Oh, the Irritation

[Annalee]

Judging a family daycare by institution standards. That is not a quality issue; that's a flaw in logic. I know you have no choice. Just sayin', that just because "they" say it's right or wrong, doesn't mean it is.

[rosieteddy]

My Husband ,adult son and daughter all lost there jobs at the same time.I thought I would loose my mind. That was 2010. They were kicked out or if it was raining sent to there rooms for the entire naptime 1-3;30 every day. I was so stressed out they were always in my bussiness. If someone was crying or upset they would yell down "everything ok down there" .Seems innocent but drove me nuts.I can handle this I have for 25 years.I always felt judjed .Then my husband went back to work ,part time and worked from home alot.Son and daughter got work and life went back to normal.Well my husband was laid off last week and thinks he might retire now aggggggggggh.Thought I could make you feel better.

[Heidi]

My Husband ,adult son and daughter all lost there jobs at the same time.I thought I would loose my mind. That was 2010. They were kicked out or if it was raining sent to there rooms for the entire naptime 1-3;30 every day. I was so stressed out they were always in my bussiness. If someone was crying or upset they would yell down "everything ok down there" .Seems innocent but drove me nuts.I can handle this I have for 25 years.I always felt judjed .Then my husband went back to work ,part time and worked from home alot.Son and daughter got work and life went back to normal.Well my husband was laid off last week and thinks he might retire now aggggggggggh.Thought I could make you feel better.

aww man! :hug:

I say, put him to work! I'm sure you have a "honey do" list around there somewhere. Maybe he could go fishing in the afternoons?

[NightOwl]

Omg, I didn't even think about retirement.... He's gonna drive me nuts! But we've got another 20 or so years before that happens.

My teenagers are out of school right now for summer and I've already had to ban them from the kitchen during nap time. They want to sleep until noon, then get up right as my kids are going to sleep and make all kinds of noise in the kitchen getting their breakfast/lunches. Sleep until noon = no food until atleast 2:30!

[Blackcat31]

I find it sad that your own DH doesn't respect you or your business (that generates income for the family) enough to be helpful rather than disruptive to your day.

My DH understands the importance of routine and consistency. I could never imagine him being so disrespectful to me (or to the kids in care) that he would wake babies..

Hopefully, your DH finds a hobby that keeps him out of the house after retirement or none of your babe's will ever get a nap.

[NightOwl]

Agreed BC. It made me so angry. He's normally really good with children, hangs out with them, totes babies around on his hip, etc. And they LOVE him! He's rarely off work, so I'm hoping this was just an off day for him.

[Annalee]

I find it sad that your own DH doesn't respect you or your business (that generates income for the family) enough to be helpful rather than disruptive to your day.

My DH understands the importance of routine and consistency. I could never imagine him being so disrespectful to me (or to the kids in care) that he would wake babies..

Hopefully, your DH finds a hobby that keeps him out of the house after retirement or none of your babe's will ever get a nap.

Sad, maybe! Buy like I have said before, if daycare was in the living part of our home, dh and I would be divorced! :::::: So thankful I have a separate room!

[Baby lady]

No, I'm not lying. I would be done. At least with regulated care. I have 4 kids enrolled, 2 are 3-4 days a week. I can take 3 without regulation here. I have 4 children here maybe 1-2 days a week right now. With a little juggling, I could be legally exempt easily. If I were, I'd still do things the way I do. I'd go to trainings, I'd follow safe sleep practices, I'd keep up my CPR.

This is family childcare. In families, children generally sleep in beds, in rooms. It's not cruel, it's not dangerous, it's normal behavior in most industrialized countries. I follow safe sleep practices; not because I particularly agree with all of it, but because I have to. I'll absolutely do that, no problem, but that's my limit, honestly!

I'm really glad that those who live in states where it's required are able to make that work. My first child arrives at 7, and the last one leaves at 5:30. There is no way on earth I could stay in the same room with them for 10.50 hours a day with no help. That is beyond my capacities.

This is exactly where I am, not the same numbers, but my sentiments exactly!

[Blackcat31]

Sad, maybe! Buy like I have said before, if daycare was in the living part of our home, dh and I would be divorced! :::::: So thankful I have a separate room!

This could be true IF the OP started a childcare without her DH's blessing.

But if they decided together that the OP was oging to operate a child care out of their home for whatever reasons, it's not fair for the husband to be unsupportive now...kwim?

If he is benefiting from the daycare (kids at home with mom, family income etc) then it's beyond fair or rude for him to be so disruptive.

I am sure OP does her part to support her DH in his work endeavours.

[Annalee]

This could be true IF the OP started a childcare without her DH's blessing.

But if they decided together that the OP was oging to operate a child care out of their home for whatever reasons, it's not fair for the husband to be unsupportive now...kwim?

If he is benefiting from the daycare (kids at home with mom, family income etc) then it's beyond fair or rude for him to be so disruptive.

I am sure OP does her part to support her DH in his work endeavours.

TRUE! But home daycare is very unique and I am not sure every MALE is prepared for it. ::::::

[NightOwl]

He was and is very supportive! But I agree it is a very unique line of work that he may not have been prepared for. It's rare for him to be home during the day, so it's normally not an issue.