Terminating My Biter Family Today

[Blackcat31]

:confused: so are you suggesting my only choice is to close my daycare when my child bit? Is this in every state or just your own? What is a parent to do when their child is labeled a biter and can't get childcare because of this? Sounds like a permanent solution to a temporary problem.

My sister's 3rd child was a biter.

Her older two went to a center and her youngest (the biter) had a nanny.

My sister figured it out. Her child didn't bit for ever.

Just between the ages of 8 months until around 18 months. I don't view her choice to find a solution to HER problem a permanent solution since she only had to use these arrangements for 10 months.

The biting IS temporary so parents need to figure out a temporary care solution that doesn't involve putting other kids at risk (group care) until it passes.

I feel for parents who have biters. I really do.

But I still can't risk other kids getting bit. They have a right to a safe environment.

So does the biter and to be in a situation where the opportunity to bite is everywhere is unsafe.

[Starburst]

:confused: so are you suggesting my only choice is to close my daycare when my child bit? Is this in every state or just your own? What is a parent to do when their child is labeled a biter and can't get childcare because of this? Sounds like a permanent solution to a temporary problem.

Well my college almost had something similar to that that happen (in CA). Licensing got so many reports about it that they almost wrote up the daycare center for 'lack of supervision'. BUT, the licensing rep and the parents both observed the child and he bit someone under their close watch so they didn't get written up for lack of supervision; but the licensing rep said that because he is a danger to the other children he needed to be terminated. The director actually didn't want that to happen because she wanted to help him work on it but it was no longer her choice to make.

As for the if a labeled biter can't get into daycare thing; it's been mentioned here before that semi-public daycare blacklists are (usually) illegal because 1) it can be considered slander on the family or child; 2) confidentiality rights. Most parent's would not tell a new provider why their last daycare didn't work in this situation and would most likely not list that daycare for a reference (may even lie and say 'Junior has never been to daycare').

[Laurel]

I have a child who started at 18 mo. and was a biter. He is 2 now and doesn't bite anymore, so there can be an end (usually).

I'm not saying op shouldn't term, just showing another success story.

Well I don't know any adults that are still biters so I suppose it can be outgrown.

[melilley]

Well I don't know any adults that are still biters so I suppose it can be outgrown.

:: You never know!

[countrymom]

I think its time to term when the parents become non compliant and really don't want to do anything about it. I really believe that if they bite at daycare they bite at home. And usually its a game the little people play with their parents. We've all played it with our kids, some kids just go further with it.

[Play Care]

Well I don't know any adults that are still biters so I suppose it can be outgrown.

I bite::::

[cheerfuldom]

My own child was the biter and in that case, I had to downsize the daycare to where I can guarantee the biter be closely supervised at all times. She bit a daycare child in the face and I was so sorry about that and the parents stayed with me but you can bet that I was all over that situation. I guaranteed it would not happen again and it did not. I did what I had to do to deal with my own troublesome 2nd daughter. If it is your own child causing the issues at your daycare, you have a responsibility to deal with it appropriately and yes, that may include downsizing or even closing your daycare. If you can't keep the kids safe, you need to find a different job. If you must keep the daycare open, then you have to figure out a way to provide your biter with adequate supervision. maybe even growing the daycare so you can hire an assistant.

[renodeb]

You are absolutely doing the right thing. The times that I have termed a family they got weird on me and it just cemented the reason why I was terming to begin with. I take biting very seriously no matter the reason and I have termed children for biting. Its never easy but you have to think of what's best for the group. You don't want to loose a child over the issue. You will be glad you did it. Good luck and stick to your guns!
Debbie

[sharlan]

My eldest granddaughter was a horrible biter. She would take little chunks of skin. My "adopted granddaughter" has the scars to prove it 17 years later.

I couldn't term her, just do everything I could to protect the other child. I did lose one family because their son got bit twice and their ped told them that their child could end up with some horrible disease from being bit. They ran him to the dr both times. Skin wasn't broken either time but the ped put him on antibiotics to prevent infection. I wasn't unhappy to see the family go.

Today, if she was a daycare child, I would term her because of the liability.

[Laurel]

I bite::::

Which one of these is you? or

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[Jack Sprat]

What about hitting? I have a hitter and a toy thrower on my hands.

[MarinaVanessa]

how did it go.

I'm wondering how it went also ???