Children Are So Coddled These Days!

[Maria2013]

what can we do as providers, to shift the focus back to helping children learn compassion, thoughtfulness, self-help skills, appreciation, etc.? In other words, to be a decent human being that people will want to be friends with??

personally I don't really care what they think the proper way to talk to kids is, I still direct my kids to good manners, kindness and and compassion, I know they will lose most of it when they start school but I like to believe that they will retain at least a spark of decency because of my guidance

[Heidi]

The argument has become totally for academics. Somewhere, somehow, someone decided that the problem is that our (American) children don't score well enough on the PISA (see my other post). Apparently, this is the most important way to show our value as a nation? How many academics we can shove down their throats?

I'm not saying education isn't important. But, there are many types of education, and social skills are high in ranking in my book. Actually, they are the foundation for so much more.

We have hungry children. THAT we should be embarrassed about. We have children who live in neighborhoods that are infested with gangs, or in rural areas where a picture book is a luxury. THAT we should be embarrassed about. We lead the world in crappy "reality" T.V. shows where fake, overindulged, idiotic people get attention and money for their stupidity while other people can't feed their kids, THAT we should be embarrassed about. The high-school drop out rate is still 25% (and that's an improvement), THAT we should be embarrassed about. Deal with those things, and I bet our PISA "scores" improve.

[Maria2013]

We have hungry children. THAT we should be embarrassed about. We have children who live in neighborhoods that are infested with gangs, or in rural areas where a picture book is a luxury. THAT we should be embarrassed about. We lead the world in crappy "reality" T.V. shows where fake, overindulged, idiotic people get attention and money for their stupidity while other people can't feed their kids, THAT we should be embarrassed about. The high-school drop out rate is still 25% (and that's an improvement), THAT we should be embarrassed about. Deal with those things, and I bet our PISA "scores" improve.

couldn't have said it better

[originalkat]

While I was growing up an adult would respond by saying... "I'll give you something to cry about or I'll give you some more reasons not to like my house" Lol

Now days the so called appropriate response is "So and so. I'm sorry I had to ask you to clean up but That is not nice and hurts my feelings but yay you are using big boy words to express how you feel" ::

YEP!! Im all for the old school way!

[Jack Sprat]

I find it hilarious that tons of today's kids have dvd players in the car for their 10 minute drive to daycare It's like- you really can't interact with your child for just a few minutes out of the day?!

This drives me INSANE! Our kids don't have anything but book and crayons in the car for 5 hour trips. And shockingly they survive and are happy.

[TwinKristi]

This drives me INSANE! Our kids don't have anything but book and crayons in the car for 5 hour trips. And shockingly they survive and are happy.

A friend of mine has a 4 and 2yr old and can't drive more than an hour without stopping and letting them play at a park or something. They scream and cry until they do. They cry because they know if they cry long enough they will stop so they've set this pattern up themselves. I can't imagine! LOL I find that funny because I drove 9hrs with 6 kids ranging from 16 to 14 mos making only 2 stops both for gas! We got out to use the bathroom, change diaper and get lunch while we were at it to cut down on stops.

[Unregistered]

I was this teacher, only I was teaching highschoolers. I was young, right out of college. I was reprimanded by administrators for assigning homework and having unreasonable expectations.

So there I was, trying to teach high school literature, but couldn't assign any at home reading. We had to read EVERYTHING in class. I was constantly in trouble for being too harsh with grading, giving too many failing grades, even when I'd read the entire test to the class the day before as "review day" and allow them to bring in a sheet of notes. Got to the point I'd let them turn in a sheet of notes for bonus points on the test. My students still wouldn't study or prepare notes. They just sat in class and failed.

This was 20 years ago. I can't imagine what it's like today at that school.

I struggled through two miserable years. Then I became a stay-at-home mom. And homeschooled my kids.

That is nuts. I have a high school freshman, who has hours of homework per night. I literally mean hours. 75 algebra problems, memorize where all the continent's are. Read the Homers and annotate 4 chapters. Most of the classes are pre A P, and all the kids in those classes are up until 11 doing homework. We definitely don`t. live in your school district.

[Unregistered]

You will soon see infant gamers. I'm not kidding. We won't recognize it or confuse it with a constantly crying baby who wants hold me, walk me, rock me.... but it will come soon.

I was watching a hoarders episode and at the end of the show the hoarders daughter brings her infant to see grandpa and the clean house. She brought a pack n play for the baby and put the baby in it with a smart phone.

The infant was about nine months old.

As soon as they can tap screen they are going to be on screen.

No lie. Check this out and I don't doubt people would get it for their babies!!!

http://abcnews.go.com/Lifestyle/ipad-baby-seat-bad-parenting-sign-times/story?id=21111252

[BABYLUVER2]

The argument has become totally for academics. Somewhere, somehow, someone decided that the problem is that our (American) children don't score well enough on the PISA (see my other post). Apparently, this is the most important way to show our value as a nation? How many academics we can shove down their throats?

I'm not saying education isn't important. But, there are many types of education, and social skills are high in ranking in my book. Actually, they are the foundation for so much more.

We have hungry children. THAT we should be embarrassed about. We have children who live in neighborhoods that are infested with gangs, or in rural areas where a picture book is a luxury. THAT we should be embarrassed about. We lead the world in crappy "reality" T.V. shows where fake, overindulged, idiotic people get attention and money for their stupidity while other people can't feed their kids, THAT we should be embarrassed about. The high-school drop out rate is still 25% (and that's an improvement), THAT we should be embarrassed about. Deal with those things, and I bet our PISA "scores" improve.

OMG THIS IS EXACTLY RIGHT! I have always thought people think they're entitled to EVERYTHING all the time when they want and have no regard to anyone else....but I forgot to ever address the truth you have totally written out so eloquently above!!!!


SO TRUE and thank you for saying what I didn't!

[BABYLUVER2]

This drives me INSANE! Our kids don't have anything but book and crayons in the car for 5 hour trips. And shockingly they survive and are happy.

I'll admit I thought the 2 DVD players in the new car I just got was weird! I paid so little for it, it was just a benefit. The kids have watched it once and it was on a 45min trip to gma/gpa when they were sick, as a treat.