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  • MN Mom
    Daycare.com Member
    • Mar 2010
    • 399

    #16
    When I was a kid in daycare, providers must have been allowed to spank. My favorite dcm (I still see her from time to time) wouldn't hesitate to spank my bottom for certain things. 1)going across the street without her permission 2) talking back to her 3)fighting with my siblings 4)being disrespectful of her home and toys (throwing, stealing, breaking etc)

    She was a loving but firm provider, and as an adult I thank her for filling my mom and dad's roll while they worked late hours. I would often be there for breakfast, lunch AND supper..and watch night-time sitcoms with them as a family. I LOVED her so much, it truly was a second home to me.

    I was spanked as a child, and I have spanked my own kids. Though, they are getting older now and it is not as necessary as it used to be. Now I can take things away like the iPod or the Computer, or TV etc etc and that is just as effective. BUT they are old enough to have stuff like that bother them MORE than getting spanked.

    I don't normally brag, but I get compliments ALL the time on how well behaved they are in church, at the store, at friends and family's houses. They are even really good at home MOST of the time (there are days though, ).

    I know spanking isn't the only form of discipline, nor is it necessary for all children. There are, however, quite a few children who should have been spanked as a form of discipline. I firmly believe, that the increase in medicating of our children for ADD, ADHD, and ODD et all is in direct correlation with spanking being frowned upon as a form of discipline. My philosophy: If you spare the rod, you spoil the child. I also believe it takes a village to raise a child. /shrug Disagree with me, agree with me -- It's how I was raised, and am thankful for it.

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    • BentleysBands
      *DAYCARE PROVIDER*
      • Oct 2010
      • 448

      #17
      Originally posted by MN Mom
      When I was a kid in daycare, providers must have been allowed to spank. My favorite dcm (I still see her from time to time) wouldn't hesitate to spank my bottom for certain things. 1)going across the street without her permission 2) talking back to her 3)fighting with my siblings 4)being disrespectful of her home and toys (throwing, stealing, breaking etc)

      She was a loving but firm provider, and as an adult I thank her for filling my mom and dad's roll while they worked late hours. I would often be there for breakfast, lunch AND supper..and watch night-time sit-coms with them as a family. I LOVED her so much, it truely was a second home to me.

      I was spanked as a child, and I have spanked my own kids. Though, they are getting older now and it is not as necessary as it used to be. Now I can take things away like the iPod or the Computer, or TV etc etc and that is just as effective. BUT they are old enough to have stuff like that bother them MORE than getting spanked.

      I don't normally brag, but I get compliments ALL the time on how well behaved they are in chruch, at the store, at friends and family's houses. They are even really good at home MOST of the time (there are days though, ).

      I know spanking isn't the only form of discipline, nor is it necessary for all children. There are, however, quite a few children who should have been spanked as a form of dicipline. I firmly believe, that the increase in medicating of our children for ADD, ADHD, and ODD et all is in direct corrilation with spanking being frowned upon as a form of discipline. Spare the rod, spoil the child is my philosopy. I also believe it takes a village to raise a child. /shrug Disagree with me, agree with me -- It's how I was raised, and am thankful for it.
      nicely written and i totally agree

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      • MommyMuffin
        Daycare.com Member
        • Jun 2010
        • 860

        #18
        I really do not understands spanking. For all of those who spank, were spanked and believe in spanking I understand "you are a good person and it didn't damage your kids" etc But what I really don't understand is what can a 10 month old possibly do to warrant a spanking? That comment just made me really sad

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        • MN Mom
          Daycare.com Member
          • Mar 2010
          • 399

          #19
          Originally posted by MommyMuffin
          I really do not understands spanking. For all of those who spank, were spanked and believe in spanking I understand "you are a good person and it didn't damage your kids" etc But what I really don't understand is what can a 10 month old possibly do to warrant a spanking? That comment just made me really sad
          While I never spanked my kids at under a year, I currently have an 11month old day care boy who punches, bites, kicks my 4 year old boy, me, and his mother when he doesn't get his way. Now I can tell this boy no no, firmly and he will start to cry / tantrum. His mother may or may not swat him, but no seems to be effective enough for now. I can only imagine what it would be like if he was 2, and trying to discipline with all the restrictions put in place.

          Think of it this way. 2 year old Sally touches something hot, it hurts and she cries. She will probably think twice before touching something hot again, and she now understands what hot is. You can use the same scenario with spanking. Sally pulls little Suzie's hair, but in return she gets a quick swat on the rear end. It hurts, she cries, and she will probably think twice about pulling Suzie's hair again. It's all about consequences for bad behavior. Some kids need MORE than just a nice "No no, and Time out". Some kids don't.

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          • mac60
            Advanced Daycare.com Member
            • May 2008
            • 1610

            #20
            Originally posted by MommyMuffin
            I really do not understands spanking. For all of those who spank, were spanked and believe in spanking I understand "you are a good person and it didn't damage your kids" etc But what I really don't understand is what can a 10 month old possibly do to warrant a spanking? That comment just made me really sad
            A 10 month old can do nothing to warrant a spanking. I would never consider that. I only believe in spanking as a form of discipline on a child that was old enough to understand that bad behavior warrants a consequence. It all goes back to that using good judgement when discipline is needed.

