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I bet he overheard them say that they hate leaving him at daycare, not that they hate YOU. Most parents hate leaving their kids all day. I'd tell him that "hate" is a bad word, and if he says it again, I'd sit his butt down for a few min.
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I would have a chat with the parents. If they are spewing that kind of talk and attitude towards you at home, influencing the child toward you, I wouldn't want that kind of negativity coming into my home.Comment
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In all honesty for me I could care less what they thought or said about me behind my back. As long they aren't being disrespectful to my face while in my home and follow my policies I don't see what the big deal is. Parents could think what they want to think, it doesn't hurt my feelings.
If they get butt-hurt and want to go home and vent to their family in the comfort and privacy of their own home because I don't want to cater to their special requests then fine by me.
If the child is disrespectful or hurtful because of the conversation or because the child is feeding off of this energy or if the parents behavior is disrespectful or goes against my policies, then I will address it. Otherwise I would leave it.
I vent about my clients all of the time for one thing or another but it's not such a big deal that I would term over it, I just vent.
Also to a child "I hate it .." sounds pretty much the same as "I hate her..". Little ears tend to hear things differently than how they come out and don't understand context that words are used in. I would hate to bring this up in a way that actually started problems if there really wasn't an issue to begin with KWIM?Comment
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So I told mom at pick up what dcboy said and I think her face got a little red. She said they would have a talk at home. I can't wait to see if the dad says anything to me at drop off tomorrow or drops and runs. Oh well I have decided not to let it bother me. If they dislike me because I don't give in to their every want then too bad for them and good for me! I'm going to have a great night. A fellow provider in town is having a cpr/first aid class at her house and I'm looking forward to getting that out of the way tonight.Comment
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Let's hope this is the case. Although idt many of my families actually hate using daycare. It's definately a lifestyle choice. Every family could make it on one income. It would require only a change in priorities, putting the child(ren) highest9 (ie: one car, smaller house, no cable/satelite, less fancy phone or internet service, less high maintenance hair/nails, it goes on and on!).Comment
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The OP stated there were issues already. I get venting, but using the word "hate" to describe the provider? I'm not comfortable watching a child whose parents may talk like that about me.
I guess I see that as completely different than a 4 yo telling me he hates me because I won't let him do something, etc.Comment
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"We hate you"
I would definitely address it with the parents and I would do so in front of the DCB. I think that even if only one parent is picking up, it's still important to address it with the other parent even if it's not until the following day.
My concern would be that the DCB was very specific with his comments. Those aren't typical comments from a kid his age to come up with independently. If he had said "I hate you" rather than saying what he said, you could chalk it up to the DCB saying it out of anger but it sounds more like he's repeating stuff that he's heard his parents say or parts of things that he might have heard his parents say.
Pay attention to the parents' response and if it doesn't seem right, then protect yourself and let that family go.Comment
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I'm curious to see how the parents act todayComment
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Well dc dad is late. Fridays are their late day but they are 15 minutes late as of now. And I've already started advertising for their 2 spots.Comment
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He just dropped off. He talked more than usual and acted kind of guilty. Makes me laughComment
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Hope those two spots fill for you with wonderful loving dcfs!Comment
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Thank you TaylorTots! I hope so tooComment
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