Parents Want To Potty Train Cold Turkey

[Blackcat31]

i agree with this 100percent. this is how i potty train but only after im seeing readiness and some pottying

It was my preferred method of training my OWN children too but I would NEVER in a million years expect my provider to do this WHILE caring for other children.

[Atroya]

I sooo much wish I could show her this thread and all of your responses.

[TwinKristi]

This is actually my preferred method too and it's actually hard to accomplish with a DC. Pull Ups actually DO create set backs and it's confusing for them. I would compromise to pull ups at nap but if she just has accidents all day I would tell them it's a sanitation issue in a daycare not a choice. And in a center there are multiple adults to help watch kids if someone has to clean up an accident. At your home there is only one person and all the kids you're trying to keep out of someone else's bodily fluids. No bueno!

[Crazy8]

what she is describing is actually my preferred way of potty training. Trained all 3 of my kids this way and recommend it to my dcf's when they talk about starting to train. But I also require them to take a full week off to do it if they choose to train this way. I have had many children come back after that week fully trained - its absolutely possible. Unfortunately in recent months/years I am finding parents just don't want to put in the effort and kids are coming back not trained or they don't get past day 3 before giving up (the parents, not the kids). Then training drags on for weeks. I like the "potty boot camp" method much better.

I don't like pull ups, its a glorified diaper. I would give mom the chance to train this way but make her understand it will require more than 3 days and put your foot down to the rules of when the child can come in wearing underwear.

[Crazy8]

It was my preferred method of training my OWN children too but I would NEVER in a million years expect my provider to do this WHILE caring for other children.

I trained all my own kids this way WHILE running my daycare but it absolutely needs to start at home. My own kids each took 4-7 days before I would say they were truly trained.

[Blackcat31]

I trained all my own kids this way WHILE running my daycare but it absolutely needs to start at home. My own kids each took 4-7 days before I would say they were truly trained.

I trained my youngest this way too WHILE doing child care.

.....but as weird as it sounds, the ick factor in regards to body fluids/waste is easier to manage or deal with when it is your own kid.

We called it the 3 day/$100 method.

Takes average of 3 days and costs about $100 for carpet shampooing supplies

[Leigh]

It was my preferred method of training my OWN children too but I would NEVER in a million years expect my provider to do this WHILE caring for other children.

Exactly. Asking someone else to do this in their home is asking too much, IMO. I will do it in the summertime when we are outdoors most of the day, but diapers go back on when we come in the house.

[My3cents]

It was my preferred method of training my OWN children too but I would NEVER in a million years expect my provider to do this WHILE caring for other children.

but by all means do this at home every chance available.

[blandino]

Cold turkey is also the method we prefer. However, she can start that on a Friday night - and take care of those first few horribly messy days at home.

I stipulate, if a child is showing success at home - then they can wear training pants to daycare until they are accident free for two weeks.

[Atroya]

She does not want training pants of any kind, even worn over the underwear.

[nannyde]

She does not want training pants of any kind, even worn over the underwear.

She's bullying you. Her "in" is the Doctor because she believes what the doctor says is the law. That's where you need to go with this.

Tell her that you are happy to consult with her Doctor and if the Doctor is willing to finance the professional cleaning it will take to do his method and be willing to replace carpeting and furniture should she have an accident you will reconsider. Ask for a consent to be signed giving you permission to speak to her Doctor to see if he is willing to fund this attempt. Tell her that you would love to have all new furniture and professionally laid new carpeting so if she could convince her Doctor to put his money where his mouth is you are game. If the Doctor isn't willing is she? As long as she is willing to pay for professional cleaning and replacement you should have a new living room set and new carpet in a couple of days. If she believes this system will work she should not BALK at all about paying for whatever damage there will be because with her system there shouldn't be any.

Say the word DOCTOR over and over and over again in this discussion. If she is going to use "doctor" then you must use "doctor". Every attempt to protect your property and your time is being shut down with the word "doctor" in it. So now... put the word "doctor" in every solution you have.

The "doctor" gave her free advice. Now the "doctor" needs to pay.

[Atroya]

I was hoping you would comment on this Nannyde! What really irks me is that I gave her a copy of your potty training letter to parents, and she had agreed to go with the diaper/pull up over the underwear while hear, agreed that it made sense. One comment from the doctor, and it all went out the window. I told her I would think about it, and I have, and I am not giving in on this. If she tries to bring up the doctor I will use your idea. A friend of mine who knows a lot of daycare providers in our small town say she thinks most, if not all, of them have the same sort of policy.

Another thing I thought about while picking up kids from school today is what if she has an accident in my car!! It will ruin my carseat. Sometimes when picking up kids it takes a good 20 minutes by the time I run to 2 schools and wait for the busses to arrive at one of them. I need to be 100% positive she will not have an accident during that time!! I am going to mention that to her also.

[LadyPearl]

.....but as weird as it sounds, the ick factor in regards to body fluids/waste is easier to manage or deal with when it is your own kid.

So true! I cringe at the messes of dcks but my kids don't bother me.

[NoMoreJuice!]

3DayPottyTraining.pdf

Not sure if that attached properly, but maybe you can email that to her and tell her good luck? I have had MANY MANY success stories come from that program. But the key is to have the parent do it at home. In my contract, I offer a free unpaid day off(Monday or Friday) to my parents who choose to do it.

I did it one time with a dcg that was like a niece to me...works like a charm. But no way could I have done it during the week with other kids around!

[daycare]

I had a parent insist that their 20 month old was ready to rumble. OK fine, I'll prove to you that she is not ready.

I made dcp bring me 6 changes of undies . Undies first and pull up over, she didn't want it that way, I just did it my way anyways. The kid went through all of the undies the first day. I bagged them up and handed them over. I said I need 6 more. So the next day dcm shows up, no undies. I said well I can't potty train her without them. DCM said that when they got home she put her in undies and went through the other pack that night. DCM didn't have time to wash them. END OF STORY. This dcg did not PT until she was over 3......

has she even started it yet? Maybe you are just over thinking this right now. DCM may try the docTOr method and find out for herself that she is not ready. Then again, never say never....... my oldest PT in 2 days.....the BC method......