information and find support there.
              I have got to agree here.

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