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            • MN Mom
              Daycare.com Member
              • Mar 2010
              • 399

              #21
              Originally posted by mac60
              A 10 month old can do nothing to warrant a spanking. I would never consider that. I only believe in spanking as a form of discipline on a child that was old enough to understand that bad behavior warrants a consequence. It all goes back to that using good judgement when discipline is needed.
              I agree! Well said Mac.

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              • Crystal
                Advanced Daycare.com Member
                • Dec 2009
                • 4002

                #22
                deleted as per mac60's request
                Last edited by Crystal; 10-29-2010, 07:03 AM.

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                • Crystal
                  Advanced Daycare.com Member
                  • Dec 2009
                  • 4002

                  #23
                  Sometimes children's behavior in daycare is in response to the environment OR to the overbearing provider themselves.....maybe for once the providers who believe they should be able to spank their DCK oughtta look at it from the child's perspective.

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                  • mac60
                    Advanced Daycare.com Member
                    • May 2008
                    • 1610

                    #24
                    deleted as per mac60's request
                    Last edited by Crystal; 10-29-2010, 07:04 AM.

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                    • Crystal
                      Advanced Daycare.com Member
                      • Dec 2009
                      • 4002

                      #25
                      BTW, for those that spank their OWN children, I believe that is a personal choice and I do not condemn you for spanking your OWN children. While I may not choose that form of discipline, I believe it is a parents right to parent how they see fit, within reason of course.

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                      • Crystal
                        Advanced Daycare.com Member
                        • Dec 2009
                        • 4002

                        #26
                        Originally posted by mac60
                        WOW, so you say, you have "known" me for over 5 years. REALLY? You know nothing about me, thank GOD. You would never be my choice in a friend, I don't care for know it alls. I used to go to your forum, but haven't posted there for a long time, not after I was sent copies of messages you and your other buddies over there posted about me and Nora that were cruel and demeaning because we didn't agree with you and your ways. I am not the only one over there that you choose to degrade behind our backs. Anyone who doesn't agree with you is naturally wrong and bad. Whatever. For the record, you haven't known me for 5 years, I have no idea where you got that. You can put any words down about me that you want, but they are nothing but bull**** words, since you don't know me, my families, or anything else.
                        hmmm...well I said I have know you ONLINE for 5 years, of course I don't really know you.

                        And, I'll have to go back and read my pm's there (I have every pm I have ever recieved) and I don't remembr what your talking about. and BTW, noone there has ever said anything bad about you.

                        SORRY FOR GOING OFF TOPIC EVERYONE!!!!!!!!!!!

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                        • MN Mom
                          Daycare.com Member
                          • Mar 2010
                          • 399

                          #27
                          Wow Crystal...most of the time I agree with you. However you seem to have this extreme hatred for Mac. Get off his/her back. You are a moderator for Pete's sake. Act like one. Be an example of tolerance for all opinions and just respectfully disagree...not act like the witch you are currently. (OH flame me, boot me, I don't really care. You have a tendency to act like a witch to certain members because their philosophy is not the "right way" in your all mighty opinion).

                          I cannot speak for Mac, but I can speak for myself. No, not all children should be spanked. It is not the only form of discipline that is effective..but it IS effective for some. I am thankful that my dcmom was allowed under regulations to spank me and my siblings when we were being hellions. Of course, she had permission from my mother to do so. If she had done so without permission, there would have been hell to pay.

                          I would NEVER consider spanking another persons child...EVER. Even when I've had permission to spank my niece when she was naughty, I have not and could not. It's the parents job to do so. We do live in a different society than 25 years ago. We do need to adapt and there ARE alternate methods to punish bad behavior. I just think its OK for some people (like me) to still use spanking as a form of discipline. I don't think it's evil, or wrong. Just different.

                          I can respect and understand your opinion too, although it's extremely hard to do with all the vitriol you bring to the forums some days.

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                          • mac60
                            Advanced Daycare.com Member
                            • May 2008
                            • 1610

                            #28
                            Originally posted by Crystal
                            hmmm...well I said I have know you ONLINE for 5 years, of course I don't really know you.

                            And, I'll have to go back and read my pm's there (I have every pm I have ever recieved) and I don't remembr what your talking about. and BTW, noone there has ever said anything bad about you.

                            SORRY FOR GOING OFF TOPIC EVERYONE!!!!!!!!!!!
                            From my understanding it was in a pm, but in the private administrator msg area. And yes, you and Andswoman (spelling), came from Leslie, maybe that will refresh your memory. Haven't been back since I was forwarded the information.

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                            • Crystal
                              Advanced Daycare.com Member
                              • Dec 2009
                              • 4002

                              #29
                              Originally posted by mac60
                              From my understanding it was in a pm, but in the private administrator msg area. And yes, you and Andswoman (spelling), came from Leslie, maybe that will refresh your memory. Haven't been back since I was forwarded the information.
                              hahaha, okay, from Leslie. That makes sense.

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                              • MyAngels
                                Member
                                • Aug 2010
                                • 4217

                                #30
                                deleted as per mac60's request
                                Last edited by Crystal; 10-29-2010, 07:04 AM.

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