Am I Wrong? Letter Help

[gracepatiencelove]

Does this lady not get that this is your HOME?? I would be so offended. And no one would tell me who I could have in my home or question my judgement. Don't trust me? Well there's plenty of others who do! Buh bye! Keep us updated please!

She said she was having trouble with that. She wanted me to operate as a center during her hours. She admitted she struggled with the line between daycare/home.

[gracepatiencelove]

I had a similar mom. Gave me the 3rd degree over everything. I was under a microscope which I hated

For example: One day my husband's friend stopped by to pick up a tool. I didn't even know about it, it was literally 2 minutes, he went around to the back of the garage where my husband was, and never stepped foot in the house. This dcm shows up as he's leaving and starts drilling me about who "this strange man was that was in my yard" I had no answers and said no one was here. She started getting upset, thinking I was hiding something. I then got my husband and asked if anyone was here, he says oh yeah, so and so stopped by to grab a tool. So now dcm is upset because I didn't know there was "a strange man" walking around our property.

Needless to say I was frustrated and laid into my poor husband about letting me know if someone is here, who in turn got angry with me because he couldn't have a friend stop by for a minute.

Another time my mil stopped by to drop off some art supplies (she works at a craft company). Another 2 minute visit. Of course dcm's husband is picking up at the same time. Another interrogation

I also had LOTS of small issues with this family, wanting nanny type care. Ultimately they didn't like my policies and got a nanny!

I rarely have people over during daycare hours. It's frustrating that I can't have friends and family stop by like I'm a prisoner in my home all day.

I understand the concern of course. Parents are trusting us with their children, but that's the point...TRUST us!

Here anyone over 15 that is regularly on the premises during daycare hours needs a cori check. No one fits this, since no one is here regularly. I can't see having everyone I know have a cori check just in case they stop by for a minute

Here it depends on the type of license

But, that would upset me!

That's kind of what happened.

We have a shared car port. Neighbor was clearing it out (I am a single mom and can't do it on my own, heavy stuff left by old neighbors). She was startled as she exited thru car port. Messaged me literally interrogating. Okay... are you also going to interrogate centers about those who live near them? No. Is this dude walking in and doing diaper changes, too? No. It just rubbed me the wrong way.

[Unregistered]

Here any one who is in your home during your stated hours or while you have children present is supposed to be background checked. I had to have my father background checked when he stayed here during the last week of his life. He could barely sign the form
The standard is that you are supposed to keep your eyes on any unauthorized person at every minute. If you can't do that, they can't be there. And to that I say, why would I not be keeping my eyes on my children instead??
I can imagine the problems that probably caused this policy to be put in place. But it makes life impossible. I need to have my furnace or toilet or washing machine fixed? I have to do that after hours. They don't all work after hours, or you can't schedule a "window" of time that is all after hours.

[Shell]

Glad it worked out for the best, and it's great that you stood your ground about your policies happyface