Just Can't Warm Up To...

[EchoMom]

Thanks Heidi!

[christine19720]

The world is filled with wonderful, smart and caring people who were bottle fed, wore disposable diapers, were fed solids as early as 8 weeks old, weren't potty trained until they were 3, used any equipment that made their parents' lives easier like swings and playpens (yes, they called them pens). Oh and didn't read until first grade.

Wait, I think those were my 3 now grown children....

I just can't get over sometimes how each generation thinks they have the edge on the best parenting techniques yet everyone turns out just fine. Who really cares when a child potty trains as long as it isn't 10 years old?

Laurel

P.S. Whew, that felt good to get that out. I've been wanting to say that for a long time.

Once they are grown, it makes no difference...........Gasp!!!

[JoseyJo]

On a personal note, I wouldn't leave my child with a provider who had such contempt for parents who use child care. This whole thread made me sad.

I was thinking the same thing, but didn't want to say it. I hope that it is just coming off that way in writing and it is not truly that way in person.

I was a working mom and sent my children to daycare until they started school. I didn't start doing daycare until my youngest was in 5th grade. Working parents have A LOT on their shoulders! Truly they do. Not that being a SAH or WAH mom is easier, but is is something that we are blessed to be able to choose. Some people do not, or feel that they do not have the choice to SAH or WAH.

When I read this post I kept imagining what it would be like as a dcparent to read this post and learn that my child was going to a provider that thought like this

[Sugar Magnolia]

Nevermind. Thanks.

First off.....this thread was so hard to follow because you edited your posts down to nothing. Luckily someone quoted you or it would be unreadable. In the future, please don't do this as it is childish and super annoying. Now.....with that said......
I get what you are saying, you didn't think the child was a good fit and didn't like the parents AND THAT'S OK! Like crazydaycare said, I too have taken an instant dislike to parents at interviews. There is nothing wrong with that. I don't think you were overtly judgmental either, and I don't see "contempt" here either. My only critique is you seem to feel all kids should be potty trained by 2 and it's a tad unrealistic. But overall, I don't think you are out of line for saying it's not a good fit. In fact, bravo for not taking them on and recognizing you don't agree with their parenting style.

Please don't edit posts to nothing though. Life doesn't work that way and neither does the internet.

[blandino]

Because cutting my two years olds curls off meant the end of an "age" or time as a mother that I personally wasn't ready to let go off.

Because his long, fine, wispy baby hair meant my baby was not a baby anymore and because I knew that I wasn't going to have another one so I needed him to stay little just a little longer.....

I had already missed out on so many moments (I was a working outside the home then) that I couldn't bear to let that part of his babyhood go. I just couldn't.

Instead, I reveled in his baby-ness a little longer, inhaled his baby-scent deeply as his wild and crazy wisps (that were becoming scraggily and unmanageable) brushed across my face while snuggling with him ....just a little longer....

I can totally understand holding onto the baby curls. I should have specified and maybe added pictures :: I have some children whose hair literally looks like a rat's nest on the back of their heads and parents use very similar excuses. There is a line between wispy, wild, baby hair and something that looks absolutely ridiculous and unkept. And I am not exaggerating, when I say I had a child with a rat-tail 5 inches long before parents cut the "tail", and a child whose hair actually looked like a brillo pad in back by the time they cut it. Being sentimental I get, but I am talking some extreme cases.

[Unregistered]

Wow echo mom get off your high horse. The way this reads is you feel that you are better than everyone because your child was on the potty at 5 weeks and night time trained by 2 and your child never had a drop of formula. Really???? That doesn't make a you a better parent then anyone else. Some moms are physically not ale to breast feed due to surgery or medication or any other numerous reasons. Some children are physically not capable of being night time trained until they are between 3-5. Some children are not mature enough to potty train at 2. Some parents don't think it's a big deal for their kid to call a bottle a baba and (gasp) use a soppy cup. Some parents actually take the time to enjoy their kids being kids and don't sweat the small stuff. Being a toddler isn't a competition. It makes me so sad that parents like you can be so judgemental of other parents and kids.
Kids often do things at their own time. Yes parents can and should help their kids to meet milestones and move onto the next step- but really a lot of the time, no matter how hard a parent tries to get their kid to do something- the kid may just not be ready.
I would never place my kid with a daycare provider like you. I would want my provider to be understanding of different abilities and choices.
Life isn't always a race. My kid is almost 3 and almost 100% potty trained. And you know what, just because yours was trained by 2 he or she is no better. I'm sorry that you feel that way.