Someone I Don't Know Is Living In My Home!

[permanentvacation]

I forgot to log in last time.

I didn't mean to get literal help (financial help or borrow items) here, I just wanted to get ideas on how to catch someone or if it's spiritual thing how to get it to stop. And to be able to express my fear and concerns to someone instead of keeping them inside because these noises and activity in my house is getting to me.

[CraftyMom]

Craftymissbeth,

I will buy a camera in a week or so after I get my money together. I don't even know Michael. He shouldn't have to pay for anything to help me. I don't even know how to type this... I just keep saying "ummm" to myself... I am not the type to get help from especially financial help or someone buying something for me or loaning something to me... It's weird to me to even think of someone actually offering something like that. The type of help I am used to getting is more along the lines of asking a teenager that has known my older daughter and me for years to come over and help me carry something heavy, or come look for someone in my house with me. But people (especially people I don't know) don't loan me anything or buy anything for me. I am used to doing everything on my own. My ex does some things here and there for me that ex's typically don't do. Like he fixed the water heater for me. But for the most part, I have taken care of almost everything for myself since I was a kid. I took care of everything for my children (even when we were married) other than paying the bills. My husband worked and paid the bills, I took care of everything else. I'm not used to others helping me and obviously don't know how to react or respond if someone offers to help me.

I totally understand! I also am one to do things myself. But it's ok to accept help! Especially in this case, you NEED to get to the bottom of this for your sanity and safety. Everyone needs a little help sometimes. It doesn't mean you aren't capable of helping yourself. It is just a kind gesture from a "friend".

You may not know Michael, but you also don't know the person that is living in your home that is uninvited, unwanted and freaking you out! And they need to be gone!

[NightOwl]

I understand completely pv. I'm the same way. Too independent and stubborn to accept help! I think everyone here just wants you to have it soooo much, that we're kind of hoping you'll accept the offer. But it's totally understandable to me if you don't.

[Tdhmom]

I understand completely pv. I'm the same way. Too independent and stubborn to accept help! I think everyone here just wants you to have it soooo much, that we're kind of hoping you'll accept the offer. But it's totally understandable to me if you don't.

[permanentvacation]

tdhmom,

I don't that it's pride. I think it's just that it's such a foreign concept to me. When I was married, I would ask my husband for advice, his opinion, etc. he always just told me to decide myself and do it myself. He would give me whatever money I needed for it, but I had to decide what to do, which item to buy, how to arrange everything, what to do regarding the children, everything, I had to decide and figure out on my own except the money. Since we've been divorced, I've had to figure out the money part (for the most part) as well. I'm just not used to anyone helping me.

Typically I brain storm with my sister or tell a situation to someone at church or a daycare parent, but they just help me by giving me a suggestion or idea. I don't get handouts, loans, or actual help, I just ask for ideas on occasion and then I decide what idea to go with and then figure out how to make the idea work.

[craftymissbeth]

Craftymissbeth,

I will buy a camera in a week or so after I get my money together. I don't even know Michael. He shouldn't have to pay for anything to help me. I don't even know how to type this... I just keep saying "ummm" to myself... I am not the type to get help from especially financial help or someone buying something for me or loaning something to me... It's weird to me to even think of someone actually offering something like that. The type of help I am used to getting is more along the lines of asking a teenager that has known my older daughter and me for years to come over and help me carry something heavy, or come look for someone in my house with me. But people (especially people I don't know) don't loan me anything or buy anything for me. I am used to doing everything on my own. My ex does some things here and there for me that ex's typically don't do. Like he fixed the water heater for me. But for the most part, I have taken care of almost everything for myself since I was a kid. I took care of everything for my children (even when we were married) other than paying the bills. My husband worked and paid the bills, I took care of everything else. I'm not used to others helping me and obviously don't know how to react or respond if someone offers to help me.

Sorry, you shouldn't have to explain why you don't want to accept it. I just want you to have it SO bad!

[NightOwl]

Sorry, you shouldn't have to explain why you don't want to accept it. I just want you to have it SO bad!

Right!? We're anxious FOR YOU! We want you to have a resolution so you can sleep at night.

[permanentvacation]

Thank you for being concerned for me. Hopefully I will catch someone or figure out what is doing all this soon.

I might just try to make myself sit in the basement a few nights.

I just called the police and told them I believe someone comes in my basement on random nights. I told them that I have had the police, my nephew, and a couple of neighborhood guys help me try to find an intruder and we never can. So my thought was to sit in the basement with a flare gun. I don't own a real gun. And if someone sneaks into my home I would at least have a way of protecting myself if they attack me. The police man said that by my state's law, I can not shoot an intruder! I was like, EXCUSE ME!!??? If I'm sitting in my house minding my own business and someone breaks in, I can't shoot them? I don't know, maybe I'm wrong here, but I think I should be able to!

I don't think I would have the courage to sit in the basement with no way of defending myself and just sit there like a sitting duck. I am 240 pounds of raw fat. I have a bad knee and bad ankle. I can't out run anyone and I can't out fight anyone. I would have to sit there with a gun or if they attack me, I'm just going to be killed!

I think I will just wait until I can buy a camera in a week or so.

[permanentvacation]

Oh, a baby monitor. I just thought about it and looked up Walmart online. They have cheap $15-20 baby monitors. It's not a visual recording. But I could put a baby monitor in the basement and then I could probably hear them better if someone is down there.

So, this weekend, I will look into getting a cheap baby monitor and the door and window alarms from Walmart and some more baby powder. I don't want to use flour (it's food). I don't want to attract mice or bugs.

[NeedaVaca]

I hear you on the pride thing, I totally get it. Here's a random thought-use it, solve your problem. Then pass it on to another member! First one that comes to mind is crazydaycarelady! She could finally figure out who is destroying her yard It could be a "pay it forward" security camera

[Cradle2crayons]

I hear you on the pride thing, I totally get it. Here's a random thought-use it, solve your problem. Then pass it on to another member! First one that comes to mind is crazydaycarelady! She could finally figure out who is destroying her yard It could be a "pay it forward" security camera

That's an AWESOME idea!!! I second this motion .

[CraftyMom]

I hear you on the pride thing, I totally get it. Here's a random thought-use it, solve your problem. Then pass it on to another member! First one that comes to mind is crazydaycarelady! She could finally figure out who is destroying her yard It could be a "pay it forward" security camera

[Luna]

I hear you on the pride thing, I totally get it. Here's a random thought-use it, solve your problem. Then pass it on to another member! First one that comes to mind is crazydaycarelady! She could finally figure out who is destroying her yard It could be a "pay it forward" security camera

[SilverSabre25]

Oh, a baby monitor. I just thought about it and looked up Walmart online. They have cheap $15-20 baby monitors. It's not a visual recording. But I could put a baby monitor in the basement and then I could probably hear them better if someone is down there.

So, this weekend, I will look into getting a cheap baby monitor and the door and window alarms from Walmart and some more baby powder. I don't want to use flour (it's food). I don't want to attract mice or bugs.

try cornstarch. i don't think bugs are attracted to it and it's cheap.

[TaylorTots]

try cornstarch. i don't think bugs are attracted to it and it's cheap.

Or baking soda and it'll deodorize your basement for you too.

Most baby monitors have a glow in the dark light. Just a thought.