How Or If I Even Should Be Ticked

[lovemykidstoo]

Forgive me if this has already been brought up/addressed....

I get that some providers take families leaving personally but how come you are upset with the other provider?

She didn't really do anything...other than accept a family that is leaving you (leaving on their own accord). Unless she contacted them behind your back, I don't understand her part in this.

I get that you have referred families to her but I am still confused.

I am personally having an issue with this same thing....only I am the other provider. I have a family that left a provider I was friends with and started coming here. Now the other provider is mad at me and not speaking to me.

I really don't understand why because I didn't "steal" this client from her, they left for their own reasons.

I don't know if I'm really mad at her I guess. I guess I feel badly about it is all. I guess it wouldn't have mattered if she didn't take her, she probably would just find someone else that was closer to her job. It all is just ridiculous that this is over about a 2 or 3 mile thing. The referring to her though has been bugging me for quite awhile. I have referred a lot of people to her and not once has she done the same. So, really why should I do anything for her when it's not returned. I know, I know, that's not why you do something for someone but still.

I'm sorry that your friend isn't talking to you. I will continue to talk with this person, I'm not that upset about it.

[KidGrind]

It's not just this situation with this provider, it's the continued referrals I would give her over the past couple of years and never once have I gotten one in return.

I do things out of my good will & moral compass. I refer parents I interview to another provider. I refer them in order to give them options. Maybe I’m a right fit or maybe she is a better fit for them. If I didn’t receive one referral from her I would not be irritated or irked.

Parents and children move on. Yes, depending on the situation it may be disappointing. However, it’s part of the business. I am hoping you fill her spot soon.

[Blackcat31]

I don't know if I'm really mad at her I guess. I guess I feel badly about it is all. I guess it wouldn't have mattered if she didn't take her, she probably would just find someone else that was closer to her job. It all is just ridiculous that this is over about a 2 or 3 mile thing. The referring to her though has been bugging me for quite awhile. I have referred a lot of people to her and not once has she done the same. So, really why should I do anything for her when it's not returned. I know, I know, that's not why you do something for someone but still.

I'm sorry that your friend isn't talking to you. I will continue to talk with this person, I'm not that upset about it.

Got it. I think that one of my personal methods of self-protection is to make sure I understand that this IS business.

Why parents do what they do is on them. As long as I know that I don't allow things to be personal, they won't be. kwim?

I DO understand why you feel hurt and why you feel the way you do but I also know that families will ALWAYS do what works best for them and you should do the same.

I once had a family leave me (after 5 yrs of care) for a daycare that was 2 blocks closer to her work but on the other side of some TEMPORARY road construction. The DCM said the construction was making her late for work.

Funny thing is, she could have left earlier to drop off, she cold have simply waited it out because the road construction lasted only about 30 days.

She called me back AFTER the summer (long after the road construction was over with) and asked if I would consider taking her DD back. I said no.

Apparently, it was never the road construction. She was just one of those chronically late people. She also didn't like that her new daycare closed every time the public schools did so that left her having to have back up a lot more than she had to when she was a client here.

I do things out of my good will & moral compass. I refer parents I interview to another provider. I refer them in order to give them options. Maybe I’m a right fit or maybe she is a better fit for them. If I didn’t receive one referral from her I would not be irritated or irked.

Parents and children move on. Yes, depending on the situation it may be disappointing. However, it’s part of the business. I am hoping you fill her spot soon.

[Shell]

Another thing is she has been on my facebook for quite awhile, which is fine, but she's also on my daycare facebook page that I have to show pics, reminders etc. It's a closed group. How long before I should delete her from that and should I send her a message first?

I personally would delete her from your daycare page as soon as she is no longer a client, as the information, curriculum, etc. no longer apply to her family. As far as your personal account, I think it depends on whether or not you want to remain friends, or if you care about seeing updates on her kids. If you close that "door", she might take offense, so I would think about what the future of the relationship might be, and decide based on that

[lovemykidstoo]

I personally would delete her from your daycare page as soon as she is no longer a client, as the information, curriculum, etc. no longer apply to her family. As far as your personal account, I think it depends on whether or not you want to remain friends, or if you care about seeing updates on her kids. If you close that "door", she might take offense, so I would think about what the future of the relationship might be, and decide based on that

Thanks. I don't plan on deleting her from my personal page. I love the boys and want to continue to see how well their doing.

[Lorri]

I would be ticked. I had a mom dad that live 4 miles from me, then they moved 11 miles from me, first thing she said to me that this doesn't effect you, so they drove to my house then drove back to work which was 9 miles back the way they came.most people think about the convince for them and not the comfort of the child