Children Are So Coddled These Days!

[Angelsj]

In every chdv class that I took, we had to talk to the kids like that. I get it to a point, but sometimes it's just too much and the kids don't pay attention after you go on and on...

You also aren't supposed to tell them how they are feeling, that you like the bear that they drew, instead, you see that they used the color brown, aren't supposed to say "good job" etc....

I had one cdev teacher tell me, "If your voice isn't tired at the end of the day, you aren't engaging them enough." Seriously?
Sorry, sister. No. I tell them, "Go play with your friends, or the toys." No wonder we have an entire generation that feels they need someone entertaining them all the time.

[Annalee]

No wonder we have an entire generation that feels they need someone entertaining them all the time.

You hit the nail on the head with this statement!

[melilley]

You hit the nail on the head with this statement!

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

Parents will do WHATEVER it takes so their child doesn't cry.

I believe that is the root of all this kind of behavior.

That and they want their children to like them.

Exactly. I once corrected a child who was attempting to be destructive to my property. He began crying and the Dad picked him up, looked horrified, and said, "It's okay. We will go home and make it better." Whaaa?

[nannyde]

Part of the reason why I think my dcb hates it here. He is a four year old gamer....

You will soon see infant gamers. I'm not kidding. We won't recognize it or confuse it with a constantly crying baby who wants hold me, walk me, rock me.... but it will come soon.

I was watching a hoarders episode and at the end of the show the hoarders daughter brings her infant to see grandpa and the clean house. She brought a pack n play for the baby and put the baby in it with a smart phone.

The infant was about nine months old.

As soon as they can tap screen they are going to be on screen.

[Annalee]

You will soon see infant gamers. I'm not kidding. We won't recognize it or confuse it with a constantly crying baby who wants hold me, walk me, rock me.... but it will come soon.

I was watching a hoarders episode and at the end of the show the hoarders daughter brings her infant to see grandpa and the clean house. She brought a pack n play for the baby and put the baby in it with a smart phone.

The infant was about nine months old.

As soon as they can tap screen they are going to be on screen.

I totally agree! Not only will it be with smartphones, ipods, ipads, ds, xbox, it will be when the common core curriculum keeps trickling down to infants....it has already moved down to 4 yr olds....just a matter of time. SAD FUTURE AHEAD!!!!

[Maria2013]

When I worked at a center, we were going through the process of getting NECPA accredited. We were not allowed to have the kids say please and thank you when they were eating. Their reasoning was that you did family style dining and that's not what families do (something along those lines)?! I thought it was so odd.

That is the first thing I noticed when my very well mannered oldest son started school. within a few weeks I had to remind him to say please and thank you because no one in school did...granted those are just words, but words are a direct line to feelings and to me a child that say please and thank you is automatically more aware of others and their feelings

[countrymom]

but its not only us anymore, its teachers who play this game too. Last year ds (he's 11 now) had this man teacher. If you didn't do your homework, then that was fine. If you forgot something, then it was fine. This teacher never ever yelled (my 13 yr old dd had him too) she once said that he wants to be everyones friend (he tells them at the beginning of the school year) thats why he doesn't yell and lets kids get away with crap

well this years teacher is awesome (both my girls had her) she don't put up with any crap. What a huge adjustment it is for some kids. Ds comes home and tells me how the same people don't get their work done, she doesn't take excuses and that she yells alot. I've now asked him if he calls her "mom" !!!! but I will say (and my girls) that they learned how to manage their time, get things done and be at your best behavior all the time.

[melilley]

You will soon see infant gamers. I'm not kidding. We won't recognize it or confuse it with a constantly crying baby who wants hold me, walk me, rock me.... but it will come soon.

I was watching a hoarders episode and at the end of the show the hoarders daughter brings her infant to see grandpa and the clean house. She brought a pack n play for the baby and put the baby in it with a smart phone.

The infant was about nine months old.

As soon as they can tap screen they are going to be on screen.

They have apps for infants! My sister showed me one that when you shake the phone it sounds like a rattle or if you tap an animal or something playful on the screen, the animal/object will do something in response. It's kind of cute, but I agree, infant gamers will be on the move!

[melilley]

well this years teacher is awesome (both my girls had her) she don't put up with any crap. What a huge adjustment it is for some kids. Ds comes home and tells me how the same people don't get their work done, she doesn't take excuses and that she yells alot. I've now asked him if he calls her "mom" !!!! but I will say (and my girls) that they learned how to manage their time, get things done and be at your best behavior all the time.

This reminds me of my Jr. High band teacher. She was so strict and kids were nervous to be around her, but she was greatly respected! I remember her to this day, but do not remember a lot of my other old teachers.

[melilley]

That is the first thing I noticed when my very well mannered oldest son started school. within a few weeks I had to remind him to say please and thank you because no one in school did...granted those are just words, but words are a direct line to feelings and to me a child that say please and thank you is automatically more aware of others and their feelings

I agree. Believe me, when they told us to not make them say that, there was an uproar and everyone was upset.

[My3cents]

Parents will do WHATEVER it takes so their child doesn't cry.

I believe that is the root of all this kind of behavior.

That and they want their children to like them.

I agree with this too, but....Who doesn't want their children to like them? If you don't do as a parent it will be done in school or elsewhere for some of the things mentioned, or your child will gravitate towards those that do do, and that is not always the best either. I go to my old stand by and say there needs to be balance. You take a bus from one city to another and they play dvd movies??? Society has pushed us towards immediate gratification. You go to the grocery store and people get mad if they have three people ahead of them and have to wait their turn

I don't have the answers but feel the same way-

[JoseyJo]

U g g! Believe me, when these regulations come to home daycare in my state I will no longer be a daycare provider! Can't have children say please and thank you, can't say no, etc etc. Not doing it!

[dingledine]

Yep, I feel your pain. I have a 4.5 yo girl that is dressed by her parents BEFORE getting her out of bed...sigh. She can do it; she just puts up so much fuss for them that they don't bother. Sad.

Crazy. My 4.5 dresses herself. Not only that, she has taken to laying her wardrobe out the night before. I actually think this is great, as when she starts K next year, there will be no issues.

[Blackcat31]

What do babies, toddlers... pre talking kids do that the parent believes is an affirmation that their child likes them?

They don't cry.

I don't see the child liking the parent thing. I'm always curious when I hear this.

I see it, almost every.single.day.

It's the number one answer I get from my parents word for word when I ask why they are so permissive or "afraid" to be the bad guy.