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  • childcaremom
    Advanced Daycare.com Member
    • May 2013
    • 2955

    What do you tell other dcps

    when a dck leaves your daycare? Do you offer a reason why?
  • Second Home
    Daycare.com Member
    • Jan 2014
    • 1567

    #2
    Only if they ask and even then I would not go into specific details .

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    • Luna
      Daycare.com Member
      • Oct 2010
      • 790

      #3
      I do not. If they ask about the missing child, I just say she doesn't come here anymore. I might say that we miss them, but usually we don't.

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      • Blackcat31
        • Oct 2010
        • 36124

        #4
        Nope.

        It goes against my beliefs in a parent's right to privacy.

        If a family asks where "soNso" went, I just say "They are no longer attending." and that's it.

        I get that these kids play with each other but that doesn't give parents the right to know everything about everyone else.

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        • Unregistered

          #5
          If it was something like a move I might mention it.

          Otherwise I would just be tempted to say "Sometimes not all policies work for all families." They can interpret that as they wish. As in you will terminate people who do not follow policies, or that the parents did not agree with your policies and you would not bend on them.

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          • llpa
            Daycare.com Member
            • Mar 2012
            • 460

            #6
            I never share the information with other families. I just say it isn't appropriatefor me to discuss one family w another. I wouldn't want the parent who is asking to think I would discuss her either kwim?

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            • sharlan
              Daycare.com Member
              • May 2011
              • 6067

              #7
              Parents don't usually ask. If they do, I just say they're not coming here anymore and leave it at that.

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              • childcaremom
                Advanced Daycare.com Member
                • May 2013
                • 2955

                #8
                Originally posted by Blackcat31
                Nope.

                It goes against my beliefs in a parent's right to privacy.

                If a family asks where "soNso" went, I just say "They are no longer attending." and that's it.

                I get that these kids play with each other but that doesn't give parents the right to know everything about everyone else.
                This is my belief, too. But these parents ask all.the.time. I think i am looking for a statement to alleviate any concerns they might have as a current client but still maintain the privacy of the client who left.

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                • childcaremom
                  Advanced Daycare.com Member
                  • May 2013
                  • 2955

                  #9
                  The kids who have left are gone due to job changes and allergy concerns, none of which are things I would share with another parent. I also termed one due to a host of issues. Which I wouldn't share with another parent.

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                  • Leigh
                    Daycare.com Member
                    • Apr 2013
                    • 3814

                    #10
                    I had a term yesterday. The parents already know why it happened-the only one that I told about it was the one that was involved (had a nearly 4 year old bite an 18 month old unprovoked right in front of me). The parents of the 18 month old were informed of the bite, and I assured them that the biter was immediately separated from the group and would not return. The other parents could see this child's behavior problems escalating at pick up and drop off. Funny thing is that I was planning on terming this one the 1st of March, anyway-he just hastened things with his bite.

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                    • Play Care
                      Daycare.com Member
                      • Dec 2012
                      • 6642

                      #11
                      Originally posted by childcaremom
                      This is my belief, too. But these parents ask all.the.time. I think i am looking for a statement to alleviate any concerns they might have as a current client but still maintain the privacy of the client who left.
                      On one hand I'm wondering if a semi firm "dcm, I have to respect former clients privacy, so I'm not able to discuss the details with you."

                      On the other I've have told current parents "not every dc is a good fit for every family, and it's wonderful parents have so many great choices"

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                      • childcaremom
                        Advanced Daycare.com Member
                        • May 2013
                        • 2955

                        #12
                        I'm thinking: "Well sometimes things happen and clients need to move on. We will miss him/her." Sort of ambiguous but I think it will work.

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                        • Jack Sprat
                          New Daycare.com Member
                          • Jul 2013
                          • 882

                          #13
                          I told one family that asked recently about a the family I termed that we weren't a good fit. The other families have been here when the former client was here for pick up and saw him in action. They needed no explanation.

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                          • Heidi
                            Daycare.com Member
                            • Sep 2011
                            • 7121

                            #14
                            No, not really.

                            With the family that I termed, other's witnessed the behaviors plenty and KNEW why they were gone. I didn't need to say it.

                            One family moved across the country, and we had a big goodbye party for them, so in that case, everyone also knew.

                            The others I just say something benign like the child is not coming here anymore.

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                            • EntropyControlSpecialist
                              Embracing the chaos.
                              • Mar 2012
                              • 7466

                              #15
                              Originally posted by childcaremom
                              The kids who have left are gone due to job changes and allergy concerns, none of which are things I would share with another parent. I also termed one due to a host of issues. Which I wouldn't share with another parent.
                              The other KIDS take care of that for me. They know if you make really bad choices you can't come back here (an almost abusive one left because of that) or if your parent makes super bad choices (like when a mom yelled and slammed the door and they were there...)

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