Non Speaking Child And Terming

[sharlan]

Well mom came and I gave her the letter. I explained to her that everything I was feeling. I also explained to her that if DCG couldn't communicate her needs to me then this may not be the best fit. Her response was the same as always, how she is just perfect for everyone else and she so young, I at that point cut her off and said well regardless of how she acts for everyone else, this is how she is here and between her and her 6 month old that screams all day, I just don't think its working and the kids are obviously not happy here or uncomfortable with me and we eaither need to work on it, or this may not be the best fit for them. Then the mom looked happy and said that maybe this is will show her husband that she needs to be home with the kids instead of working. So now Im wondering if she has been telling the 3 year old to act this way.

B I N G O! You just hit the nail on the head. Mom has been sabotaging everything. She doesn't want to work and you are going to be the scapegoat.

[My3cents]

B I N G O! You just hit the nail on the head. Mom has been sabotaging everything. She doesn't want to work and you are going to be the scapegoat.

If that is the case please call her out on it. Mom, If you don't want to work and be home with your children that is ok, but please don't use me as the reason for this.

[My3cents]

See that's what's so frustrating. She literally just blank stares at me. Nothing had changed at home and she turns into a normal kid the min her parents walk in the door. She is also fine and happy in the morning. If I try to tell her no or ask her a question She won't even look at me. When she does she rolls her eyes at me and then when I finally get her attention she screams at me "what" and then I handle it and she goes to time out and crys and we do this all day. And it doesn't help that her mom always says well I have never seen her act like that or yesterday she said that she was just still trying to get used to me. I only charge them 180.00 a week for the 3 year old and the 6 month old that screams all day and has ruined my carpet because she constantly spits up everywhere. I feel like I have failed since I have been trying for 5 months and this is where we are.

the above stood out to me. Your doing childcare. I blame only you for your ruined carpet, because that is something you can control. The child can't control the spitting up or most likely they would. If you know the kiddo does this you could put the child on something else that is washable or have a more kid friendly flooring. This is normal in daycare and it does sound like reflux.

and you shouldn't resent what you decided to charge them-

Kudos for trying but why would you let this go on for that long? I feel you jeopardize the loss of other clients when you allow this much stress on yourself and the other children.

I do wish you the best with this and I say the above out of care not as anything else other then that-

[cara041083]

the above stood out to me. Your doing childcare. I blame only you for your ruined carpet, because that is something you can control. The child can't control the spitting up or most likely they would. If you know the kiddo does this you could put the child on something else that is washable or have a more kid friendly flooring. This is normal in daycare and it does sound like reflux.

and you shouldn't resent what you decided to charge them-

Kudos for trying but why would you let this go on for that long? I feel you jeopardize the loss of other clients when you allow this much stress on yourself and the other children.

I do wish you the best with this and I say the above out of care not as anything else other then that-

No the carpet thing I get. I did allow her to crawl on the floor because when I contain her, she screams even louder and longer so I choose to do that. I'm really not that up set about it I was just very frazzled yesterday . the 180 a week I did because I normally charge $100 a week but offered them a discount thinking I was doing the right thing by only having to deal with 1 family for 2 kids, if that makes any sense. Im not upset with only getting paid that. Im bothered by the fact that for an infant and toddler, she can't find that cheep anywhere else so you would think she would want to work with me. Heck she was on my wait list for 4 months because of what I offer at low prices. Unfortunately with my 4 kids and there ages, I can only take 6 kids. So I wouldn't be making enough until I found there replacement. I know you did mean to hurt my feelings. That's what's great about this site. You always get help from all aspects