Everything He Does Just Annoys Me!!!!

[Play Care]

Ok, I am going to offer another perspective.

I would NOT term him. Not liking or clicking with a child is just part of the deal. Do you think all teachers in Kindy click or really like their students?

Probably not.

I think whether or not you term him is dependent on whether or not YOU are capable of treating him the same as everyone else.

I always have my favorite kids and my not-so-favorite kids. I can't help that. I am human.

BUT, I treat them all the same. Whether Joey annoys me or not has no bearing on the treatment and/or care he receives from me.

Joey has NO clue that I probably don't care for him as much as I do Billy.

Billy likes him though and in the grand scheme of things, that is what is important.

Do you feel you treat him differently than others?
Do the other kids treat him as a friend and as an peer?

Depending on those answers you will know the right thing to do.

[daycare]

Ok, I am going to offer another perspective.

I would NOT term him. Not liking or clicking with a child is just part of the deal. Do you think all teachers in Kindy click or really like their students?

Probably not.

I think whether or not you term him is dependent on whether or not YOU are capable of treating him the same as everyone else.

I always have my favorite kids and my not-so-favorite kids. I can't help that. I am human.

BUT, I treat them all the same. Whether Joey annoys me or not has no bearing on the treatment and/or care he receives from me.

Joey has NO clue that I probably don't care for him as much as I do Billy.

Billy likes him though and in the grand scheme of things, that is what is important.

Do you feel you treat him differently than others?
Do the other kids treat him as a friend and as an peer?

Depending on those answers you will know the right thing to do.

she said she gets annoyed so I take that the other children are aware of this. I normally agree with you BC, but I would not keep a child that I could not click with. Bonding with a young child is extremely important. Children know when they are being treated different and other children are aware of it too. they can tell by our facial expressions change of tone in our voices, etc

[Blackcat31]

she said she gets annoyed so I take that the other children are aware of this. I normally agree with you BC, but I would not keep a child that I could not click with. Bonding with a young child is extremely important. Children know when they are being treated different and other children are aware of it too.

I get annoyed with kids too. HOW I manage that annoyance is the point.

Just because I am annoyed, doesn't mean others can tell or see it.

I don't like a couple of my daycare parents but I guarantee you they have NO idea. I am polite, professional and friendly with all my parents.

I also don't think kids are quick to pick up on those things all the time. Some kids are good at reading adults but others aren't.

I think it is ALL dependent on how a person displays (or doesn't display) their annoyance that makes a difference.

I also disagree on the bonding thing. I do not bond with my DCK's in the same sense as a parent would. I have a relationship with my DCK's based on routine, trust, consistency and guidance but not the kind of bond that a parent would have with their child.

I have a child in my care right now that I do not care for. Not a naughty kid. Just a kid I don't "click" with. They have several really annoying behaviors but I display the same excited, enthusiasm for that child when they accomplish something as I do for everyone else.

Maybe some people aren't as good at that type of thing, but like I said....it's something ALL teachers do.

So I stand by what I said. Terming this kid would be HIGHLY dependent on how the other kids treat him and on how much or little the provider "shows" her annoyance of him.

[daycare]

I get annoyed with kids too. HOW I manage that annoyance is the point.

Just because I am annoyed, doesn't mean others can tell or see it.

I don't like a couple of my daycare parents but I guarantee you they have NO idea. I am polite, professional and friendly with all my parents.

I also don't think kids are quick to pick up on those things all the time. Some kids are good at reading adults but others aren't.

I think it is ALL dependent on how a person displays (or doesn't display) their annoyance that makes a difference.

I also disagree on the bonding thing. I do not bond with my DCK's in the same sense as a parent would. I have a relationship with my DCK's based on routine, trust, consistency and guidance but not the kind of bond that a parent would have with their child.

I have a child in my care right now that I do not care for. Not a naughty kid. Just a kid I don't "click" with. They have several really annoying behaviors but I display the same excited, enthusiasm for that child when they accomplish something as I do for everyone else.

Maybe some people aren't as good at that type of thing, but like I said....it's something ALL teachers do.

So I stand by what I said. Terming this kid would be HIGHLY dependent on how the other kids treat him and on how much or little the provider "shows" her annoyance of him.

I see what you are saying. the fake it to until you make it. BUT parents are at our door for 5-10 minutes I can do that no problem. But the kids we have all day long.

