Parents Want To Potty Train Cold Turkey

[Atroya]

She has not started the he cold turkey thing yet. She has been working on it with her. Dcg will accurately respond yes or no if questioned if she has to go potty, and I have been doing this also. However, at least here, she does NOT voluntarily say she has to go potty, she has to be asked. She is also a sneaky pooper, she gives absolutely no signal of any kind that she is even pooping. She does not go to a spot, she does not bend over, squat down, grunt, make a face, nothing. It just ends up being a surprise. I do NOT want surprise poops with no diaper or pull up, she usually has messy poops due to them giving her juice all the time.

I was wondering the same thing.. maybe when she starts doing it, they will find out she wasn't so ready. But I guarantee you that they will both be watching her like a hawk when they do it(dcm told me she would have to have dcd help her(hmmmm...where's my help?), and be asking her and taking her every hour...then turn around 3 days later and tell me she is good to go, and I will have to deal with the aftermath.

Question: I need these people, because in my community, people are not lining up for daycare. If they left, it could take a long time to replace them, and I cannot afford that. I also cannot afford new carpet, so is there a middle ground you guys can think of that could make them happy, and limit the mess for me?

[Cradle2crayons]

She has not started the he cold turkey thing yet. She has been working on it with her. Dcg will accurately respond yes or no if questioned if she has to go potty, and I have been doing this also. However, at least here, she does NOT voluntarily say she has to go potty, she has to be asked. She is also a sneaky pooper, she gives absolutely no signal of any kind that she is even pooping. She does not go to a spot, she does not bend over, squat down, grunt, make a face, nothing. It just ends up being a surprise. I do NOT want surprise poops with no diaper or pull up, she usually has messy poops due to them giving her juice all the time.

I was wondering the same thing.. maybe when she starts doing it, they will find out she wasn't so ready. But I guarantee you that they will both be watching her like a hawk when they do it(dcm told me she would have to have dcd help her(hmmmm...where's my help?), and be asking her and taking her every hour...then turn around 3 days later and tell me she is good to go, and I will have to deal with the aftermath.

Question: I need these people, because in my community, people are not lining up for daycare. If they left, it could take a long time to replace them, and I cannot afford that. I also cannot afford new carpet, so is there a middle ground you guys can think of that could make them happy, and limit the mess for me?

Middle ground = parents negotiating YOUR policies for THEIR agendas = heckkkk naw!!!

My advice... Be firm on your policy... Cave on this and it will be the beginning of the end...

If you feel they will pull because you don't cave, start advertising to replace...

[Rachel]

It was my preferred method of training my OWN children too but I would NEVER in a million years expect my provider to do this WHILE caring for other children.

Yup. My ds is going to be 2 in August. I know it's a bit young, but I will probably try over my August break (2.5 weeks off) and see how he does. He needs to go to someone else next year (their rules ), so if he does well in August I will be happy to send him. If not I don't see me being able to PT him until he is almost 3 and I really don't want to wait that long if I can help it. But I would never send him to another provider unless he was actually trained!

[nannyde]

She has not started the he cold turkey thing yet. She has been working on it with her. Dcg will accurately respond yes or no if questioned if she has to go potty, and I have been doing this also. However, at least here, she does NOT voluntarily say she has to go potty, she has to be asked. She is also a sneaky pooper, she gives absolutely no signal of any kind that she is even pooping. She does not go to a spot, she does not bend over, squat down, grunt, make a face, nothing. It just ends up being a surprise. I do NOT want surprise poops with no diaper or pull up, she usually has messy poops due to them giving her juice all the time.

I was wondering the same thing.. maybe when she starts doing it, they will find out she wasn't so ready. But I guarantee you that they will both be watching her like a hawk when they do it(dcm told me she would have to have dcd help her(hmmmm...where's my help?), and be asking her and taking her every hour...then turn around 3 days later and tell me she is good to go, and I will have to deal with the aftermath.

Question: I need these people, because in my community, people are not lining up for daycare. If they left, it could take a long time to replace them, and I cannot afford that. I also cannot afford new carpet, so is there a middle ground you guys can think of that could make them happy, and limit the mess for me?

The only middle ground is you provide the diapers. Will it be cheaper for you to keep the kids and loose ten bucks a week providing diapers?

You can keep her in diapers until right before she leaves. Have her sit on a cleanable surface until mom arrives and scoot her out the door.

