Everything He Does Just Annoys Me!!!!

[Kcole1075]

All my kids annoy me witg little things. But everything this one dcb does annoys me.

He is 4 and has a lot of issues here with listening, behavior and having accidents. I fight with this kid so much to get on the same page as everyone else that him even being here is beginning to annoy me.

Even when he is having a good day here I find myself annoyed with him. And its little things like his constant use of sound effects and noise with his mouth. He constantly has to make a noise no matter what he is doing.. Or the fact that he has to copy everything the other kids are doing. These are things kids just do and I know it. But I just cant deal with it with him.


Rant over

[Josiegirl]

Is there any way you can let him go? It's not really fair to either of you to have a situation like that. I've had kids that do things that annoy me but it sounds like his whole being is annoying to you.

[melilley]

Oh my word... Today I was just thinking this about one of my dcb's!
He is so slobbery, eats by grabbing a fist full of food and shoving it in his mouth, is starting to look at me and smile and do what he knows not to do, and a few other things. It just bugs me to no end! And to top it off his mom bugs me too, I like dad, but mom is of a strange nature.
I feel kind of bad talking about him, but it feels good to get it out!
You are not alone!

[Annalee]

All my kids annoy me witg little things. But everything this one dcb does annoys me.

He is 4 and has a lot of issues here with listening, behavior and having accidents. I fight with this kid so much to get on the same page as everyone else that him even being here is beginning to annoy me.

Even when he is having a good day here I find myself annoyed with him. And its little things like his constant use of sound effects and noise with his mouth. He constantly has to make a noise no matter what he is doing.. Or the fact that he has to copy everything the other kids are doing. These are things kids just do and I know it. But I just cant deal with it with him.


Rant over

:: I think we all have one of those kids who we just do not jive with. In my instance it is a little girl...just gets on my nerves. She is very spoiled and the baby in the fam so everyone caters to her and she expects the other children and I to do the same....::

[thetoddlerwhisper]

we have 2 sisters like that. theyre 4 and 2 and they drive me bonkers. you say something and the 4 yr old will roll her eyes she cant sit still and she has one of those high pitched whiny voices.. the 2yr old just ignores everything you say or smiles and does it anyway the 2yr old has the same whiny voice too......

[providerandmomof4]

I have felt this way about several dcks. I always knew that it wasnt them personally. Every one of them had sweet, funny, cuteness too, but....they did things that drove me and my family members crazy. Cause they werent my kids and I was spending sometimes 50 hrs a week with them. They were tired of dc and Iwas tired of them. I wont do those hrs anymore, and funny how I dont feel near as annoyed.

[SunshineMama]

I had a kid like that for 2 years. Everything got on my nerves. His voice gave me a headache. I didn't know how bad it really was until he went off to school. Now I wonder how I put up with it for that long!

[rosieteddy]

I find that in February everyone is annoying.My sister and I have a saying never make big decesions in this month.It is a short one but so loooooooong.Just today I fantasized about quitting and moving somewhere warm.The kids are of the wall,my husband is "working"from home and my adult sons hours are cut to four hours a day ending just as I put the kids down.AGGGGGGGGGGGH .wHAT DO THEY NOT UNDERSTAND ABOUT GGGGGGET OUT BETWEEN 1 AND 3;30. I find that I have to look away sometimes when the dckids start pushing my buttons. Also it doesn't hurt to have a secret pocket full of chocolate ...............Hang in there.

[craftymissbeth]

I put myself in time out several times today... so that I could get away from one particular dcg who screams all day long... and so I could down a Diet Pepsi each time

I started advertising today so that I can term her. I just cannot bond with her. I find my brain rolling its eyes at her every time she makes the loud "eh! eh! eh!" sound, she eats fistfuls of food at a time, she grinds her front teeth, and she screams if anyone so much as looks at her funny.

I'm just not the right fit for her. It's sad and my pocket is going to take a huge hit terming her... but I'll regret it if I keep her.

[daycare]

Sorry not trying to sound rude,but I agree with letting this child go. It's not your fault, some people just don't click. Including children with adults.

when children experience shared positive interactions it leads to a positive relationship with you, provides less stress for all of the kids in the environment and helps open them to learning.

Our emotions with the children are contagious. if the child is crabby and we let them work our nerves, we become crabby and it affects the whole group.

I know its hard to break this cycle of letting this child annoy you like this, but its very important that the you and the child have a strong connection, this helps them feel safe, confident, they learn what to expect from you and learn how to behave.

some kids just never adapt to us and our program. If I were you I would let this child go where they could be somewhere they are understood.

I have had a child like this before and it took me a full 3 months to turn it around and make a strong bond with them. He is now one of my favorite children.,

Perhaps if not letting him go is an option, you could take the time to try to bond with him so that you have a more positive experience and interactions for him which will benefit your whole group.

[lilcupcakes09]

I have one of these too! Glad it isn't just me!

[Kcole1075]

I could term him. But it would be my first term. And I feel like I am failing.

He is an only child and is still the baby so he gets everything done for him. So I have to fight with him on picking up his mess, putting on his own shoes pulling up his own pants, and so on. So after he throws a fit about having to do it and it being to hard or whatever I am just so frustrated that he begins to annoy me with little things.

[daycare]

I could term him. But it would be my first term. And I feel like I am failing.

He is an only child and is still the baby so he gets everything done for him. So I have to fight with him on picking up his mess, putting on his own shoes pulling up his own pants, and so on. So after he throws a fit about having to do it and it being to hard or whatever I am just so frustrated that he begins to annoy me with little things.

you are not failing....you are doing what you know how to do.

if you know he is struggling with these things then maybe you can come up with a plan/game to motivate him to try and succeed. If you can create positive interactions with him he will want more and the more he gets the more he will want to behave and try for you. children are eager to learn by nature.

this kid may be stressed out that he is being asked to do something he can't or is not motivated to so he shuts down or acts up.

[daycare]

you are not failing....you are doing what you know how to do.

if you know he is struggling with these things then maybe you can come up with a plan/game to motivate him to try and succeed. If you can create positive interactions with him he will want more and the more he gets the more he will want to behave and try for you. children are eager to learn by nature.

this kid may be stressed out that he is being asked to do something he can't or is not motivated to so he shuts down or acts up.

try working with him on the clothing issue when you are not in a transition time, like needing to toilet, etc

[Blackcat31]

Ok, I am going to offer another perspective.

I would NOT term him. Not liking or clicking with a child is just part of the deal. Do you think all teachers in Kindy click or really like their students?

Probably not.

I think whether or not you term him is dependent on whether or not YOU are capable of treating him the same as everyone else.

I always have my favorite kids and my not-so-favorite kids. I can't help that. I am human.

BUT, I treat them all the same. Whether Joey annoys me or not has no bearing on the treatment and/or care he receives from me.

Joey has NO clue that I probably don't care for him as much as I do Billy.

Billy likes him though and in the grand scheme of things, that is what is important.

Do you feel you treat him differently than others?
Do the other kids treat him as a friend and as an peer?

Depending on those answers you will know the right thing to do.