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Sitting down at lunch all the kids and I try to have conversations while we eat. Today dcb blurts out we hate you. I asked who do you hate? He says my mom and dad hate you and so do I and my sister. We do not use the word hate in my home and I haven't heard anyone else talking like that at all. So do I let it go? Bring up to mom at pickup? The parents and I have had our differences because they want special treatment and I won't give it so we aren't super friendly. But I have to say it bothers me quite a bit and I don't know if I just need to get tougher and not let stuff like that bother me. What would any of you do in this situation?
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I am thinking he must have heard that somewhere. I would bring it up to the parents, for sure. "Today little Tommy said that Dcm, Dcd, sister and he all hated me. While I am sure that isn't the case, we don't use that word here. Maybe you could talk to him about it." -
I also would not provide care for someone who "hated" me. Sounds like he overheard a conversation and repeated it to you
My guess is they are already looking at other daycares.
You may want to term to show them that you do not appreciate being talked about like that.Comment
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Eh. I'd treat it the same way I treat my daughter's declarations of hatred. "Ok." or "Okay, well I love you anyway."Hee hee! Look, I have a signature!Comment
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Do you have any idea if they're looking for new child care? I agree with bringing right to the forefront and asking them if they're upset about something, looking for childcare, etc. Doesn't sound like he said it out of anger so I'm thinking he did hear it at home.
I'd be advertising for new dcps right away and replace them.
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I've had kids tell me they don't like it here, they aren't coming back, etc. during a conflict, and I find a simple response is usually best (we will be sad but okay) I've never had a child tell me their whole family hates me just out of the blue - and it seems suspect in light of the other issues with the parents. I wouldn't be able to ignore that.Comment
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Your parents drop you off daily to a person they hate? You must be just the joy of their existence.Comment
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Lol!
Definitely bring it up. Just casually say 'today at lunch dcb said the strangest thing! He said that your whole family Hates me. I explained that we don't use the word 'hate' at daycare. Isn't that crazy? No clue where he got it from either, it was just so random.'
And just stare at them in silence. People have the habit of talking too much when there's uncomfortable silence. Go from there.Comment
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I think the "I hate you" in anger actually means less than this case. This boy is obviously repeating a conversation he heard at home. If it was a great family I would have a hard time believing it but if the relationship is strained I would believe that it was probably a topic of conversation at home and I would absolutely tell the parents about it. If I was in a position to do so I would probably term, but I know its not always that easy. But I would want parents to know I know what they are saying about me behind my back!Comment
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