Irate Parent

[Me!]

I have not heard of the amber necklaces so I'll have to google. Looks like you got a lot of info on that already anyway. I was curious as to the wearing of the breastmilk to warm it request. I about spit my pop across the room when I read that. What in the world did you say to her when she asked that. That is hilarious!

What I have learned from this forum...don't eat or drink while reading!

[daycaremum]

From the website of Amber Artisians:

'Amber teething jewelry is made for wearing not for chewing. Children should be supervised at all times when wearing jewelry, and it should be removed when child is sleeping or unattended! Not suitable for children under 36 month.

WHEN THE JEWELLERY IS NOT BEING WORN, IT MUST BE KEPT OUT OF REACH AND SIGHT OF CHILDREN.'

Well, there you have it. It's not up for debate. AND if it's not even recommended for children under 36 months (three years old), then what the heck is it for??

And, OMG, since when is it not okay for a baby to cry a little bit???? You are each entitled to your own opinion, but seriously, if a child cries for a few minutes and then self soothes and falls asleep, why would we impede that natural development by crippling them with comforting aids (paci) that they obviously don't need?? Jeepers.

[morgan24]

I have not heard of the amber necklaces so I'll have to google. Looks like you got a lot of info on that already anyway. I was curious as to the wearing of the breastmilk to warm it request. I about spit my pop across the room when I read that. What in the world did you say to her when she asked that. That is hilarious!

She thought if I put the bag in my bra it would warm it up to body temp. Just like if she was nursing and it would avoid overheating it. I told her no I would warm it in warm water like I always do.

[Leigh]

Well, there you have it. It's not up for debate. AND if it's not even recommended for children under 36 months (three years old), then what the heck is it for??

And, OMG, since when is it not okay for a baby to cry a little bit???? You are each entitled to your own opinion, but seriously, if a child cries for a few minutes and then self soothes and falls asleep, why would we impede that natural development by crippling them with comforting aids (paci) that they obviously don't need?? Jeepers.

Actually, I changed my opinion about pacifiers after getting a lecture from a pediatric nurse about the importance of them, and then around the same time going through safe sleep training and learning that babies that use pacifiers are less likely to die a SIDS death (my own refused pacifiers pretty much from birth).

[Sugar Magnolia]

Can someone please explain how a necklace helps with teething?
I've have a friend who's baby wears one......baby still had teething pain anyways.:confused: It seems to me to be kinda silly.

I allow no jewelry whatsoever.

[Maria2013]

while kids are in "my" care they are NOT allowed to wear anything around their neck ...mom doesn't like it she can go somewhere else

[MotherNature]

Well I've never heard of problems with one I know tons of people who use them. I am part of a lot of crunchy online communities and have never hread of problems there either. I just haven't run across it. They are made to break under pressure (like cat collars), they are made with a knot in between each "bead", the beads are too small to be choking hazards, and the necklaces are not supposed to be long enough for the child to get it into their mouth. When used correctly I just don't know what the danger is.

This. I don't buy into them at all, but they're really pretty. I had one for my son but he hated wearing it, so Isold it to a friend. I have a ton of friends who have them, from babies, to toddlers, to the parents that all wear them. I could totally understand how it would look like a bad idea though at naptime. Perhaps, putting it on the ankle if the mom is insistent? Though, I'd probablyjust leave it off if the baby was unsupervised at nap time. I responded before about the milk in the bra thing. Super weird. I am ridiculously boob & breastfeeding friendly, & that just strikes me as so over the top. I'd ask why...I'll warm it in a glass of water, but I'm not wearing your milk. I'll even wetnurse if you want me to, but I'm not wearing your milk in my bra. Most days I don't even wear a bra, as my 2.5 yr old still nurses often. I have parents that nurse here, and they've all seen me breastfeeding. Totally natural, & something I mention during interviews, ( put indelicately, I tell them....You and your spouse, grandma, etc..whomever drops off/picks up..will see me nursing. You will see my breast most likely, because toddlers & preschoolers practice gymnurstics. If that weirds you out, this is not the best place for you, because I still breastfeed, & this is my son's house first, and daycare second. ) but wearing milk? I might do it once, but not as a habitual thing.

[Play Care]

Meh. to each his own. I don't feel that they pose a risk and I don't have licensing breathing down my neck telling me how to do things.

This is falling into one of those categories I'm never going to touch again, such as extended rear-facing in car seats, and selective vaccination. Proven risk from foward facing too early, and yet so many of you scoff at the idea of extended rear facing. Proven risks associated with giving certain vaccines (have you EVER read the warnings that come with the shot? Scary stuff) and yet you all vax without a second thought. But take something with no proven risk, only supposed risk with 15 "but ifs" attached, and it's the horribilest thing in the world.

Whatever. If you don't feel comfortable with it, don't allow it. Simple as that.

