When Pick-Up Person Is Under the Influence

[Blackcat31]

Here is what Tom Copeland says about this. He has an excellent suggestion about making a transportation policy with families UPON enrollment so you know exactly what to do...

http://www.tomcopelandblog.com/2011/07/what-to-do-when-a-parent-shows-up-drunk.html

[nannyde]

I would take the kidnapping charges. Hell will freeze over before I let one of my babies out the door with someone I think is under the influence. I don't care what the law is.



I tell them at the interview that if anyone comes to pick up and I think they are uti I am keeping the kid. Don't like it then be gone.

[TaylorTots]

This has happened to me a few years ago as a provider. I opened door, DCD smelled of alcohol, his eyes weren't focused and he was slurring. He could stand but his walk was slow and faulty. I told him I needed to take DCG to potty. Called 911 (always have a phone in my back pocket) while in there and told them either DCD was under the influence or needed medical attention. By the time we slowly got done peeing and washing our hands, the police had arrived with an ambulance at our house. THEY then took care of the decisions and DCG. No longer my responsibility and I didn't withhold the child from the parent.

[Unregistered]

With my set up I could not do the 'stall & call' tactic in most cases, unless maybe it was my last pick up. Parents come right in and downstairs into my daycare. I slip into another area leaving the possibly intoxicated person with the kids. hmmm something for me to think about.

[Unregistered]

That should read 'I couldn't slip into.....

[KiddieCahoots]

I do exactly that!!!! Great great advice!!

Thank you Cradle2crayons!

[NightOwl]

You can't withhold a child, but you can give them unpleasant options. #1 Find someone else to pick up the child or #2 leave with the child and I will call the police and cps. That's not withholding, that's offering acceptable alternatives. I bet $1000 bucks they find an alternate person to transport.

[Cradle2crayons]

I would take the kidnapping charges. Hell will freeze over before I let one of my babies out the door with someone I think is under the influence. I don't care what the law is.



I tell them at the interview that if anyone comes to pick up and I think they are uti I am keeping the kid. Don't like it then be gone.

completely agree.

[Laurel]

This has happened to me a few years ago as a provider. I opened door, DCD smelled of alcohol, his eyes weren't focused and he was slurring. He could stand but his walk was slow and faulty. I told him I needed to take DCG to potty. Called 911 (always have a phone in my back pocket) while in there and told them either DCD was under the influence or needed medical attention. By the time we slowly got done peeing and washing our hands, the police had arrived with an ambulance at our house. THEY then took care of the decisions and DCG. No longer my responsibility and I didn't withhold the child from the parent.

Very good idea. I guess if is an infant one could say diaper change or some other excuse.

[TaylorTots]

Very good idea. I guess if is an infant one could say diaper change or some other excuse.

Yeah. My biggest concern would be making sure you don't leave them with access to other DCKs. In my case, this DCK was the last child for pick up (DCD was late-wonderwhy-).

[coolconfidentme]

I would take the kidnapping charges. Hell will freeze over before I let one of my babies out the door with someone I think is under the influence. I don't care what the law is.



I tell them at the interview that if anyone comes to pick up and I think they are uti I am keeping the kid. Don't like it then be gone.

SAME HERE!!!
I couldn't live with myself if something happened to a child & I could have prevented it.

[Lucy]

My brother-in-law's ex-wife went to school to pick up their 2nd grader, and she was dopey from taking too many pain pills. They would not release the child to her, and my brother-in-law had to leave work to go to the school.

I never thought about the fact that they can't hold the child. In this case, they did. I wonder if it's different in different states. You would think a public school would know the laws about this.

[Blackcat31]

My brother-in-law's ex-wife went to school to pick up their 2nd grader, and she was dopey from taking too many pain pills. They would not release the child to her, and my brother-in-law had to leave work to go to the school.

I never thought about the fact that they can't hold the child. In this case, they did. I wonder if it's different in different states. You would think a public school would know the laws about this.

I think public schools might have different rules/liabilities than providers....

I don't know... :confused:

I am curious now so I might have to see what I can find out...

[Laurel]

My brother-in-law's ex-wife went to school to pick up their 2nd grader, and she was dopey from taking too many pain pills. They would not release the child to her, and my brother-in-law had to leave work to go to the school.

I never thought about the fact that they can't hold the child. In this case, they did. I wonder if it's different in different states. You would think a public school would know the laws about this.

The public school I talked about in my first post was a public school in Ohio. Apparently the principal was supposed to let the child leave but talked the dad out of it.

I suppose we could say we weren't going to let the child leave until someone else came to pick up. It is likely the parent wouldn't know their rights anyway. By the time it got all straightened out then someone else may have arrived to pick up that we called. That might work.

Laurel

[Laurel]

Yeah. My biggest concern would be making sure you don't leave them with access to other DCKs. In my case, this DCK was the last child for pick up (DCD was late-wonderwhy-).

Well here when a child has to go potty the others tag along anyway so it wouldn't matter.

Laurel