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Same here ,,,,, allow treats but that's it...... way to disruptive to the other children.....
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I let parents come for their one-year-old party. After that, I let them know that the parties are usually more fun for the kids when it's just us.
Having parents there puts them in "parent mode" which is not as pleasant for anyone.
Everyone agrees happyface Well, at least so far
I will never say never again
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Ok, I will be the weirdo here...:
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I have a mom that does this every year. Her dd has been here for three years and she has a party here, complete with treats (no grandparents though..that is weird.)
She brings cookies and ice cream, a couple of presents for the birthday girl, and a present for each of the other children in care. Comes at snack time, then goes back to work until pick up later in the day. So far it has been fine. If it caused a big issue (or she wanted to bring the whole family) I would probably say no. But all the kids have a good time, and we play outside until pick up.Comment
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I told mom it wouldn't work out, too much liability with the other kids involved. She said ok, she understands. Her and dad will still come. I'm fine with that (not really, but open door policy, blah blah blah)
I felt a little bad until mom goes on to say the entire extended family is going out to dinner that night to celebrate the birthday in addition to the big party they are having that weekend. Mom says she wants to make dcg's birthday really special and wants the grandparents to see her being sung to by her friends.
I'm sorry, but give me a break!
Not to mention dcg's behavior around her parents is like night and day, throwing fits, trying to get her way, things she doesn't do with me. Like the others said, it would be a disruption when the kids go into parent mode. The other kids will likely act up too.
Here's the part that I didn't mention (nothing big, but this annoyed me). When she first asked she said "Do you mind if I bring cupcakes to sing before lunch? I took the day off." My husband didn't see what was wrong with that, but I'm sure you guys do!
She then added in "Oh and dad will come too." Then "oh can my mother and mother in law come too?"
So what she was suggesting is a party before lunch. All these adults getting the kids all riled up. Give them cupcakes. Then leaving, without dcg. Then I'm supposed to be able to calm them down, feed them lunch (which no one will want because they had cupcakes) and then try to give them a nap after their sugar high.
Mom didn't see the issue until I explained it to her.
So I told her yes, her and her husband can come with cupcakes AFTER nap and dcg leaves with them
Here's my thought: she says she wants to make dcg's birthday really special. SO IF YOU ARE NOT WORKING THAT DAY THEN KEEP HER HOME AND MAKE IT SPECIAL! UGH
Ok, I think I got it all out of my system ::
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How nice of her to take off her daughter's birthday so that you could make it "really special" :confused::::confused:::
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Wow. Why not do something special with her all day long if she is trying so hard to make it special. Some people. Is it just providers that see things this way. I allow cupcakes but that's it. I do a mini party for the kids. Play with balloons and do some bowling but no one else is involved.
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this whole situation is so annoyingly typical. Parents want all the glory for an awesome birthday but the child doesn't care and other people end up doing all the work. If the inlaws want to see the song then videotape it. No sense disrupting the whole day so that some random people can be there for a 30 second song....really. ugh. it is such an easy and simple request from the parents point of view because all they are doing is showing up. you are the one getting the room ready, prepping kids, trying to calm kids down......I am so glad you put some boundaries on this! after nap and they take the child with them is perfect.Comment
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Lol. I revise my earlier statement.
I suggest you take a paid holiday for DCG's birthday and close the daycare down that day so that mom can host all of DKG's friends at HER house all day for the special day and DCG's grandparents can truly be part of all of it too.
Dear Day Care Families,
In honor of DCG's birthday on Thursday, DCG will be hosting daycare at her house for an all day birthday party! Please do drop offs at 123 Green St and call DCM at 555-0000 with any questions! See you on Friday!
-DCProviderComment
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I personally don't see the big deal...and I have a tiny house
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I've had moms, dads, aunts, grandparents, cousins, older sibs, etc. come for birthdays and other special occasions. I think it is nice. **Shrugs shoulders**Comment
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Even though I am license exempt - I SAY NO WAY. Besides causing an uproar with the kids ( and provider) It could also be a problem with licensing depending on the state ; some places you can't have anyone that hasn't been background checked on property for like more than 5 minutesComment
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