So I Think I Went A Little Too Crazy On A Mom Today

[Scribbles]

I always tell my DCM's that if their child cried or behaved badly after they leave, I'll call them immediately because I don't really want to listen to a screaming/crying child all day.

If I had a parent puposely try and sadden their child at drop off, I would say "Well, now you got Jimmy all worked up so there is no way he can stay here. You'll have to bring him back later when he is calmed down"

I did that once to a mom and she took her DD(age 2.5) back out to the car for about 15 minutes. She came back in with a now quiet child and quickly exited.

I think she was afraid that if her DD cried, I'd make her take her with again. ::

I probably would have too because it's so rude to work your kid up emotionally and then ditch them with your daycare lady!

I dont know what DCM said to her DD but whatever it was, she never prolonged drop off or made her cry when leaving again.

[MNMommy2]

I LOVE it. Good for you!

[TwinKristi]

I always tell parents the kids like to put on a show so they don't feel unloved but as soon as the door shuts the tears stop and they're fine. I've only had one boy who really cried beyond that during his transitional period and he still cries once in awhile (usually Mondays or when his Nana brings him) and when Nana sits down for a minute to chat and get him ready he always cries like something is horribly wrong. It's so weird to me. Dh noticed it too one night. My DS (of course) said no-no to him or wouldn't share (something a 2yr old would do...) and he just started bawling! Dh was like here comes the water works for Nana!!

[LeslieG]

Ok, so one of my parents keeps doing this to her son. They come in and he is FINE. She grabs on to him and is squeezing him saying "don't cry! Don't cry!" Then she looks at me and says ""what am I going to do?" Ok this is just madness. I have watched ALL of her children starting with her daughter who is now 16, her middle son who I still have after school and this one who is just over a year. This crazy behavior finally was too much today. So when she did this and then asked I said I guess you should quit your job and go on welfare and stay home with him. She starred at me like I was an alien! I told her her son was fine just like all her other children were and that I wasn't going to watch her weirdness any longer. That he honestly stopped crying as soon as she shut the door. Of course she didn't believe me so I said ok watch this. I got my cell phone and told her to watch a video I was going to send her in my driveway! Yep I made a video of her leaving and as soon as she left he smiled and started to play. She watched and of course got kind of pissy. I told her she had two options, she could bring him and drop off quickly or term but no more squeezing and begging for him to stop crying. It's like she wants him to be traumatized by her leaving.

Good for you!!! I wish I could be as bluntly honest and courageous as you!!

[Daycaregranny]

Honestly, I usually wouldn't be so ..........honest, but this isn't a new mom, she's kind of an older mom that really knows what she's doing. ThTs what angered me so much. It was intentional. For me it was almost abusive if you know what I mean. It made me crack hahaa.

[Happily_wed]

I had a mom like this one time. I think she was jealous that her child spent the day with me instead of her. He was a year old and she would bring him in and he would immediately reach for me. I would take him and she would start. "are you going to be ok?" "Are you going to miss Mommy?" "Give me one more hug" "Let me give you another kiss" He got to the point where when she would hand him to me he would turn his head and totally ignore her LOL. Then she would start on me. "He cried for an hour this morning when I told him he was coming here" "I would love to stay home like you do but I want MORE for my kids" I would just smile and show her the door. Her kid never ever cried after her and was always very happy here. Her drop off attitude was one reason I termed her.