[Maria2013]

Today she shows up, after a dr appt yesterday for the baby, and says she talked to the dr about potty training. The dr told her that she potty trained all 3 of their kids by doing it cold turkey and dealing with the messes,

the Dr doesn't run your daycare and has absolutely NO say so...tell her she can follow her dr advise at home on her own time

[sally]

I had to deal with this last week. My dcmom decided to finally try to pt her 3 1/2 year old boy. She took a week off to start at home and said by Friday he was finally catching on a little. I told her he needed plastic training pants over his underwear. She threw a huge fit but I wouldn't budge. She did pick them up but again they both had a fit about it. Her having to put dc boy in them and dc boy having to wear them. They can have pee and poop messes all over their house if they want But I refuse to have some kid piddling all over my house. He wakes up wet in the mornings and at nap. Will pee in the potty great the rest of the time but refuses to poop in the potty. I used my backbone and it was great!

[Starburst]

Well, the DC lady I used to work for said that she potty trained her daughter somewhat the same way during a weekend, but I think that it was a three day weekend and that they stayed in the bathroom all day with no disruptions (no phones, no tvs, only books about using the potty).

But she was also the one who was able to handle the accidents because (surprise) HER child was in HER daycare and she could always change her right away and wash her clothes right away. She wasn't just expecting someone else to have to deal with the mess while watching several other children (which is something the mom and doctor aren't taking into account- only 1 of her at home but about 3 or more kids at daycare).

[Mom of 4]

I have a dcm that just had a new baby. They are desperate to get the potty training with their 2.5 yr old dd by the time maternity leave is done. Just yesterday we discussed things, went over Nanndyde's potty training tips, and I thought we were both on the same page.

Today she shows up, after a dr appt yesterday for the baby, and says she talked to the dr about potty training. The dr told her that she potty trained all 3 of their kids by doing it cold turkey and dealing with the messes, and it worked within a few days. She wanted to try it this weekend, and send the dcg back to me after taking a 3 day weekend just in underwear. I tried to insist that she put her in a pull up over the top of the underwear, but she say the dr told her it would be a setback, so she is now insisting that she absolutely does not want to put her back into a diaper or pull up here once she is trained at home. This is two full time dck for me, the major chunk of my income. Do I give in and deal with the mess and constantly have to take her to the bathroom, or do I put my foot down and say we have to use the pull up for at least a week here. Right now the dcg really does not seem ready to be trained yet, makes no attempt here at telling me she has to go. This dcm used to work at a big daycare, says that is how they trained the 2yr olds there, put them in underwear and took them potty every hour. I told her I cannot do that here. I am worried I am going to loose these guys, but I also do not want to deal with the inevitable mess. We do not currently have a working carpet cleaner, so any mess will be almost impossible to thoroughly clean.
Maybe I should tell them if they buy me a carpet cleaner, that I will do it.

Cold Turkey Potty Training Mom here.

When my kids were little, as SOON as they even hinted that there was a possibility they were ready, I stuck them in underwear. But this was me as a SAHM! I would never request that a DCP would allow for undies only until my kid was accident free for a week or more. It DOES work, but the kid HAS to be ready. If this were me NOW and I was a working-mom of a toddler, I would take that week off to do nothing but train, and then go from there. I would NOT feel it's sanitary for the child to be training in undies only outside the home.

[Scout]

So funny, last week I decided to do this with ds. Now, if only I can find a few days we can stay home all day! I do like the pull up over undies. He is telling me more amd more to change his diaper when he pees sl I am going to run with it! We shall see because he has yet go sit on the potty but, did try standing Saturday.

[Atroya]

Update

I did not hear about potty training from dcm for a few weeks. Yesterday she comes in and says "GOOD NEWS! We had her naked the entire weekend, and she only had a couple accidents. She told us she had to go either while she was going or a few seconds before she started going!" :confused: How does that make her trained? It is a step in the right direction, but still not telling before she has to go.

She proceeded to then say that when they put her in underwear to go to the store she then peed, got busy after they got home,didn't say anything, and peed again.

WTH? Why would you even start one NAKED?! I can't imagine the mess for one thing. Then obviously you would have to transition them to wearing underwear.

Dcg still has not told me once that she has to go beforehand here. She will tell me after she poops or pees. Just for s&g I told mom to bring underwear today, and I would try underwear with diapers/pull ups this week, since they are so much thinking she is being potty trained by saying she has to go AS she is going. DCM did not argue about having something over the underwear this time. happyface LOL, within an hour of her being here, she comes up to me and says she pooped...and boy did she ever. She did not tell me she had to go at all throughout the day. I asked her a few times and she did go for me, but I should probably not even ask her so she learns to say something beforehand....I think I jumped the gun offering to do it this soon.