Have You Ever Termed A Family So You Could Enroll Another?

[Atroya]

I have done this recently also. I practice what I am going to say too!

You have every right to do it. I termed a 4yr old preschooler also. He was not fitting in with the other kids, was unnaturally nervous about everything, one of my dogs HATED him for some reason, preschool had a policy about the kids having to be walked all the way to the classroom(ridiculous to do with 2 other toddlers in the winter) AND my husband's cousin had a baby who needed part time care. So I got the same pay, but much better situation for me. Hard to do, but one of the best decisions I have made.

[TaylorTots]

Thank you guys - the term went fine. DCD picked up and he didn't say too much. I simply said she wasn't adjusting and her preschool schedule was causing distractions when she joined care mid-day. He nodded in agreement, signed the term letter and took his copy. Couldn't have went smoother, honestly.

Signing on the twins tonight to start care in 2 weeks and my school age interview tonight went well, though DCM was super nervous the entire time

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

Thank you guys - the term went fine. DCD picked up and he didn't say too much. I simply said she wasn't adjusting and her preschool schedule was causing distractions when she joined care mid-day. He nodded in agreement, signed the term letter and took his copy. Couldn't have went smoother, honestly.

Signing on the twins tonight to start care in 2 weeks and my school age interview tonight went well, though DCM was super nervous the entire time

Glad to read it!

[TaylorTots]

Nevermind on that. DCM just called, ended up in tears, etc. Ugh - it might be Tuesday but my goodness what a day!

[taylorw1210]

Oh no. What did DCM say?

[Play Care]

Nevermind on that. DCM just called, ended up in tears, etc. Ugh - it might be Tuesday but my goodness what a day!

Oh no! Sorry about that!

[TaylorTots]

Oh no. What did DCM say?

She texted me, asked me if we could discuss the notice. I had the twins coming over to sign so told her I would call her in a bit. When I did, she asked me why the notice was given. When I simply said I was unable to meet DCK's needs, she pushed - saying if there was a problem with DCK's behavior then she wanted to address it with DCK. I said there was behavior issues, she asked what kind. I simply said "Lots of listening issues and arguing. I told DCK, for example, 19 times today to lay down on her mat during rest time. I sat with her the entire nap period to prevent her from getting up and running around during rest time. Her actions were a big distraction for the other children and I feel she has outgrown my childcare program." DCM started crying on the phone saying She had such a horrible day at work and now this... I said I was confident this was the right decision for all the children in my care and her DCK. I said to let me know if I can help you in terms of referrals, I know some private preschool programs that may better meet her needs."

I don't normally give that much but I stink at the phone. I do in person or texting, but didn't want to have a big confrontation in the morning with her, know what I mean?

She then said DCD was staying home the first two days of Spring Break with DCK and her older sister (who comes on spring break). I am hoping they don't try to get out of fees for those days for the sister - I set aside her spot and they made it clear she would be here up until now.

Oh well, I will have a super light enrollment for the beginning of Spring Break - it'll be a nice break for me.

Oh no! Sorry about that!

Thanks I am ready for Friday now! LOL

[Blackcat31]

She texted me, asked me if we could discuss the notice. I had the twins coming over to sign so told her I would call her in a bit. When I did, she asked me why the notice was given. When I simply said I was unable to meet DCK's needs, she pushed - saying if there was a problem with DCK's behavior then she wanted to address it with DCK. I said there was behavior issues, she asked what kind. I simply said "Lots of listening issues and arguing. I told DCK, for example, 19 times today to lay down on her mat during rest time. I sat with her the entire nap period to prevent her from getting up and running around during rest time. Her actions were a big distraction for the other children and I feel she has outgrown my childcare program." DCM started crying on the phone saying She had such a horrible day at work and now this... I said I was confident this was the right decision for all the children in my care and her DCK. I said to let me know if I can help you in terms of referrals, I know some private preschool programs that may better meet her needs."

I don't normally give that much but I stink at the phone. I do in person or texting, but didn't want to have a big confrontation in the morning with her, know what I mean?

She then said DCD was staying home the first two days of Spring Break with DCK and her older sister (who comes on spring break). I am hoping they don't try to get out of fees for those days for the sister - I set aside her spot and they made it clear she would be here up until now.

Oh well, I will have a super light enrollment for the beginning of Spring Break - it'll be a nice break for me.



Thanks I am ready for Friday now! LOL

I think you handled it great!

If a parent calls and wants to discuss it, I will usually do what you did and just give examples but not too much...

I know it ****s for her (DCM) because she had a bad day at work and all but honestly, you still have to do what's best for your group and having to give DCG that much attention and redirection throughout the day just proves that she needs a different environment. As a preschooler, she should be getting easier NOT harder.

I think that you did great simply by agreeing to talk about it with DCM but not taking back your notice or termination.

Well done!

[TaylorTots]

I think you handled it great!

If a parent calls and wants to discuss it, I will usually do what you did and just give examples but not too much...

I know it ****s for her (DCM) because she had a bad day at work and all but honestly, you still have to do what's best for your group and having to give DCG that much attention and redirection throughout the day just proves that she needs a different environment. As a preschooler, she should be getting easier NOT harder.

I think that you did great simply by agreeing to talk about it with DCM but not taking back your notice or termination.

Well done!

Thanks It felt good to stick to my guns.

[tntsmom]

I do not see anything wrong with it. I have termed parents or turned kiddos down because I like harmonious days and for everyone to enjoy their time away from their parents the kiddos need to mesh well.

[Play Care]

She texted me, asked me if we could discuss the notice. I had the twins coming over to sign so told her I would call her in a bit. When I did, she asked me why the notice was given. When I simply said I was unable to meet DCK's needs, she pushed - saying if there was a problem with DCK's behavior then she wanted to address it with DCK. I said there was behavior issues, she asked what kind. I simply said "Lots of listening issues and arguing. I told DCK, for example, 19 times today to lay down on her mat during rest time. I sat with her the entire nap period to prevent her from getting up and running around during rest time. Her actions were a big distraction for the other children and I feel she has outgrown my childcare program." DCM started crying on the phone saying She had such a horrible day at work and now this... I said I was confident this was the right decision for all the children in my care and her DCK. I said to let me know if I can help you in terms of referrals, I know some private preschool programs that may better meet her needs."

I don't normally give that much but I stink at the phone. I do in person or texting, but didn't want to have a big confrontation in the morning with her, know what I mean?

She then said DCD was staying home the first two days of Spring Break with DCK and her older sister (who comes on spring break). I am hoping they don't try to get out of fees for those days for the sister - I set aside her spot and they made it clear she would be here up until now.

Oh well, I will have a super light enrollment for the beginning of Spring Break - it'll be a nice break for me.



Thanks I am ready for Friday now! LOL

I think you did an awesome job! happyface

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

Great job! It must be hard for a parent to hear that their child is just not the best fit somewhere but ultimately we do have to do what is in the BEST interest of the group.

[Cat Herder]

I think you handled it very well.

[renodeb]

The only time I have done that is replacing a pt with a ft family after offering the current family the spot. I agree with the others, the 4 year old is the most logical choice, I usually just take up to 3 years old because they do tend to outgrow my dc. Don't tell them your terming to take twins.
Deb