I Have To Endure Screaming And Crying, But You Don't?

[melilley]

Thanks ladies! I'm definitely going to say something at pick up!
I do have an extra one and do give it to him at nap only. I too only give pacifiers to children over 1 at nap, but you can tell this dcb gets one at other times at home.

Oh and I have another dcb who chewed the end off of his pacifier so I stopped giving it to him at nap and after 2 days of screaming, he was fine. I told mom and she was surprised. Well a few days later, dcb snuck one in the car and when mom dropped off, she saw it. She tried to take it and dcb threw a fit so she let him have it. She did ask first and I did give in because this child has been over the top and I just didn't want to deal with it, plus he still gets it at home. He did give it to me as soon as mom left. Then mom picks up and asks for it so she has one at home. This situation doesn't really bother me because this dcm isn't trying to take it yet, it's when they say they took it away and really didn't.

And like unregistered said, children can have different rules here than at home and get used to him, but this particular child cries/throws fits a lot and if they're not going to take it away at home, I'm not going to listen to screaming at nap.

[melilley]

From now on make sure he has a pacifier in his mouth each and every day at pickup.

The reason he is so miserable for you is because she gives him one. If she had stopped he would be happy by now. She is torturing him by doing this. (And torturing you!) It is down right mean.

I had a mom do that to me once. Well, she tried to anyway. I was fooled for maybe a week. I could tell by his behavior that he had one at home. I just started giving it to him again. I decided that I would only stop if she did. A few weeks later his older sister said something about his binky at home.

I should do this, but I only have one of his at home and they would probably take it.

[TickleMonster]

I'm sorry but that is a load of BS! I'd be mad too. We have had that happen here with dcks and trying to break them of the bottle. Parents say they are ready to be done with it and then guess what? A month later we find out they still get bottles at home and we've been withholding bottles and listening to screaming for no reason! Honestly, you must have a serious sit down with both parents and say, "Look, either we are ALL ditching the pacifiers, or NONE of us are. I am more then willing to help out but I am NOT the parent so if you want him broke of pacifiers, that is YOUR responsibility. And next time, Please do not lie to me." Then just give them a cold hard stare.