Completely OT, Personal Issue

[craftymissbeth]

True story: Years ago I met a guy at a party and we made out a bit. He was a dj, I thought he was cool He asked for my number and he called, but for whatever reasons I couldn't make it on the days he wanted to go out.

So about a week later I get a call from his pregnant wife, who is living in a motel with their 2 other kids. She wants to know who I am and asked me if I'd slept with him. I was, as you can imagine, very pleased to report that I had not. She asks me to do her a favor and I feel like he deserves it so...

the next night she does a girl night with her friends at a club and later in the evening ask him to join them. I was there, with his wife, when he arrived Never seen a guy move so fast in my life. Totally worth it.

That. Is. Awesome. ::

OP, I have that same little bit of doubt, too... but it's usually immediately AFTER I open my big mouth

I found texts and phone calls to/from one of my husband's co-workers. In fact, some random person messaged me on Facebook and told me that she was tired of hearing all about how my husband and that girl were dating and so proud of themselves for fooling me. We separated for awhile and then he finally got his own apartment... and not even a week after he signed the lease she moved in with him. This was a couple weeks ago.

I'm SO glad you have a good guy on your hands happyface

[melilley]

That. Is. Awesome. ::

OP, I have that same little bit of doubt, too... but it's usually immediately AFTER I open my big mouth

I found texts and phone calls to/from one of my husband's co-workers. In fact, some random person messaged me on Facebook and told me that she was tired of hearing all about how my husband and that girl were dating and so proud of themselves for fooling me. We separated for awhile and then he finally got his own apartment... and not even a week after he signed the lease she moved in with him. This was a couple weeks ago.

I'm SO glad you have a good guy on your hands happyface

Awww :hug: So sorry you had to go through that.

[NightOwl]

That's terrible crafty! What an ass!

[craftymissbeth]

He still won't admit it ::

[playground1]

That. Is. Awesome. ::

I found texts and phone calls to/from one of my husband's co-workers. In fact, some random person messaged me on Facebook and told me that she was tired of hearing all about how my husband and that girl were dating and so proud of themselves for fooling me. We separated for awhile and then he finally got his own apartment... and not even a week after he signed the lease she moved in with him. This was a couple weeks ago.

I'm SO glad you have a good guy on your hands happyface

Oh, no. How are you doing? I know it's cold comfort but rest assured, they won't last. Relationships like that never do. Do you guys have kids?

[craftymissbeth]

Oh, no. How are you doing? I know it's cold comfort but rest assured, they won't last. Relationships like that never do. Do you guys have kids?

Meh. I think that's why I've been so critical on here lately. Sorry bout that! Yes, we have a 7 yo son. He's surprisingly ECSTATIC that his dad doesn't live here anymore



Anyway, let's swing this topic back to Wednesday and the awesome job she did happyface

(Thank you guys for being so sweet)

[MarinaVanessa]

Oh my Wednesday! Good for you!
Out of curiosity ... did the husband ever say anything?
And I'm dying to know what it's going to be like at the office when your hubs goes back in. Can you say ... awkward .

And ok I have to admit ... now I want to know what your DH looks like ::

[grandmom]

Wednesday,

Having earned the title of the betrayed spouse, I question your husband's integrity in this just a little. He should have ended it long before that many messages. The idea that he responded that he "doesn't like to be bothered" egged her on. Please keep a close eye on his phone for a while. Not just reading the texts, but look at the call log and text log on the phone bill. Something isn't right that he didn't end it sooner. I hope I'm wrong.

Craftymissbeth and Wednesday,

Spend some time on a web site: survivinginfidelity.com.

You will both gather good information and find support there.

