You're Not My Friend Anymore!

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Honestly, I think for her it's about having control; the more she knows it bothers your daughter, the more she is going to do it to get her way. I would probably try to train your daughter how to refuse to be this girls victim because it's just feeding into the girls need for power and ruining your daughters self esteem by subjecting her to a poisonous relationship. As someone who has been bullied and manipulated a lot growing-up, I know it is easier said that done.

This might sound a bit harsh but IMO, I think this little girl needs to be kicked off her high horse a bit by getting a taste of her own medicine. Not sure how ethical this is, but maybe the next time the girl says this try to train your daughter to say something like "If you're going to treat me like that, then I don't want to be your friend either". This girl needs to know that words have meaning and not to say what you don't mean (you can probably also read a book about something like this and have a curriculum about it-maybe try that before this approach).

IK we are trying to be teaching "we're all friend" and "lets all be friends" and stuff (trust me I am all pro anti-bullying curriculum) but in the real world, you don't get along with everyone and not everyone is going to want to be your friend and its better to just respect that persons wishes and to protect yourself from any further emotional rejection or manipulation. Also, this little girl needs to learn that words are serious or else, when she gets older she isn't going to have much friends if she always treats them that way.

She's usually a sweet girl, great parents, too. I really think it's just the age rather than actual bullying. And on the occasion that my DD was the one who left DCG out, I made a point to address it. "DD said she doesn't want to be friends? How did that make you feel? It made you feel sad? I'm sorry it made you sad. Do you think it makes DD sad when you say that to her?". And then when DCG says it, I remind her if how she felt in the reverse situation. That's helped some.

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I use this for tattling. If its not an emergency and no one is hurt, then use your words. If you come tell on sometime...instant time out.

I make them tattle to the dog. :: unless you're bleeding, I don't want to hear it .