Dad Showering With 3 Year Old DCG

[daycare]

flame me if you want, My 6 year old son will pop in my showers from time to time. We don't have issues with it.

It may be outside the comfort box for some, but is normal for others.

how did you find this information out?

[cara041083]

In my house we have 1 bathroom. Its my husband, me, my son (age 8) and we have 3 girls. Aged 4,1 and 3 weeks. All of my kids have showered with him, or myself. We don't let them shower with us past the age where they started realizing they are different then the opposite sex parent or with each other (meaning my son and daughter). I want to say my oldest daughter was around age 3 when she stopped showering with my husband or myself. Same with my son. In our house we just don't have the means to all have a shower by our self.

[jenboo]

Maybe tell the parents that DCG is starting to talk about her showers with DCD and ask if they can have a talk with her about what to share with friends and what to talk about at home???

I had a DCG once who was 4 and told me her daddy's pee pee hit her on the head in the shower...talk about awkward.

[Evansmom]

I'm with daycare, our 6 yo DS hops in the shower with either I or DH if he wants to or we need to save time. No biggie at all, he's not interested in our bodies in a sexual way at all. In fact, it's nothing but a normal occurrence to him.

I've read that the time for more modesty with children is when they initiate it and start asking for it.

[SilverSabre25]

The generally accepted position is that things like that are fine as long as it is mutually comfortable. My DD showered with DH occasionally until she was around 5.5--also the age she started expressing a desire to shower alone instead of bathing with her 2 yo brother. At 3? Daddy showers or Mommy showers were her favorite thing.

[SSWonders]

flame me if you want, My 6 year old son will pop in my showers from time to time. We don't have issues with it.

It may be outside the comfort box for some, but is normal for others.

how did you find this information out?

The father told me at drop off.

[JenNJ]

My 5 year old dd still asks to take bubble baths with me. My 6 year old ds still occasionally showers with Dh. It's a family decision. Someone mentioned that it's about the level of comfort for both family members. What works for some families, won't for others.

[Lucy]

I'm kind of a live and let live person, so that's where my perspective comes from.

While it isn't something I'd do ... like EVER ... I wouldn't give it a 2nd thought about someone else. I'd think it was weird, for sure, but whatever they want to do is their own deal.

Now, if the kid started hyper-focusing on male anatomy issues, or sexuality in general, that's when I'd have problems with it. Otherwise, meh... whatever...

[BrooklynM]

No big deal at all. It's perfectly normal!

[Blackcat31]

Different strokes for different folks.

Too many variables and other factors to view it as weird or taboo.

If the child was 8 or 9, I might have said something but 3 is pretty young.

[MotherNature]

nope- no big deal. I take baths/ showers with my 3 y/o son. Sometimes my husband does, & sometimes we'll all take a shower together. The kid's 3, not 9. Nothing weird there.

[Maria2013]

Maybe tell the parents that DCG is starting to talk about her showers with DCD and ask if they can have a talk with her about what to share with friends and what to talk about at home???

I had a DCG once who was 4 and told me her daddy's pee pee hit her on the head in the shower...talk about awkward.

that was my point exactly
...nothing wrong with showering with your child, but you never know how other kids might take (report to their parents) what your kid says

[lizzardb85]

No, this is not a concern IMO. Every family has a different set of family norms and comfort-ability with the human body (being naked in front of one another). Do you close the door when you go to the bathroom or leave it open? Do you get dressed in front of each other? At what age or gender are these things appropriate or inappropriate? There is not a right or wrong answer to these questions. IMO there is a continuum of "normal" and you may be on one end while another family is on the opposite... but both are normal and healthy for that particular family. Every family decides for themselves what is appropriate in their own home.

[TwinKristi]

I agree, I wouldn't be concerned unless she was complaining about it or something. My dh & I shower with our 2yr old. Dh more than myself but I've hopped in. Dh has showered with him since he was a newborn. We had a water ring sling and it was great for showers! Then we used a little Rubbermaid box for to sit in like a mini bath while dh showers. LOL