When the kids have a connection to us, it helps the children to feel safe and secure, as well as giving her a sense of belonging. When we do this,it sets them up to be more successful socially and emotionally. For most of these kids we are their first experience of navigating through the world without mommy and daddy there.

When we have a good bond with these children, chances are they will be more excited to go to our house. they will listen better, feel more comfortable in their environment and become more successful in it.

In my classes, I have been taught that as these children's first teacher (provider)
connection is an important one for longterm academic achievement. From what I have read and taught children with a secure attachment to their first teachers feel more confident, are more successful at learning, and show increased kindergarten readiness.

I know that each person runs their program differently and I think that if you are able to do the fake it until you make it TOTAL control of your emotions then no issue, but I don't know too many people that can do that. even my own children tell me daily, OMG my teacher totally lost it today on this kid.......

[Blackcat31]

I see what you are saying. the fake it to until you make it. BUT parents are at our door for 5-10 minutes I can do that no problem. But the kids we have all day long.

When the kids have a connection to us, it helps the children to feel safe and secure, as well as giving her a sense of belonging. When we do this,it sets them up to be more successful socially and emotionally. For most of these kids we are their first experience of navigating through the world without mommy and daddy there.

When we have a good bond with these children, chances are they will be more excited to go to our house. they will listen better, feel more comfortable in their environment and become more successful in it.

In my classes, I have been taught that as these children's first teacher (provider)
connection is an important one for longterm academic achievement. From what I have read and taught children with a secure attachment to their first teachers feel more confident, are more successful at learning, and show increased kindergarten readiness.

I know that each person runs their program differently and I think that if you are able to do the fake it until you make it TOTAL control of your emotions then no issue, but I don't know too many people that can do that. even my own children tell me daily, OMG my teacher totally lost it today on this kid.......

Building a secure attachment with a child doesn't mean having to love or even like them.

The faking it part is something we should all learn.

You can't term every kid that annoys you.

Like I said before, it's all in how you display your personal feelings.

I serve peas. My DCK's love them. I loathe them but NONE of my kids know that.

I am not arguing about whether or not we make a difference in kids' lives as their first teacher or not, I am merely pointing out that the provider doesn't HAVE to term a child that annoys her simply because they annoy her.

[daycare]

i agree with that to a point. I guess I find a way to build strong bonds with my DCKs, I do love them, not like a parent, but as a friend.

I said term because of the last sentence she wrote that she that she just can't deal with him. If a child has driven you to that, then you should let them go......

[craftymissbeth]

I termed mine today. It was my first real term actually.

In my case, I was so annoyed by this child I couldn't even force myself to fake it any longer. She doesn't know I'm annoyed by her, but the taking it was draining me and I was starting to loathe my own business.

[daycarediva]

Ok, I am going to offer another perspective.

I would NOT term him. Not liking or clicking with a child is just part of the deal. Do you think all teachers in Kindy click or really like their students?

Probably not.

I think whether or not you term him is dependent on whether or not YOU are capable of treating him the same as everyone else.

I always have my favorite kids and my not-so-favorite kids. I can't help that. I am human.

BUT, I treat them all the same. Whether Joey annoys me or not has no bearing on the treatment and/or care he receives from me.

Joey has NO clue that I probably don't care for him as much as I do Billy.

Billy likes him though and in the grand scheme of things, that is what is important.

Do you feel you treat him differently than others?
Do the other kids treat him as a friend and as an peer?

Depending on those answers you will know the right thing to do.

I have one dcb I don't have a connection ( or click ) with. Nobody has a clue.

When this happens to me, I do a lot of faking it til I make it. I treat them like they're my best bud, spend more 1:1 time, and really try to find things I like about them.

Sometimes it works....sometimes not.

I termed mine today. It was my first real term actually.

In my case, I was so annoyed by this child I couldn't even force myself to fake it any longer. She doesn't know I'm annoyed by her, but the taking it was draining me and I was starting to loathe my own business.

This is when I would term in these conditions, when I was miserable or just couldn't hide my annoyance.

[Kcole1075]

Both my parents are teachers so I totally understand the whole you can't get rid of kids because they annoy you.

I have been faking it a lot with him. I don't think the kids or dcb can tell he annoys me. But he annoys them so they might be able to tell.

He is a part timer here so I deal with him the first 3 days of the week. I am so relaxed tge rest of yhe week.