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I have a dcm that just had a new baby. They are desperate to get the potty training with their 2.5 yr old dd by the time maternity leave is done. Just yesterday we discussed things, went over Nanndyde's potty training tips, and I thought we were both on the same page.
Today she shows up, after a dr appt yesterday for the baby, and says she talked to the dr about potty training. The dr told her that she potty trained all 3 of their kids by doing it cold turkey and dealing with the messes, and it worked within a few days. She wanted to try it this weekend, and send the dcg back to me after taking a 3 day weekend just in underwear. I tried to insist that she put her in a pull up over the top of the underwear, but she say the dr told her it would be a setback, so she is now insisting that she absolutely does not want to put her back into a diaper or pull up here once she is trained at home. This is two full time dck for me, the major chunk of my income. Do I give in and deal with the mess and constantly have to take her to the bathroom, or do I put my foot down and say we have to use the pull up for at least a week here. Right now the dcg really does not seem ready to be trained yet, makes no attempt here at telling me she has to go. This dcm used to work at a big daycare, says that is how they trained the 2yr olds there, put them in underwear and took them potty every hour. I told her I cannot do that here. I am worried I am going to loose these guys, but I also do not want to deal with the inevitable mess. We do not currently have a working carpet cleaner, so any mess will be almost impossible to thoroughly clean.
Maybe I should tell them if they buy me a carpet cleaner, that I will do it.
Today she shows up, after a dr appt yesterday for the baby, and says she talked to the dr about potty training. The dr told her that she potty trained all 3 of their kids by doing it cold turkey and dealing with the messes, and it worked within a few days. She wanted to try it this weekend, and send the dcg back to me after taking a 3 day weekend just in underwear. I tried to insist that she put her in a pull up over the top of the underwear, but she say the dr told her it would be a setback, so she is now insisting that she absolutely does not want to put her back into a diaper or pull up here once she is trained at home. This is two full time dck for me, the major chunk of my income. Do I give in and deal with the mess and constantly have to take her to the bathroom, or do I put my foot down and say we have to use the pull up for at least a week here. Right now the dcg really does not seem ready to be trained yet, makes no attempt here at telling me she has to go. This dcm used to work at a big daycare, says that is how they trained the 2yr olds there, put them in underwear and took them potty every hour. I told her I cannot do that here. I am worried I am going to loose these guys, but I also do not want to deal with the inevitable mess. We do not currently have a working carpet cleaner, so any mess will be almost impossible to thoroughly clean.
Maybe I should tell them if they buy me a carpet cleaner, that I will do it.
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Let her put her money where her mouth is.
The fact that she KNOWS how difficult it will be for HER with only two kids is WHY she is dumping her responsibilty on you to begin with.
I thought to myself, "oh here we go." I agreed to try it but gave the usual spiel about sanitation and my policy. The kid - prior to wearing underwear - had NEVER once peed at my house in the potty. NEVER once asked to go potty. NEVER once told me when she was wet. But amazingly she stayed dry with undies on . She had it in her head that she was ready and apparently she was. I was expecting the absolutely worst nightmare and was preparing myself to have to term this family over it, but it ended up being a non issue and to this day she has only ever had a couple of accidents and these were when we were outside playing and the clean up was very easy. 
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