DCP Shopping For New Daycares

[mia]

That, to me, is as good as a two weeks notice...and I would make sure she knows it

[TwinKristi]

sad that she's keeping her there just for the money no matter what she says.

Yeah and this is her 3rd daycare? Obviously she's "shopping" a bit too much for her child to ever fully acclimate to a setting!

[craftymissbeth]

Yeah and this is her 3rd daycare? Obviously she's "shopping" a bit too much for her child to ever fully acclimate to a setting!

Her child was termed by the other two

I'm seriously considering today being her last day. I just looked at myself in the mirror and the circles under my eyes are atrocious. I look like the guy from nightmare before Christmas. She screamed for 45 minutes before falling asleep at nap time. She's been here 5 months!

[Shell]

That, to me, is as good as a two weeks notice...and I would make sure she knows it

[My3cents]

sad that she's keeping her there just for the money no matter what she says.

It is sad......... but that is the parents reality.

I would address problems with the parent when they came up and not allow slack, sounds like you have put up with enough of that from this one client.

I wouldn't thumbs up a parents post like that.......it does make it look like you are glad that she is going somewhere else- but sometimes those buttons are easy to hit before we think things through- Glad you talked with her because she sounds like she likes your care a lot- just shopping for more affordable care for her budget. Be ready.

Often parents look at us as non other then a payment of a solution. They don't see past that payment, that bill. They don't spend all day with us and see the relationships and bonds that are created and when they do see them, they are jealous even if they made the choice to work and have a career. They know the child likes us, but they don't often realize the children love us and we become a big part of their life and day to day happenings. Many parents do get the bigger picture and those are the parents I love working with.

[craftymissbeth]

It is sad......... but that is the parents reality.

I would address problems with the parent when they came up and not allow slack, sounds like you have put up with enough of that from this one client.

I wouldn't thumbs up a parents post like that.......it does make it look like you are glad that she is going somewhere else- but sometimes those buttons are easy to hit before we think things through- Glad you talked with her because she sounds like she likes your care a lot- just shopping for more affordable care for her budget. Be ready.

Often parents look at us as non other then a payment of a solution. They don't see past that payment, that bill. They don't spend all day with us and see the relationships and bonds that are created and when they do see them, they are jealous even if they made the choice to work and have a career. They know the child likes us, but they don't often realize the children love us and we become a big part of their life and day to day happenings. Many parents do get the bigger picture and those are the parents I love working with.

Except that it's not fair to me to put in ALL this work to help her child adjust just for them to go elsewhere.

[Imagination's Creations]

Of course she only cries with you Daycare children ONLY show their bad behavior at daycare ALL daycare children are angels at home

I think we've all heard that one a million times

It's funny you say this because all my dck's are so good for me that parents dont believe me half the time.

[taylorw1210]

It's funny you say this because all my dck's are so good for me that parents dont believe me half the time.

All but one of my families have said the same, and thankfully the one that supposedly only had behavior issues here (although her mother had told me she was considered the bully at her previous daycare and her dad commented numerous times about her bad behavior at home) left on their own before I could term.

I would definitely be looking to fill Willy Billy's spot ASAP.

[TwinKristi]

Her child was termed by the other two

I'm seriously considering today being her last day. I just looked at myself in the mirror and the circles under my eyes are atrocious. I look like the guy from nightmare before Christmas. She screamed for 45 minutes before falling asleep at nap time. She's been here 5 months!

Which makes it even worse in my eyes! Rather than craving stability for her child and even cutting back other expenses to ensure that, she's shopping for cheaper care. I don't even make $9/hr (unless I'm watching at least 3 kids) so she's doing better than me! I just find it so lame when parents use the cost as a reason to uproot their child when you've already had issues in a short span of time!
I'm sorry you have to make the choice but if it's taking a toll on you then things may need to change!

[Blackcat31]

Except that it's not fair to me to put in ALL this work to help her child adjust just for them to go elsewhere.

....which is EXACLTY what is going to happen the minute DCM finds a cheaper daycare.

You are being used.

I know you need the money but I bet you need sanity more.

Is this child part time or full time? Will it be a huge loss if income if you term? Anyone on reserve or calling looking for care? Even part timers, little ones....ANYTHING has to be better than this situation.

[craftymissbeth]

Update: mom picked up and let me know she's found a daycare that will take dcg when she's 18 months for a cheaper rate. That would mean 4 more months of dealing with a screamer for no reason. I termed right then. Wrote her a refund check for the rest of the week and told her I'd have her belongings ready for her on Friday.

She was full time and I'd had her since September. In the 5 months I had her she literally screamed all day every day. I'll miss the income, but that's something I can easily figure out.

[Blackcat31]

Update: mom picked up and let me know she's found a daycare that will take dcg when she's 18 months for a cheaper rate. That would mean 4 more months of dealing with a screamer for no reason. I termed right then. Wrote her a refund check for the rest of the week and told her I'd have her belongings ready for her on Friday.

She was full time and I'd had her since September. In the 5 months I had her she literally screamed all day every day. I'll miss the income, but that's something I can easily figure out.

:hug: :hug: You did the right thing.

I am sorry you are out that income but I am overjoyed that you won't have to listen to the screaming any more and even more joyful that YOU got to term her on YOUR terms NOT hers....5 months later...

She was obviously asking for it. Who tells their provider they love her but we are leaving in 6 months because somewhere else is cheaper???? :confused:

Good for you though!!! happyface

[TwinKristi]

Wow! So she straight up lied to buy herself more time! glad you termed! Hope you can find a replacement soon!

[Michelle]

Has she ever had him evaluated?
the screaming all day sounds to me like an autistic trait
does he scream when things change?
like when someone comes in the house or leaves?
or is it just screaming because he wants his mom?

[daycarediva]

Often parents look at us as non other then a payment of a solution. They don't see past that payment, that bill. They don't spend all day with us and see the relationships and bonds that are created and when they do see them, they are jealous even if they made the choice to work and have a career. They know the child likes us, but they don't often realize the children love us and we become a big part of their life and day to day happenings. Many parents do get the bigger picture and those are the parents I love working with.

Well said! I completely agree!

Update: mom picked up and let me know she's found a daycare that will take dcg when she's 18 months for a cheaper rate. That would mean 4 more months of dealing with a screamer for no reason. I termed right then. Wrote her a refund check for the rest of the week and told her I'd have her belongings ready for her on Friday.

She was full time and I'd had her since September. In the 5 months I had her she literally screamed all day every day. I'll miss the income, but that's something I can easily figure out.

Good for you! That child is bounced from place to place. ZERO continuity of care. At that point, I would have done the exact same thing. Good for you and I hope you fill the space immediately.