It seems the OP is licensed and this is against her regs, therefore not a choice the provider can legally make.

[morgan24]

As a parent, my child wore an Amber teething necklace and it really seemed to help him. I've heard everything from they don't work at all to they work miracles. They are NOT to chew on and should not go in baby's mouth. This means that they are usually fitted in a way that can not stretch to baby's mouth.
As a provider, you really need to check the specific regulation. If there is none, talk to licensing. Honestly, Amber necklaces very well may have medical benefits but if not used properly, they are a hazard. As far as I know, the paci is fine so long as it's not attached to anything so maybe you could point out that she can have paci but not attached to the lovie blanket thingie as per state regulations. That way it's not your fault, it's above your head. I love the suggestion about doubling it around the ankle with mom's permission. Also, I may be out of line so please forgive me but I am also a breastfeeding, amber necklace using "type of mom" (not trying to be stereotypical but I share similar beliefs with this parent) and just wondering if Mom is aware that baby cries when laid down. I don't and won't care for infants, but know many like-minded moms including myself who would not at all be comfortable with baby crying, even if it's only for a few minutes, without being comforted. Again, not trying to be rude, just wanting to make sure you and mom are on the same level so it doesn't come back to bite you later. And I have definitely heard weirder things than Mom wanting you to wear breastmilk to warm it, but I wouldn't do it. That has got to be against regulations. Plus, there are easier, faster ways to do it.

I don't think you are being rude. I want dcm to understand by being licensed to me that means I will go by the states rules. I don't agree with some of the rules but I still go by them. She understood but thought that a parent should have the final say. I give the baby her pacifier at nap but not attached to the blanket. We did go over that when she signed up and she brought a sleep sack for nap time.

I took the teething necklace off because she could get her hand under it and twist it. It wasn't as much of a problem a couple of months ago but as she gets older she finds it more.

[SSWonders]

I don't allow hoods on inside clothing never mind a necklace. Anything that could potentially be a strangulation, suffocation or choking hazard is off limits. I know some parents think the hood thing is a little extreme, but better safe than sorry in my book.

[harperluu]

Well I've never heard of problems with one I know tons of people who use them. I am part of a lot of crunchy online communities and have never hread of problems there either. I just haven't run across it. They are made to break under pressure (like cat collars), they are made with a knot in between each "bead", the beads are too small to be choking hazards, and the necklaces are not supposed to be long enough for the child to get it into their mouth. When used correctly I just don't know what the danger is.

My concern is whether they are regulated for safety for use with children under a certain age. If they are indeed meant to break away under pressure and the beads don't fall off the necklace, then the entire strand would become a choking hazard if it breaks from the child's neck and lays in their crib unattended. The remedy of amber teething necklaces are not the issue, the safety of an unregulated infant product is the issue.

[lovemykidstoo]

This. I don't buy into them at all, but they're really pretty. I had one for my son but he hated wearing it, so Isold it to a friend. I have a ton of friends who have them, from babies, to toddlers, to the parents that all wear them. I could totally understand how it would look like a bad idea though at naptime. Perhaps, putting it on the ankle if the mom is insistent? Though, I'd probablyjust leave it off if the baby was unsupervised at nap time. I responded before about the milk in the bra thing. Super weird. I am ridiculously boob & breastfeeding friendly, & that just strikes me as so over the top. I'd ask why...I'll warm it in a glass of water, but I'm not wearing your milk. I'll even wetnurse if you want me to, but I'm not wearing your milk in my bra. Most days I don't even wear a bra, as my 2.5 yr old still nurses often. I have parents that nurse here, and they've all seen me breastfeeding. Totally natural, & something I mention during interviews, ( put indelicately, I tell them....You and your spouse, grandma, etc..whomever drops off/picks up..will see me nursing. You will see my breast most likely, because toddlers & preschoolers practice gymnurstics. If that weirds you out, this is not the best place for you, because I still breastfeed, & this is my son's house first, and daycare second. ) but wearing milk? I might do it once, but not as a habitual thing.

So, you have wetnursed your daycare children? I don't know what gymnurstics is, could you explain? Thanks!

[SilverSabre25]

I don't know what gymnurstics is, could you explain? Thanks!

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[craftymissbeth]

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So funny!

[countrymom]

well those teething necklaces are a joke, I'm sorry but your child is going to drool or slober with or without the necklace. I have a mom who makes her child wear it all day long, and he still drools. So I asked her if it makes a difference and she says that she has no idea because its hard to tell if he's drooling from teething, if he has a bit of a cold or he just drools. I had a child come with it, and I took it off.

also why would a child need to wear it for bed, I have to agree, with the others who say its a choking hazard, you never ever know what the child will do. so why take the risk.

oh btw, I survived 4 kids slobbering when they were teething and we all did fine.