Message From Mom, Need Help ASAP

[Unregistered]

Maybe have her email her concerns to you to go over at when you have time this weekend, and that you will get back to her by a determined time to discuss it. They you have a copy in writing, and time to make a decision without feeling trapped or put on the spot.

[debbiedoeszip]

<<<<The problem with going out to coffee, is that now you're stuck there, in a public place, till the coffee's gone, or you can come up with a reason to leave.>>>

I disagree. At any time, she could tell dcm that she is leaving. She doesn't have to finish her coffee. "I'm off now. You take care and I'll see you Monday morning." Easy peasy.

[sahm1225]

Updates?

[taylorw1210]

If you guys met over the weekend I hope things went better than anticipated!

[Unregistered]

Op

Met with mom on Friday evening. I recorded the converstation on my phone. NannyD was right. Thursday the girls went to the restroom I let them. Previously didn't see anything wrong with 2 girls using the restroom together. Mom said that my dd put toliet paper to use like a (pad) mom was not upset, mad or angry said she wanted to keep her here bc she loves us, it wasn't meant in a bad way exc. said they were staying see you on Monday. Talked to my dd she broke down crying promising up & down she did not do it she gave her the toilet paper but didn't do it to her. She used tp also. Dcd messaged me yesterday afternoon and says they aren't coming back. He kept saying it wasn't my fault or my dd fault but he still can't bring her back. Then said we would like ur dd to spend the night next weekend our dd would love that. We can all get together twice a month for play dates. Could we still use you for drop in? Makes 0 sense. I termed a problem kid last week now we are really going to hurt.

Ps changed my rule to 1 @ a time in BR

[Second Home]

That does not make sense , it's weird that they will not bring her to you but want you dd to sleepover their house . I would not let my dd sleepover in this situation nor take them on a drop in basis . Either they trust you to care for their kid or they don't .

[SilverSabre25]

I'm not following either...what a weird complaint.

[childcaremom]

Met with mom on Friday evening. I recorded the converstation on my phone. NannyD was right. Thursday the girls went to the restroom I let them. Previously didn't see anything wrong with 2 girls using the restroom together. Mom said that my dd put toliet paper to use like a (pad) mom was not upset, mad or angry said she wanted to keep her here bc she loves us, it wasn't meant in a bad way exc. said they were staying see you on Monday. Talked to my dd she broke down crying promising up & down she did not do it she gave her the toilet paper but didn't do it to her. She used tp also. Dcd messaged me yesterday afternoon and says they aren't coming back. He kept saying it wasn't my fault or my dd fault but he still can't bring her back. Then said we would like ur dd to spend the night next weekend our dd would love that. We can all get together twice a month for play dates. Could we still use you for drop in? Makes 0 sense. I termed a problem kid last week now we are really going to hurt.

Ps changed my rule to 1 @ a time in BR

I'm not sure what they are complaining about? Two kids at once in the bathroom?

Either way, I would not allow playdates or sleepovers at their house, and I would no longer keep them as a client. Period.

[daycaremum]

So they don't want to bring their daughter back, but are willing to let the girls have sleep overs with one another???
This makes no sense.
So the little girl had toilet paper in her underwear like a pad and said your daughter did it???
So what???
First, why did she leave it in there if she didn't want it in there. Second why would she let another kid fold up toilet paper and put it in her underwear?
Third, so what if it happened at all, sounds like modeling somebodies mom to me....
Glad they aren't coming back, but think you should sever ties, no play dates or sleep overs.
If they can't trust you to care for their child, then your child shouldn't go to their house, and you shouldn't have theirs over for any "sleepover"......
The whole thing is very bizarre....

[wdmmom]

Strange....

And if they are leaving, I would tell them that your policies are in place so they need to pay the notice time if they won't be there.

[NeedaVaca]

I'm not following either...what a weird complaint.

The story is very odd and no I would not allow my DD to have sleepovers or play dates at this point.

[SilverSabre25]

So they don't want to bring their daughter back, but are willing to let the girls have sleep overs with one another???
This makes no sense.
So the little girl had toilet paper in her underwear like a pad and said your daughter did it???
So what???
First, why did she leave it in there if she didn't want it in there. Second why would she let another kid fold up toilet paper and put it in her underwear?
Third, so what if it happened at all, sounds like modeling somebodies mom to me....
Glad they aren't coming back, but think you should sever ties, no play dates or sleep overs.
If they can't trust you to care for their child, then your child shouldn't go to their house, and you shouldn't have theirs over for any "sleepover"......
The whole thing is very bizarre....

yeah this! I just am not coherent enough to get it down. This exactly!

[Solandia]

I wouldn't do sleepovers. No playdates at each other's house. Meet up at the park, sure.

As far as the incident goes, 4yo (and older!) follow through on crazy ideas. I doubt that my friends and I are not the only ones to make t.p "maxi pads" and use t.p. stuff our fake bikini tops (by turning pulling our shirt bottoms down the top? Since I remember this clearly, I am sure I was well beyond the age of "knowing better".

[CraftyMom]

I agree with everyone, just weird.

So if they say that copying mom and pretending to have a pad in their underwear is bad, they are giving their daughter the wrong impression about using a pad. Maybe the girl will think mom is doing something bad when she uses a pad? Just too confusing for kids, they didn't do anything wrong.

I do understand if they are concerned about a privacy issue, but that doesn't seem to be their complaint.

I would not allow the sleepover or playdates.

For all you know it was all dcg's idea and not your daughter!

[sharlan]

Personally, I would end all contact. There is no way that I would allow my dd to spend the night or have playdates. That may just be their way to interrogate her without you present.