[TwinKristi]

WOW!! I'm glad you handled it as well as you did. Something somewhat similar happened years back. A client of my dh's started emailing him after the job was completed which obviously raised my eyebrows. I read back and she first emailed him asking what his fave football team was (he hates sports in general) and then when his bday was and all sorts of just personal like questions! Then she basically spilled her guts that she probably overstepped her boundaries hugging him on the last day but every time they talked it just left her feeling so raw and emotional. Then something along the lines of her son asking if he was going to be his new daddy!? I sent them all to myself and looked up her dh's email address as work (not a common name and worked for a very popular company) and I told my dh straight up, THIS isn't okay. I know you didn't do anything "wrong", she pursued you and is obviously lonely and needing some companionship BUT this is not the way we deal with things. I told him I saved all the emails and if I see anything from her again I'm sending them all to her husband. Never emailed him again! Well, she did about work but I replied and informed her we're extremely busy and looking at months before he would come out. We saw her a few years later at a basketball game for our son when I was literally 9 mos pregnant and he didn't even recognize or acknowledge her but I sure did. HA! ::

[NightOwl]

Oh my Wednesday! Good for you!
Out of curiosity ... did the husband ever say anything?
And I'm dying to know what it's going to be like at the office when your hubs goes back in. Can you say ... awkward .

And ok I have to admit ... now I want to know what your DH looks like ::

Lo. He actually left yesterday for a month long business trip in Morocco. So he's out of the country. I'm sure she's horribly embarrassed, and I think he was a little.... Proud. I think he found it flattering that I got so riled up.

Haven't heard from the husband yet. I offered to send him the screen shots. As I looked at his profile I noticed that he hadn't been on in a week, so he's not a regular Facebook checker. I promise I'll update though when/if i hear from him!

My husband is tall, bald (the good kind of bald), has full tattoo sleeves, and just carries himself with an air of confidence. We've been married 8 years and I still find him super hot.

[NightOwl]

Wednesday,

Having earned the title of the betrayed spouse, I question your husband's integrity in this just a little. He should have ended it long before that many messages. The idea that he responded that he "doesn't like to be bothered" egged her on. Please keep a close eye on his phone for a while. Not just reading the texts, but look at the call log and text log on the phone bill. Something isn't right that he didn't end it sooner. I hope I'm wrong.

Craftymissbeth and Wednesday,

Spend some time on a web site: survivinginfidelity.com.

You will both gather good information and find support there.

Thank you for your concern. When I first started reading them, I was sooooo angry with him. I had to reread them a couple more times to really absorb it all. But if you knew my husband, you'd know that loyalty is his middle name. He really is one of a kind. And this isn't me talking with blinders on. That's just how it is. But I WILL be watching very closely, have no doubt.

[permanentvacation]

I really like how you handled the entire situation. Many people would not have said anything to her husband, but I agree that he has the right to know what his wife is doing. I definitely would want someone to tell me if they caught my husband (hypothetical, I'm not married now) trying to get involved with someone else.

[SilverSabre25]

gosh. it's going around right now i guess.


p.s. this comment was in reference to my own life.

[NightOwl]

I really like how you handled the entire situation. Many people would not have said anything to her husband, but I agree that he has the right to know what his wife is doing. I definitely would want someone to tell me if they caught my husband (hypothetical, I'm not married now) trying to get involved with someone else.

That's exactly what I told him!

[tehck_1013]

What a ho-bag.

Sorry but this made me bust up laughing.

But man, I would hate to be put in a situation like this... I am a very jealous woman . Luckily, my husband is the most sweetest, most loyal, and genuinely honest person I've ever met. He currently supervises a maintenance crew at a large nursing home. Occasionally he comes home and tells me about some weird behavior from one of the lady nurses or whatever (its always a different lady). Undeniable flirting. Even after he speaks of me. I mean some people are just deliberately ignorant of any family life/relationships whatsoever and they just really do not care. I get all riled up even though they are old and not good looking at all, and sometimes pretty heavy set, and have absolutely no chance in hell with getting even a raised eyebrow from my hubby . He is really good with pushing them away and hurting their feelings or being callous so they get off his back . He also thinks it's cute that I get so jealous.

But yeah, despite being super jealous and the anxiety attack I would get after seeing text messages like that, I wouldn't have a problem calling a chick up, or texting, emailing, or hell even meeting up to mark my territory and put her back in her place. You did a great thing! That's YOUR man! They love knowing we care that much about them to be upset about "ugly" meaningless flirtation attempts. At least in my situation .