Falling Asleep Independently

[Jack Sprat]

Just to answer your question....

at birth.

Is that the way everyone does it? No...but I truly believe that any child CAN fall asleep on their own from Day 1. In fact, it should be what their best at...2nd best should be eating and consequently, pooping.

An 11 month old here would get first a routine, then a "Ferber" method sleep training. If that didn't work really quick, it would absolutely be a good cuddle, a dark room, all the white noise I could come up with, and CIO. Stone cold, baby...

Yep!!! I have a 21 month old whose parents never rocked him to sleep. They fed, burped and laid him in his crib. He is by far the easiest kid I have and I always the first to fall asleep and the one who sleeps the longest. I kiss him tell him good night and that is it. I was amazed it was so easy with him.

[blandino]

How did it go ?

[Brooksie]

He did really well for his first nap. Took him about 15 minutes to fall asleep. I just kept going in and laying him down. Right now he's really fighting his afternon nap. He's been going on for 30 minutes now. I just keep going in, lying him down, saying ni-night and walk away. He's not happy with me right now. Oh well. Not giving in now.

[Brooksie]

All quiet on the western front

[Nellie]

Did you get the little boy who left my care last week?
He was only here for 2 months from 10 months till 12. One 30 min to 90(on a really good day). Even if he went down for an hour at 9, he would scream and refuse a second nap. I can only require children to lay for 30 mins. Then he would fallow me around the house crying a high scream bloody murder cry if he wasn't being held from 2 till dad came at 6. His cry would wake any sleeping child with doors shut. 2 months was way to long. 1/2 hour drive home and kid was in bed at 7 for the night till 7 am. Back with me at 7:30. Dad was very concerned about him taking a 90 min one day, he doesn't pay daycare for his kid to sleep ALL day. He wants his kid to sleep for him......

[Denise]

... Dad was very concerned about him taking a 90 min one day, he doesn't pay daycare for his kid to sleep ALL day. He wants his kid to sleep for him......

Ask Dad if he will skip his 15 min. breaks and 1/2 hour lunch each day so he can come play with his kid outside in the yard during nap times ... sheesh. Some parents just don't get it ... sheesh.

[Scout]

He did really well for his first nap. Took him about 15 minutes to fall asleep. I just kept going in and laying him down. Right now he's really fighting his afternon nap. He's been going on for 30 minutes now. I just keep going in, lying him down, saying ni-night and walk away. He's not happy with me right now. Oh well. Not giving in now.

happyfacegood girl! Glad it worked so far!!happyface

[daycare]

ok hold on to your seats....I rock my son a few times a week and he is 5 years old. I have always held him in my arms and rocked him to sleep since the day he was born, we also still co-sleep. BUT I have been home with him since the day he was born and have always practiced AP with him. I have never sent him to any childcare or anywhere else to be watched. Well except school, but they don't sleep there.

Sounds like parents are trying to practice AP, which for me, I don't think you can do if you plan to send your child to daycare.

Just read that you got the baby to sleep....

[Brooksie]

ok hold on to your seats....I rock my son a few times a week and he is 5 years old. I have always held him in my arms and rocked him to sleep since the day he was born, we also still co-sleep. BUT I have been home with him since the day he was born and have always practiced AP with him. I have never sent him to any childcare or anywhere else to be watched. Well except school, but they don't sleep there.

Sounds like parents are trying to practice AP, which for me, I don't think you can do if you plan to send your child to daycare.

Just read that you got the baby to sleep....

I actually found out that he has a crib. Dad dropped him off the first day and gave me a completely different run down then mom did. Looks like dad was more AP than mom. I'm still not sure if he sleeps in their beds, but mom says she lays him down and he falls asleep. Dad says he likes to fall asleep on his chest. Mom also says he takes a bottle before he sleeps and when I asked dad the correlation between his bottles and nap he said there isn't any, he gets a bottle whenever.... So I'm just doing what works here. And it'll be hard, but he's here full time and I have 5 kids I need to work with.

[Willow]

ok hold on to your seats....I rock my son a few times a week and he is 5 years old. I have always held him in my arms and rocked him to sleep since the day he was born, we also still co-sleep. BUT I have been home with him since the day he was born and have always practiced AP with him. I have never sent him to any childcare or anywhere else to be watched. Well except school, but they don't sleep there.

Sounds like parents are trying to practice AP, which for me, I don't think you can do if you plan to send your child to daycare.

Just read that you got the baby to sleep....

What OP is describing is an incredibly insecure, fractious and even fearful child.

True AP produces children the exact opposite.

I AP'd my children and although they loved snuggling, rocking and co-sleeping they also knew they were safe and loved enough to function independently. Thats the whole point of AP.....not to produce to children who panic at the mere inkling that they're not going to get their way.

[Willow]

I actually found out that he has a crib. Dad dropped him off the first day and gave me a completely different run down then mom did. Looks like dad was more AP than mom. I'm still not sure if he sleeps in their beds, but mom says she lays him down and he falls asleep. Dad says he likes to fall asleep on his chest. Mom also says he takes a bottle before he sleeps and when I asked dad the correlation between his bottles and nap he said there isn't any, he gets a bottle whenever.... So I'm just doing what works here. And it'll be hard, but he's here full time and I have 5 kids I need to work with.

The inconsistencies are the catalyst.

Stick to you guns girl, although it's tough you're giving him exactly what he needs for a change!

[Brooksie]

They dropped him off late today and he was asleep, of course he woke up when he got here so his morning nap was about 10 minutes. I'm trying to get him down now and he's just screaming. Won't let me rub his back or anything. I hate sleep training. Poor other kids trying to nap...