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[Sugar Magnolia]

"No. That's not possible. "
Done!
Honesty, I can't even imagine why someone who called licensing with a false report would even REMOTELY consider wanting to "visit". Its weird. It's creepy. Red flag! Run, don't walk! Maybe it's paranoia, but she could be looking for.....I dunno....ammo for another call?

Wouldn't it be great to just say....."you are creepy, I never want you darkening my door ever again, go the heck away and take your false allegations with you." ?

[bloominggenius]

Here's how the letter goes...

I would write this:

Dear Jane,

I feel that I need to be clear about a few things. I enjoyed watching your children but boundaries have been an issue. I am not willing to revisit caring for your children. The spot check for allegations that came right after you left was too much of a coincidence, as I did not have issues with any other family.
Although the inspection resulted a stellar review, it was an inconvenience that should never have happened.

I do not feel at this point that I am good match for your family. I cannot meet your needs for visits and I am not able to trust that there won't be more issues with boundaries.

Now that I have made my decision, I need for you to understand that I have a right to privacy. I am letting you know that I do not wish to have further discussions about this, because I will not be changing my mind. Please stop calling and sending notes, as I will be hanging up and marking them "Return to sender." To be clear, there is to be no further contact with our family.

As we live in the same town, I would like to see this remain civil and not have animosity. Please respect our space.

Sincerely..... xxxx

Send it certified mail and send a copy to yourself (regular mail) the same day without opening it. Place it in a file with the letter she sent you and notes about the phone calls and visits. The next time she contacts you, take the folder and head for the police dept. They will give her a friendly warning and it should stop.

I am very familiar with this issue. I had a daycare dad who got mad and then stalked my husband and I for weeks until I got him fired for harassing us from his work computer, and had the legal team at his company and the police explain to him about stalking laws. :hug:

[TwinKristi]

I've never confronted her about reporting me I guess I didn't want her to have the satisfaction of knowing it bothered me and I'm not sure if my licensor was supposed to be as open with me as she was about what was told to her and I didn't want her in any trouble. On the plus side I was also due for my inspection at that time so she got that out of the way while she was here too!

I remember the post about the creeper dad but they called Lic on you?? What did they say? I would have a hard time keeping my mouth shut on that one. I would be soooooooo tempted to say something along the lines of "unfortunately I feel it's a liability to have your children in my home since you reported my childcare to licensing for ____, I enjoyed watching your children but I can't accept them back into my home." and leave it at that.
I'm very curious what she reported you for! What a psycho!!

[Maggie]

Both parents called licensing and made seperate reports.Dad said he was denied access to his children, not true he was told he could pickup while I wasn't here but not visit. Mom said I had a sub who was not an approved sub, that was true but she signed a letter that stated daycare will be closed for 2 hours that day but she was hiring my daughter to babysit for those 2 hours.(that was done mainly as a favor to her because her and dad were out of pto.) Dad also said I allowed them to bring their sick kids to daycare, kind of true I allowed them to break 24 hour rule, 2 year old was sent home one morning with a low grade fever, next morning mom says he woke up fever free can I please bring them. Because other then SA hers were my only ones that day so I allowed them to drop off after kids went to school and pickup before they got off the bus. Dad was POed because he had to pickup early even though kid was fever free so I explained to him rules say fever free for 24 hours and I could get in trouble for allowing them to come at all.

[KDC]

Both parents called licensing and made seperate reports.Dad said he was denied access to his children, not true he was told he could pickup while I wasn't here but not visit. Mom said I had a sub who was not an approved sub, that was true but she signed a letter that stated daycare will be closed for 2 hours that day but she was hiring my daughter to babysit for those 2 hours.(that was done mainly as a favor to her because her and dad were out of pto.) Dad also said I allowed them to bring their sick kids to daycare, kind of true I allowed them to break 24 hour rule, 2 year old was sent home one morning with a low grade fever, next morning mom says he woke up fever free can I please bring them. Because other then SA hers were my only ones that day so I allowed them to drop off after kids went to school and pickup before they got off the bus. Dad was POed because he had to pickup early even though kid was fever free so I explained to him rules say fever free for 24 hours and I could get in trouble for allowing them to come at all.

WOW!! It takes guts to call and give this information to licensing when your provider was doing everything she could to help you avoid watching YOUR OWN KID. However, it takes some major ba@@s to come back and creep and ask to see you after that. I wouldn't want to get licensing any more involved and as much as it sounds GREAT to throw it in their face, being the better person sounds better to me. I would continue to ignore, and send a written letter if ignoring doesn't work. I would definitely wouldn't want this family around MY kids. Too bad you couldn't tell them state requirements do not allow visits from past terminated families ::