Dad Showering With 3 Year Old DCG

[SSWonders]

Concern or not? Thoughts?

[mountainside13]

Concern or not? Thoughts?

That is a little weird! I would feel uncomfortable, I only showered with my children when they were infants

[NoMoreJuice!]

Concern!

Only a concern if dcg starts acting inappropriately at dc....I caught a 4 year old dcg telling another dcg about how she watches daddy wash his pee pee...had an uncomfortable chat with both sets of parents that evening!

[Play Care]

Concern or not? Thoughts?

On one hand, some families are way more relaxed about their bodies. I am not. IIRC, the "official" recommendation is that children showering/bathing with adults should stop once the child hits preschool age - and a 3 yo is a preschooler.

[Maria2013]

Only a concern if dcg starts acting inappropriately at dc....

I doubt you know about it cause DCD told you so if I were you, I would at the very least alert the parents that DCG is starting to talk about it, and it is raising concerns

[Heidi]

From a European perspective...no big deal. From an American perspective, maybe not.

I think there was a movie with Susan Sarandon called "The Good Mother" based on the premise. Mom has a wonderful, kind, hot French SO, who doesn't even think when her preschooler takes a bath with him. Until the EX finds out, and then there's a lengthy court battle.

Nope..just checked, and it's that the LO crawled in bed with them, not the tub. Liam Neeson was the hot guy..

[originalkat]

No, this is not a concern IMO. Every family has a different set of family norms and comfort-ability with the human body (being naked in front of one another). Do you close the door when you go to the bathroom or leave it open? Do you get dressed in front of each other? At what age or gender are these things appropriate or inappropriate? There is not a right or wrong answer to these questions. IMO there is a continuum of "normal" and you may be on one end while another family is on the opposite... but both are normal and healthy for that particular family. Every family decides for themselves what is appropriate in their own home.

[NeedaVaca]

From a European perspective...no big deal. From an American perspective, maybe not.

I think there was a movie with Susan Sarandon called "The Good Mother" based on the premise. Mom has a wonderful, kind, hot French SO, who doesn't even think when her preschooler takes a bath with him. Until the EX finds out, and then there's a lengthy court battle.

Nope..just checked, and it's that the LO crawled in bed with them, not the tub. Liam Neeson was the hot guy..

I think in that movie what happened it the LO asked to touch the boyfriends "private part", he consented because of his beliefs/lifestyle (it wasn't intended to be sexual) and that's what started the court battle.

[missy]

Though it may seem uncomfortable for many of us, I think it's perfectly fine at that age. Hopefully the father has enough sense not to keep it up when she gets older

[Unregistered]

Honestly would not concern me at all. I grew up in a pretty open family though, and wish to be so with my children. I never gave any thought to it growing up, but am well aware now that it is typically considered not acceptable. Just different comfort levels with nakedness.

[MarinaVanessa]

No, this is not a concern IMO. Every family has a different set of family norms and comfort-ability with the human body (being naked in front of one another). Do you close the door when you go to the bathroom or leave it open? Do you get dressed in front of each other? At what age or gender are these things appropriate or inappropriate? There is not a right or wrong answer to these questions. IMO there is a continuum of "normal" and you may be on one end while another family is on the opposite... but both are normal and healthy for that particular family. Every family decides for themselves what is appropriate in their own home.

I still shower with my 3yo DS

[craftymissbeth]

Not a big deal. I showered with my son until he was about that age and every so often my dh showers with him and he's 7 now. They do it when ds is particularly dirty so dh can scrub him really well... plus they stay in there FOREVER playing with toys

We're not too worried usually about him seeing us naked. In fact, dh and ds usually sit around in the evenings completely naked. I guess they just feel comfortable. I like to be clothed, but if ds happens to walk in while I'm getting out of the shower I just ask him for some privacy.

[spinnymarie]

IMHO, if the dck is talking about it like it's normal, then it is normal for them. If the dck was nervous to talk about it, or had been told not to, or was doing something else unusual, then it would be a big issue. But you could probably take your cues from the child's behavior, as others have said, bc if SHE doesn't think it's a big deal, then it isn't.

[Kaddidle Care]

He'll stop when she grabs him or starts asking questions about "where's mine?".

[sharlan]

No, I don't believe it's a concern.