DCP Shopping For New Daycares

[craftymissbeth]

I have a dcm of my problem child who just posted a response to a Facebook post that she's looking for a new provider. This woman has given me so many issues and I recently put her child on probation for screaming all. day. long.

I "liked" her comment so she knows I saw it, but what else do I say to her? I'd almost just like to term effective today and be done with her. But what would you say?

[Blackcat31]

I have a dcm of my problem child who just posted a response to a Facebook post that she's looking for a new provider. This woman has given me so many issues and I recently put her child on probation for screaming all. day. long.

I "liked" her comment so she knows I saw it, but what else do I say to her? I'd almost just like to term effective today and be done with her. But what would you say?

I understand how you feel.

If you were going to term, why haven't you yet?

If she is giving you trouble, by all means let her go as your program may not be the right fit for her but I wouldn't term just because you saw on FB that she is looking for a new provider.

Instead, I would try to help her fond one. It seems like a win-win for everyone then.

[KSDC]

Personally, I wouldn't say anything. DCM is probably looking because of the probation and she isn't planning/expecting to fix what ever caused the probation. Start advertising and interviewing.

Hopefully this is a chance to make your daycare dynamics better!

[Rockgirl]

Maybe she wants to be covered in case you terminate, since there are already issues.

[craftymissbeth]

I haven't termed because I decided to just deal with it for the money. I'm not helping her find a daycare though. I'm this 14 month olds THIRD daycare. I didn't find that out until after I already had her. No one else can put up with the screaming... I refuse to help put this child in another poor providers lap.

What's so offensive to me is that dcm was so on board with helping dcg figure things out, but that only lasted a week. Now she keeps saying that dcg is only like this with me and is a perfect angel at home and has never cried at home

[Crazy8]

honestly, if she is on probation at your daycare she SHOULD be looking for another daycare because doesn't probation mean you are going to term if things don't improve??? Why would this upset you?

I would not term without notice unless it was a severe policy violation but since you are bothered and you say they are a problem I would go ahead and give them your 2 weeks notice (or whatever your contract terms are).

[CraftyMom]

I haven't termed because I decided to just deal with it for the money. I'm not helping her find a daycare though. I'm this 14 month olds THIRD daycare. I didn't find that out until after I already had her. No one else can put up with the screaming... I refuse to help put this child in another poor providers lap.

What's so offensive to me is that dcm was so on board with helping dcg figure things out, but that only lasted a week. Now she keeps saying that dcg is only like this with me and is a perfect angel at home and has never cried at home

Of course she only cries with you Daycare children ONLY show their bad behavior at daycare ALL daycare children are angels at home

I think we've all heard that one a million times!

By "liking" her comment you may have added fuel to the fire though, she will probably think you "like" that her child is leaving. (Which you are, of course, but still)

[craftymissbeth]

Thankfully I didn't take the advice of not talking to dcm. She texted me to see if dcg is doing any better today and I took that opportunity to say "I noticed that you are looking for other daycares for dcg. Is there something you are concerned about or something I can do?"

"Oh no no! I just checked everyone's rates and you are still the lowest I can find"

"Honestly, if my rates are all that's keeping you here it that concerns me"

"Oh no way! Dcg loves it there and all the other kiddos. And I love you cook homecooked meals every day and keep her on a schedule. But when I only make $9 an hour it's worth it to me to check around. Your low rates are an added bonus : )"

So I overreacted and I'm soooo glad I asked dcm. It may or may not be the truth, but it was enough for me to stick with it a bit longer. My husband moved out last weekend so I can't term willy billy like I want to

[itlw8]

so she will stay until she finds someone who charges less than you charge.

[craftymissbeth]

so she will stay until she finds someone who charges less than you charge.

That's what I got out of it. I'm going to start advertising. I soooo want to give this family their two week notice.

[mountainside13]

Thankfully I didn't take the advice of not talking to dcm. She texted me to see if dcg is doing any better today and I took that opportunity to say "I noticed that you are looking for other daycares for dcg. Is there something you are concerned about or something I can do?"

"Oh no no! I just checked everyone's rates and you are still the lowest I can find"

"Honestly, if my rates are all that's keeping you here it that concerns me"

"Oh no way! Dcg loves it there and all the other kiddos. And I love you cook homecooked meals every day and keep her on a schedule. But when I only make $9 an hour it's worth it to me to check around. Your low rates are an added bonus : )"

So I overreacted and I'm soooo glad I asked dcm. It may or may not be the truth, but it was enough for me to stick with it a bit longer. My husband moved out last weekend so I can't term willy billy like I want to

I'm sorry about you and your husband! :hug:
Good idea to start advertising! Sounds like she will leave as soon as she finds someone with lower rates.

[TwinKristi]

Sorry to hear that about your husband, and I completely understand about not terming willy nilly! I was ready to term a boy last Aug only to get notice on 2 kids that next month and 1 more (the one I wanted to term) a month later. So 3 in 2 mos! It was 2/3 of my income just gone! But now that he's gone I realize how much happier everyone is. I've replaced one if the 2 FT spots and it's made things a little easier financially.
But my only concern here is that someone cheaper may come along and she'll give notice anyway. Ya know what I mean?

[daycarediva]

Of course she only cries with you Daycare children ONLY show their bad behavior at daycare ALL daycare children are angels at home

I'm only on year 7 of this business, but if I had $1 for every time I heard this I could probably retire soon.

so she will stay until she finds someone who charges less than you charge.

replace them ASAP.

[countrymom]

sad that she's keeping her there just for the money no matter what she says.

[Maria2013]

I "liked" her comment so she knows I saw it

That, to me, is as good as a two weeks notice...and I would make sure she knows it