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I had posted to this old thread,becuase it was a new topic for me,and interesting to see what others thought. Since posting that, I wanted to share what it says in my handbook now:
"Here, we do not discriminate against the breastfeeding child. This means breast milk is welcome, and any mother desiring to openly nurse her child in my home is welcome. This includes myself, who will nurse my youngest as long as he desires. If any one has a problem with this, my home is not the right place for you. "
I used the word "we" because my husband & kids feel the same as I do.Comment
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I have had many moms that breastfed, but they all (but 1) brought the breastmilk in bags for me to bottle feed. One mom wanted to bf feed her almost 2 year old daughter. The first time was at pickup and I guess it caught me by surprise, so I allowed her to use my bedroom. It took a 1/2 hr and by the time she was done it was 6:00. I close at 5:30. The second time she came in and the dcg walked up to her and started whining and the mom said, oh I know what you want and she asked again if she could bf. It was 5:25. I told her sorry no, it's almost 5:30 and she actually had just had a snack with a sippy cup. Again she was almost 2 and they lived 10 minutes away. Had nothing to do with me believing or not in bfing.Comment
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Amen! If my day is done get outa my house! I want my family time. Every minute of it. I bf my son I couldn't my daughter because of medications I had to take, I fully support it, even extended bfing, wish I could have my lil girl. But this is a business and when I'm closed I'm closed, this ain't Walmart!~AmandaG~Comment
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I have no issues with a BF'ing mom who wants to pop in to nurse - during my business hours. However I agree with the posters who have said, closing time is closing time. Also, mom would be shown the glider that is kept in the corner of my class room just for that purpose. It's private enough and away from the "family" areas of my home. It's where I nursed my own kids during my working hours
I know this thread is very old (and no idea why so many old threads get bumped here?) but one of the things I do when parents show up right at my closing time is to have kids in their coats, shoes on and the child is pretty much handed out the door with a "have a great night!" I do this because I can't think of any business where I can show up right at closing and expect to be let in. If my local grocery store closes at 9:00, they won't even let me in if I were to show up right at 9:00. I send home a daily note letting the parents know everything about their child's day, so no need for long conversations at pick up when the kids start going off the wall.
Far from feeling as if I am pushing their kid out the door(althought quite honestly after working 10+ hour days I don't care much if they think that I am!), most parents express gratitiude that I make it easy. Just a thought.Comment
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yes my husband wears a shirt at all times in front of the daycare kids and families....even in front of his own daughters.
If a mom could discreetly nurse in front of the kids, I have no problem with that. but if she could not, I would require a cover. Its not about what I think....its about what the other families are comfortable with. I am not in business to educate on BFing dos and donts....I am here to provide daycare and if that means accommodating someone else that is more modest or private, then that is fine (as in accommodating a family that would prefer to not walk in on a nursing mom or have their kids get a front row seat to it). no one is saying she shouldnt feed her baby, just that there may be some guidelines to it such as covering, feeding in a certain area or within certain times.Comment
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The only problem I have ever had is the bfing dcm who comes at closing time and then wants to feed her child.Comment
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I think this would get the point across nicely! If I have plans I have kids ready to go and have met them in the front yard before! LolI have no issues with a BF'ing mom who wants to pop in to nurse - during my business hours. However I agree with the posters who have said, closing time is closing time. Also, mom would be shown the glider that is kept in the corner of my class room just for that purpose. It's private enough and away from the "family" areas of my home. It's where I nursed my own kids during my working hours
I know this thread is very old (and no idea why so many old threads get bumped here?) but one of the things I do when parents show up right at my closing time is to have kids in their coats, shoes on and the child is pretty much handed out the door with a "have a great night!" I do this because I can't think of any business where I can show up right at closing and expect to be let in. If my local grocery store closes at 9:00, they won't even let me in if I were to show up right at 9:00. I send home a daily note letting the parents know everything about their child's day, so no need for long conversations at pick up when the kids start going off the wall.
Far from feeling as if I am pushing their kid out the door(althought quite honestly after working 10+ hour days I don't care much if they think that I am!), most parents express gratitiude that I make it easy. Just a thought.~AmandaG~Comment
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Yes, I do ask for my husband and son to wear a shirt while they are up running around the house. They also have to wear shorts and not walk around in just their underwear.
1. I don't allow my daughters to run around shirtless/only wearing bras/etc.
2. I think it would be rude/disrespectful to let them even think of doing this when I would have parents here.Each day is a fresh start
Never look back on regrets
Live life to the fullest
We only get one shot at this!!
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Do they swim in a tshirt? If not, you are still saying that women's breasts are a sexual object and not men's. it is really amazing to see how many day cares I would NOT send my children to based on these responses. I don't think people need to stay after hours but breasts are meant for food, not s*x. It is only within the last hundred years or so that our society has twisted and warped this view.Comment
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They are meant for both. And therein lies the conundrum.Originally posted by Twinvillageiowa;29828[LISTComment
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grrrrrr!!!!! hate when I am in the middle of reading and realize a thread is over 2 years old!!! why do we bump these things???Comment
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OK I KNOW I am going to get blasted for this however before responding take a deep breath and understand this is just my opinion..........
I have 2 kids and didn't bf it just wasn't for me. I am all for the rights of woman to bf but I personally would feel uncomfortable for a Mother to be sitting in my home doing this. I don't want someone wandering into one of my personal rooms doing this so really their only option is on the couch in the middle of the playroom. Now that being said I have been put in this situation a few times with a prior Mom. She NEVER wanted to cover herself cause she liked making eye contact with her baby while this was going on. Which TOTALLY made me feel uncomfortable cause I felt like I needed to hold a conversation with this mother who's boob was just hanging out. Now obviously the other kids noticed and wanted to watch so not only and I freaking out and trying to keep myself composed but I am also trying to pry kids away from her and once a 2-3yr is focused it's impossible to get them to focus on something else! The 2nd time she did this in my home I had another Mother (who bf'ed) show up to pick up her child and was furious! Not that the mother was bf'ing but that she was doing it exposed to the kids, she didn't say anything at the time, her expression was worth enough. It was a disaster and all the med's in the world couldn't control my anxiety! After talking with the angry Mother later that night I decided to talk to the other parents that didn't know yet and they too were not happy. I too was not comfortable with the situation. Everyone said to have her cover-up, so the next day when I had a conversation with the bf'ing Mom she was furious that I told her she needed to cover up.............she told me about all the laws that protect her rights etc........... But the bottom line is this is MY house and in my personal house I am the law! I ended up letter her go cause in the end she refused to cover up, I couldn't pry the booby watchers away and I had 5 other families that were ready to walk!Comment
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So very nice you think that but our society and many others do not. If bfmeans you need to flash your private body parts (it is illegal to go topless if you're a female in the USA) then that's your problem. As I'm certain we'd probably decline to work with you I'm sure you could understand how much we could care less
if you'd want a slot in one of our programs.
~AmandaG~Comment
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