The I Don't Feel Good Game

[itlw8]

I tend to say do you need to go poop? That will make your tummy hurt. Go try and then come back and pick up.

Yes anxiety causes tummy aches in some children but before every pick up time or meal???? Yeah ...NO.... the child does not want to pick up and will feel better as soon as everyone else does it...

Meal time... bet at home when tummy hurts the child may leave the table then later gets a snack because they are hungry

[itlw8]

You are not. Speaking as the mom of a child who gets anxious and has "stomach aches" I handle it the same way I would if a child we faking to get out of an unpleasant task. We also work on talking things out when we don't feel comfortable or happy - but I stressed with her I don't want it to get to the point where she's not believed when she really is ill. Last year around this time DD got sent home several times from school with various complaints. She would then get home and want to play with the dck's, run around, etc. Clearly not ill So I instituted the "if you are too sick for school, you stay in your bed" We had an amazing turn around
It's not your fault the parent didn't want to parent - why did she let her child jump on the trampoline if she wasn't feeling well?

I learned that parenting lesson when I was 7 and it stuck with me. I was too sick to go to Sunday school... ok I got to stay home and sleep... it was so nice. Until they got back and I found out I was sick all day and in my room . Including lunch so I would not get my sisters sick. I had a full recovery by dinner time and NEVER pulled that one again.

[Angelsj]

Please be careful with how you react to this complaint. I know a few children who do get stomach aches at certain times. It is sometimes anxiety related. Maybe you could read some journal articles or talk to some kindergarten teachers and find out how it is supposed to be handled.

And what makes Kindergarten teachers the behavior experts? Especially for the preschool set?
Sorry, I won't rant here, but this statement made me laugh.

[clep]

I have had many children do this through the years....task avoidance. I just let them know that I'm so sorry they are feeling poorly and they can lay down for the day. I bring them to the table to eat but have them lay down the rest of the time. I am also sure to do some crafts and activities specifically geared to something specific they love. I allow them to experience the feeling of really missing out. One day of that has worked well with each child I have ever had do this.

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

I have them lay down on a cot.

[se7en]

The reason I suggested a kindergarten teacher was they are in a classroom and don't have a bed to send them to, to LAY down. Yes,they can send them to the nurse, but normally I believed they try to do something else.
May I just add, I feel it is not nice to quote a post, which someone wrote to help another person, and laugh at the suggestion. I thought we were all adults here. But whatever gets you through your day...

[slpender]

Just an update when child arrived this morning we were sitting down for breakfast child came in sat at 2 bites of food and said she was done. I said ok sit at the table until All your friends are done eating( every says at the table together until the entire group is done eating) she sits for about 2 minutes and then surprise surprise her stomach hurts. I told her I was sorry to hear that and I would set up a nice quite area for her to nap . I then sent her to her mat. While she was on her mat we had story time, did music and movement, rotated through our learning trays and did an art project. At about 10:45 I let her off her mat . I did not hear another complaint out of her the rest of the day she cleaned up no problem and ate lunch and snack no problem.


Thanks for all the advice

[SilverSabre25]

The reason I suggested a kindergarten teacher was they are in a classroom and don't have a bed to send them to, to LAY down. Yes,they can send them to the nurse, but normally I believed they try to do something else.
May I just add, I feel it is not nice to quote a post, which someone wrote to help another person, and laugh at the suggestion. I thought we were all adults here. But whatever gets you through your day...

I don't think anyone laughed at you :confused::confused::confused: People quote other people all the time. I'm also still not sure what the point of asking a kindy teacher is because I think we all DO have somewhere a child can go lay down since we care for younger kids and napping kids.

(And I think teachers handle it the same, "I'm sorry your stomach hurts, if you have to puke go to the bathroom or trashcan, but right now it's time to do spelling.")

[se7en]

And what makes Kindergarten teachers the behavior experts? Especially for the preschool set?
Sorry, I won't rant here, but this statement made me laugh.

Maybe I took this the wrong says.

[Angelsj]

Maybe I took this the wrong says.

No, my bad. I wasn't laughing at you, but at the idea that there is a "supposed to be handled." There are suggestions, but every child is different, and the idea that every situation like this will be resolved with the proper formula is entirely chuckle-worthy.

However, for the record, a K teacher DOES have the ability to "have a child lay down," but would not likely need to, as the behavior of a 3-4 year old is often very different from a 5 year old. By 5, the child is beginning to actually care what peers think of her, so you are WAY less likely to see it in a K environment than in a home daycare environment. The OP was asking the "experts" already.

[dingledine]

When mine say they are too "sick" to do something, I make them lay down, or if we go outside, only sit down. I would say... oh... that is such a bummer that you aren't feeling well, you will probably be too sick to do (something fun), you had better lay down now, let me set something up for you.

I'll check if a child has a fever, or feels warm sure... but if I know they are only saying that so they can go home.......... and so far... I know when.