Really?

[CraftyMom]

Dcg is turning 2 in a couple weeks. Mom wants to bring cupcakes, and come to sing happy birthday. I sadi ok, after nap at snack time.

Then she wants to bring her husband too, ok sure

NOW she wants to bring her mother and mother in law too!

Really? We're just singing happy birthday and that's all. I want to say no is that wrong?

Not just for me feeling uncomfortable, but I don't think licensing would allow that

[LadyK8]

Sounds like she wants to have a full blown party for the dcg at your house instead of her's.

[Blackcat31]

I'd allow her to bring treats.

If she shows up. she MUST take DCG with her. ONE drop off and ONE pick up per day per family.


If she is that concerned about her child's birthday, she can keep her home and spend the day with her.

If grandparents are available to come sing too, then they are available ot care for her on her birthday too.

I would say no.

If they really really really need to sing, have them call and you can put them on speaker phone. ::

[Naptime yet?]

No freakin way.

DCM probably wants the family to see all dcg's "friends", make it like a "real" party.

Just say no.

[spinnymarie]

Sure, they can do it right at pick up time. When all the kids can go HOME sugared up and they can take DCG with them.

[NeedaVaca]

Heck no! Seriously? There is no way I would do that...

[drseuss]

No. Then the other kids feel shorted when their birthdays come around. Sounds like 'jealous mom' behavior.

[Leigh]

Oh, God, NO! I don't understand why they would even ask for such a thing! Even if they did take DCG with them, you'd be left with all the other kids jealous that she got picked up, hyped up from having all the visitors in the daycare, and I just envision a total disaster for the rest of your day. I would tell them that they can send treats, period. If they MUST all show up to have a party at your house, I'd schedule it for 20 minutes before closing time.

[snbauser]

I wouldn't allow it. It amazes me how many times I hear about parents wanting to do this. In the 12 years I have been a provider I have never had a parent ask to do this.

[Childminder]

Is this a replacement for the child's family birthday party? Geeze!

I'd say yes on treats and I'll take photos that she can share but NO to having a three ring circus and all those people to disrupt and overwhelm my day care. Just tell her you reconsidered your first answer and think because of privacy issues and all you realized it's not a good idea.

[CraftyMom]

Thanks guys! I'm glad I'm not the only one who thought this was silly! This was a first for me!

I am fine with the cupcakes since I always make a cake or cupcakes for birthdays. I am fine with mom and dad coming. But not the others.

I will politely say no

I know she is having a big birthday party that weekend. Her relatives can sing then ::

[TwinKristi]

No way!!! Have them go home to do that! What weirdos!! She's just trying to get out of cleaning her own house to have guests over! LOL

I can't believe the nerve of some people. Would they be okay with all the other families having their parents and extended families over?? Blame it on licensing if you must, but I find that soooooo rude!!

[TheGoodLife]

I would let her know that too much of a disruption makes the day too hard, so you will allow (if you want) a simple treat for the day, but that is all. I personally would never send my girls to DC on their birthdays, took a day off, and did something g special with them. I know not all people can do so, but if all those people re available to come celebrate, they can do it at home! Blame licensing for not wanting all the people

[bklsmum]

I'd allow the treats but nothing else.

[SquirrellyMama]

Say yes and charge a $50 party fee ��